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I tend to be more for long term relationships too. In high school I only had 2 boyfriends. One lasted 3 months before I realized that it wasn't going to work and the other was scott. >.> Almost 6 years with that kid now <33
I find that love finds you when you aren't looking for it. Once I decided that I wasn't going to be actively looking for a boyfriend one popped up for me that was completely perfect. <3 I dunno if it would work for everyone, but it seems to be how most of it goes XD |
Yes, Twinnie, take some time to enjoy yourself and meet new people! I used to constantly search and search and search to no avail because I'd meet someone I thought was great only to find out quite quickly they weren't and then I used to get hurt feelings and think I was going to spend the rest of my life alone and that's no way to be.
And Ms. Melody *snuggle*, I have learned in the past that good things happen when you're not looking, and I believe it, too!!! |
Like Money, Money comes when you don't expect it to XD >.> I want money. XD
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I totally agree that good things come when you're not looking.
Right before Chris and I started dating I had gone through a bad breakup (he dumped me - we still slept together for 6 month and then he got my friend pregnant) and I had decided that I was done with guys for a while - then Chris came along and tricked me into dating him XD |
[email protected] ex boyfriend situation >.< Jerk. But yay for Chris and his sneaky ways of getting you to date him (by being awesome I am guessing XD)
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Yeah - it was a crap situation - especially since we had been friends for almost 10 years before we dated - and then he did that to me. blah - I'm better off anyway
Chris tricked me kind of. I had told him I wasn't looking for a relationship right then - so he suggested an 'open' relationship where if I wanted to date someone else it was OK as long as he and the other person knew about it. I never did find someone else I wanted to date and so here we are 7 1/2 years later :lol: |
lol that's really cute though <3
And you are better off. |
Yeah - I like to tease him sometimes about how he tricked me into dating him.
I really am better off- I ran into the ex not too long ago and he married my old friend - they have 2 or 3 kids now and he's an alcoholic. Much much better off. :twisted: |
Sia, I'll say you're better off without that guy, what a tool! :x
That is funny how Christ got you to date him though, very charming. The question I have is, has he ever taken that statement back? And if not, you should screw with his mind! :lol: Maybe I'm the tool... |
Hahaha - he hasn't ever taken the statement back that I can remember- I did mess with him before about it.
He took it pretty well - said he would have to meet the guy before telling me no - I felt bad and told him I was making it all up to see what he would do. :twisted: |
LOL That's actually so cute, sia. I like hearing stories on how people first met/started out. I think that's why I like chick flicks so much, too. Cute stories.
The girl I was with the longest and I were friends for quite sometime before we got together and we always had a lot of fun, laughing and joking and stuff. We were just too young and each had our own issues at the time. Sometimes I miss being with her and other times I'm glad we aren't together anymore. Relationships are hard and I didn't realize back then just how much work needed to go into it or something. ...sorry for the ramble. LOL |
Twinnie, you are more than welcome to ramble!
I definitely still miss my ex fiance. We were together for 4 years, and I think that, had she not gone back to Nursing school, or had I been more stable emotionally, we might have worked out. But I needed to explore myself, and I know now that, had we stayed together, although I do think I would have been happy, I think that I would have always felt like i missed something. |
LOL Thank you, beautiful twin. Sometimes I feel like I go off on long tangents on stuff.
How long have you and she been separated for now? Maybe you just need time apart? I have been talking to my ex-girlfriend and I admit that sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we tried again and other times I think to myself "No way, Jose!" |
Well, she left me in April of 2006. We stopped talking around October because I wasn't able to control my emotions knowing she had a new girlfriend, that I think she's still with. She and I IM'd a couple of times in early December because she wanted me to know she'd heard about my brother and wanted to let me and the family know she was thinking of us. But we haven't spoken since.
I'd love to think that time apart was all that was needed, but she'd have to contact me about it, you know? I just couldn't handle talking to her. |
An alcoholic with kids? That is messed up in so many ways. >.<
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Mel, it really is too bad. The kids are going to grow up in such a tough situation., I really feel for them. :?
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Well - his father drinks too much as well - it runs in his family. It's one of the only things the 2 of us would fight about - I wouldn't let him drink and drive, I wouldn't let him bring alcahol into my car, and when he came over trashed I would send him back home (he lived on the same block - so he was walking).
He was the oldest of 10 kids and they were all home schooled in a super conservative religious family - it was kind of crazy when he went and got the girl pregnant. She knew what she was getting into though - she lied about being on birth control because she knew if she got pregnant he would stay with her. I don't know how bad he is with the drinking - hopefully it's gotten better - but I don't talk to them to keep up and keep track. I mostly feel he and she got what they deserve - but I do feel bad for the kids stuck in the middle of all this. |
Unfortunately children are often the victims of their parents mistakes and caught in the middle with things fall apart. My cousin liked her Meth a bit too much and she lost her kids to CPS, but thankfully she has cleaned up and been clean for over a year, she got the kids back a couple of months ago, not sure Foster care was much better for them to be truthful. Makes me want to become a foster parent when I am a little more financial stable. It seems like the right thing to do.
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Queen, it is the kids that get the raw end of their parents being unfit to reproduce. And you never hear about the unfit people being infertile--NO, they pop out babies like nobody's business. But a couple that is stable and happy and wants kids can't. Nor can they adopt in too many cases.
Sia, for the sake of the kids, I hope he's better, or gets better. I grew up in an alcoholic house and it was pretty miserable. Queen, I hope your cousin keeps clean for her kids--it cannot be easy. And I commend you for wanting to help out foster kids, I hear it takes a saint to do it. |
I really hope he's better, or at least seeking help as well.
I can't even imagine how difficult and strange it must be as a kid to find your parents passed out in various states of drunk around the house. :/ |
Twinnie... *snuggles* I know how hard that can be. My ex-girlfriend has been married for almost 4 years and just now considering the possibility that she made a mistake and is really still in love with me. It's very confusing and I have given it a lot of thought, but I just don't know what to think or do about that right now. She and I hadn't spoken in almost 4 years, but she contacted me last March, and well, it just felt odd at the time. Not odd in a bad way, but almost like a huge relief and that I knew somehow things would turn out positively from the entire thing. I still have a lot of major concerns, but I am a true believer in "all things happen for a reason." I guess I'm still trying to figure out this reason, you know?
When my parents split, my mom drank quite a bit, but she wouldn't let us see any of it, but I knew. My dad would throw it in her face and bash her to us about it all the time. It was very hard on her. She had to deal with a lot of things at once, a failed marriage, having two young kids, and realizing that she is gay. I, myself, could not imagine it all happening at once, but she was strong and overcame. I never saw her drunk nor did she ever drink a lot in front of us. I give her credit for at least that. |
All this scary truth. O_O
*hides* I am still in the shell of Happy Ending for everyone. |
xuvi! You look gorgeous.
Unfortunately life is sometimes scary. *sigh* |
Awww, thank you, someone else praise my outfit, but I forget where. XD When I was replying something interesting, I often forget to answer the praises. T__T
you look... the same. XD still so pink~ <3 |
Hi, I saw your quest thread and wanted to stop in. :D
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