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Good luck Rue!!
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yesh yesh
MUY luck to ROo rOO!!! lol |
Next week Roo. <3
Jess- I have that problem too. Scotts side of the family all have/had good jobs and money to spare and they spoil Kura rotten (and only Kura :/) and I don't know what to do about it. It breaks my heart to see them being so mean to the twins and ignoring them just because of Kura... I hope you don't have to deal with that later on with the new one. ;_; |
Toni is the only grandchild on that side of the family so she does get spoiled and then can't understand why she can't get things like that from her parents.
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Things will be different with this one. They had her spoiled you could never put her down, all they did was hold her. Every time they went to the store they bought her another stuffed animal, and I JUST got that stopped, after 9 years!! His mother would go through an entire package of diapers in an 8 hour time frame, claiming Toni needed changed so much because she wet her diaper. What baby pees 40 times in 8 hours??
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Jess Tab and I were just discussing that the other day. She insisted that if Toni was the slightest bit wet, she would want to be changed.
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:/ That's so strange - what a waste of money and diapers
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Morning everyone!!
Yes it was a huge waste of money! At the time, her husband was really making good money because he's a cross country truck driver. And I would send diapers so she would have some for the next time. I never meant for them all to be used in one day. She's not going to be pulling that this time. My mouth will open and I will let her have it. |
Tab said that Toni would fuss the minute she was wet and wouldn't stop until she was changed. It was ridiculous. She said that's why Toni is like she is now, because she doesn't like to be wet. I said well this time you can buy the diapers then if you are going to use so many like that.
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You know thats strange. Because she never fussed for us like that. Tab told me the same thing, only it was more like my mom changed her so much that thats why she is always wanting clean underwear now. Put the blame entirely on her mom, but Tab was guilty of it too
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Exactly Jess. It's frustrating.
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Well it will either be my way or they just wont be having any time with the baby. Cruel I know, but Im not going to have this one spoiled like they did to Toni. It was horrid trying to break her of alot of the habits they instilled in her
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I know Jess.
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Scotts moms ex girlfriend would do that with kura when we left her with them so we could go out to a movie (their idea) I had loaded up the diaper bag with probably 10 diapers, wipes, pacificiers, bottles etc, and they called during the movie asking what size diaper she wore because they had run out.
...10 diapers in less then 2 hours! D: I was in shock. at least they were going to pay for them though. But still. It was pathetic. They said they were weighing the diapers to see if it was heavier. You know how diapers will sometimes bunch a bit after they are put on and so in one spot they will feel heavier? yeah, I think they were throwing away clean diapers because of that. Some people are insane >.< and I had to do that with that side of the family for a while. Everytime I would take her over there I would tell them what I wanted for her. They would always nod and agree, then do the opposite. So for a while it was no visits, then just visits with me there to make sure everything went well. Because I got so sick of them going against how I wanted her taken care of! |
Its awful isnt it? To this day she still tries to tell me what I should do when it comes to Toni. And if I dont listen or if I blow her off, she'll go to him. Like after this last bout of bronchitis, she told me to make an appointment at the doctor so he could check Toni over. Mind you she wasnt even coughing anymore, so I told her no, it wasnt necessary. She went to him and told him I refused and that Toni needed to go, so he tried to force me to make an appointment. I told him no, she was my child, not his mother's, and for her to keep her big red nose out of it, and to stop questioning my judgment. Shut them both up real fast.
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yes, with over bearing grandparents/ in laws sometimes you just have to put your foot down. They had it coming though.
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Oh man that all sounds SO difficult! I feel for all of you having to deal with that kind of scrutiny/harassment and disrespect. Yet more reasons I won't be having my own children.
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She really isnt going to like me this time around. I was young when I had Toni, 21, and really didnt know what I was doing. And my mom lives a ways away so I had to rely on her alot. This time I know what Im doing so I can tell her to take her advice and shove it
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Better then me Jess, I was 18 when I had Kura and 19 when I had the twins. ^^;; I was still living with my mom for hte first 5 months of Kuras life though because Scott was settling into his job and getting everything set up for a place for us to live. >.< But his mom was still on my ass about every little thing. it drove me crazy! D:
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Isn't it amazing how everyone always has some piece of advice for you, whether they have had children or not. Parents and close family are always the worst about that.
Thankfully I lived 2000 miles from my nearest relative when my son was born so I didn't have anyone to tell me what I was doing was wrong. |
I wouldnt mind having my mom closer, shes so cool. She has never once tried to force her opinions on me about how I was raising Toni. And that means alot to me. How else was I to learn if I didnt try to do things on my own? His mother never could seem to grasp that, and she still doesnt
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ha ha I live like 3000 miles from my family and his and they STILL call me up and tell me how to do things. >.< Sometimes I ignore their phone calls. *hangs head in shame :P*
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Dont feel ashamed mel. I would do the same thing if I were in your shoes
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I would too. His mom still does it with my roommate and she's 29 years old!!! I mean she can't even make her own doctor's appointment that she went to yesterday!!! I was in shock when she said her mom had to call. Cut those darn apron strings and let her live her own life. She's gotten alot better since she moved away from her mom with things but her mom just won't let her have her own life. It's disgusting.
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It is pretty bad. She claims Tab does nothing for her, but yet Tab is forever running for her, changing her cat litter, taking her trash out. Her mother is nothing but a whiney slob, for real. All that woman does is sleep, she claims shes just so sick she cant get out of bed :roll:
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