In like 4th or 5th grade I came up with what I would consider my ultimate living space... which at the time was a huge island all to myself.... It defied all laws... It had a section of designated for spring summer and fall. It had all sorts of animals that would live together peacefully including large carnivorous animals that normally wouldn't live peacefully... The ocean around it had dolphins and whales and all sorts of life right off the shore etc...

I was picked on a lot in elementary and middle school and I had 3 siblings that seemed to tag along with me everywhere. So at the time being alone was the best thing I could think of.... When I hit high school it changed a little bit but not much not until I had Mikes then it just changed so that it could incorporate Mikes... more recently Dillon and Sean were added and my close friends had islands of their own near by......The last time I visited was last month some time... And it was laden with reality... My island had only one season... I couldn't have sting rays in my ocean cause they could hurt me... I couldn't have my large cats... etc it was so depressing...

Perhaps it's strange, but I never did have an alternate reality I wanted to live in, ever. Does that make me an abnormal kid, or just a pathetic one?

were you happy with the world you lived in? I wasn't that is why I had/ have it... I am sure most people think I am crazy but I am wound tight most days and it is nice to have a retreat ^^

For the most part, yes there wasn't much I yearned for in my real world. Had a good group of friends growing up, plus there was plenty to do. We rode bikes, went swimming, rollerbladed around, basically kid fun.

I am much happier now then I was as a kid so I visit much less often but I started freaking out about the house and I needed a place where everything was sunshine and rainbows... lol so to speak... It allows my brain to not think about anything too strenuous..

We all have our way of dealing with stresses, I like to play the Wii and beat people at the games. Plus you get some kind of exercise because some of these games make you shake your ass and move all about. The Just Dance game is great for sweating, plus getting exercise.

The definition of reality varies person to person... what is "alternate" to one, may be "real" to another...

So very true, Blaze.

Like my version of my sister and I discussing the cake for the wedding and deciding on what it should be, is different then when my sister and mother talk about it. So I get in trouble when I get angry over the fact that my mom said Amy had no idea what I wanted for the cake. Bullsh!t, Rodd was sitting here when we discussed it and will back me up tomorrow when we have to discuss it again. So not happy about it.

Wow. Sounds like there's definitely some alternate realities going on there, queen!! Hope it gets worked out

It better, otherwise I am willing to find somewhere else to get the food and cake done, well at least the cake. I've been a pretty damn good sport about the whole food thing. Amy and I have discussed this a few times, plus she has written it down.

My mom lost it with me when I got upset and said that CostCo was sounding pretty damn good for the cake at this point. If time is such a pain for Amy, I'll eliminate one of the steps for her then. She shouldn't have offered to cater the damn wedding. To further fuel my anger, she has catered and mad wedding cakes for all of her friends that got married, but she can't quite seem to squeeze her own sister in...makes me feel fantastic.

Awwwww... Queen.... *hugs*
I don't blame you for feeling a bit "shut out", given the situation... sheeesh!!

If there was such a time constrant why hasn't she told me? I have a cell phone, she could text or call.

*nod* She's probably under some misguided notion that she doesn't want to let you down or something... but in reality, this is probably much worse...

I'm sorry, Queen. Really. It's no fun to deal with these things -at all, but particularly around a wedding!

The only way she'll let me down is by not coming through on what she promised.

that seems fair. But now we're back to different people and different perspectives... ;)

Thank god this is only happening once for me. No way would I make it through another round of suggestions from people. Ugh.

lol, one marriage is enough in my book too. (:

Mom called me back and said that she generalized what she and Amy were talking about concerning the cake. Seems Amy is unsure of the size. Pretty sure that I told her that it needed to serve 46 people. However, I apparently need to give her specific dimensions now. Wouldn't that be her area of expertise?

lol, one would think.

Originally Posted by Melody Xyelle

lol, one marriage is enough in my book too. (:

Ditto. Of course, I'm not sure I could ditch this one if I wanted to... :boogie:

Originally Posted by Queen_Andais

I apparently need to give her specific dimensions now. Wouldn't that be her area of expertise?

One would think that ... yeah... >.> Perhaps if you just remind her how many people it needs to feed, that would be enough? Or give her a general shape to work with? Ya know - the more I read about this, the more I think that perhaps helping you means a lot to her and it's paralyzing her ability to do what she normally does well for other people... when a creative type has a project that means a lot to them, sometimes starting it can be the biggest obstacle

Yeah I am down with the one wedding thing... Now if only we could figure out when ours will happen... I know better then depending on family... I particularly don't want my sister IN my wedding but my mom is insisting <.< why do parents like to control things that are special to you... >.> my sister is a little sh*t and we DO NOT get a long... Yeah she loves the boys and on occasion she will offer to help with them but it isn't about the boys.... It is about ME and DILLON and our love for each other... >.> Not to sound totally selfish but it is.... My oldest younger brother and I are closer then my sister and I will ever be... Unless she knocks off the total and blatant rude behavior and complete lack of human emotion.... And her lack of acceptance for human emotion...

I don't want my brother in law in our wedding. >.> He blew off when we got married because he decided that going to band practice was more important than his brother getting married. Why would I want that IN my wedding party? That's not something I'm paying for. He can come to the wedding, but he'll be a guest with the other people that I either care about or am forced to care about. *cough* Anyway, luckily I don't really have a mom that would get in my face about people being there or not. She respects her distances. My dad just wants to come to the wedding, which I'm a-okay with. He's going to have to take dance lessons with me though, because I don't want him to embarrass me during the father daughter dance. xD
I also refuse to have alcohol at my wedding, because some parts of my family don't get along with others, and the last thing I need is them getting a bit tipsy and starting stuff with each other. Brother in law giving speeches included in that part...

My family is so dysfunctional. xD I love them to pieces...but they won't be touching my wedding day with a 10 foot pole so long as I'm alive. Besides, after waiting for 10 years to HAVE a wedding, you better believe I'm going to be a bit of a bridezilla at least...my way or you're fired!

I personally don't want anyone in my family IN my wedding cause I don't have many people who will me on "my side" as my aunts are too full of themselves and my uncle is too sick... My dad's side of the family is SOOOO not coming... so we are going to be a bit on the skimpy side... ><

I figure since I know Scotts side is much smaller than mine, that's also where we'll have our friends to "even it out". Generally speaking we have the same friends so either side they sit on is good. I still need to figure out about how many are coming so I can choose a proper venue. I'm thinking less than 100 will be invited... hmm...

Mine will be a little be more then 50... Not all of them will come but that is how many are invited friends family and all!