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Well as for the deleting threads, typically what you can do is report the post you want deleted and the staff can do that for you. As for a thread, if a thread is deleted, everyone who posted in it has all that gold removed from their account. So they usually can't do that. The most they typically do is lock the thread.

Ah that "fake talk", in which they're altering their words to not offend someone? I dunno, I never really understood how that worked to be honest...

I also like honesty... brutal honesty at some times as well.

^^ At least you're giving us a good chance. That's the most we could ever expect after all isn't it?

I guess about the "fake" thing, it's hard for me to understand not because I don't do it or I don't notice, but because I'm very different from the average person, getting along with people who are more humble, and having difficulties with the more proud people. But that whole "social" portion of the human world is very foreign to me

(I hope I understood what you meant)

Okay all of your posts have vanished I hope you did not decide to leave us so soon.

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Well when I came in I read through the entire thread before I responded but it was only fitting for me to note the absence of your previous posts. So I choose that to break the ice for me. Poet is a dear friend to me so if he likes you that speaks well of you. I enjoy long talks myself, even if at times I have to hit and run, but that is due to my having a one year old and a six month old. Lol They do tie me up often. But I try to make time to come on her and chat with friends like Po. I can tell from you response here that you could be very interesting to converse with since you seem to be intelligent and genuine in your desire for a meaningful conversatiton. I do have to say it is refreshing to see someone new here who is interested in engaging past the simple hello and how are you. I do hope that you are inspired to stick around and give us a chance. Sometimes the fresh meat is not the best place to find more than idle hello goodbye type conversation. I welcome you to visit any of my threads should you enjoy chatting with me. I do ramble on about my lil ones from time to time but I love a good conversation about most anything, and I do not offend easily. So by all means I would love to continue chatting with you later when it is not 5 am for me..lol Thank you for responding to me and taking the time to really talk for a moment, it made my morning. :)

You say "hard to explain in english" a lot, what language do you find it easier to explain in?

Sounds like you have a very stable philosophy. I agree though too often are people constantly trying to be "politically correct" and stuff. I just designed my own little theories in order to best suit my own philosophy. Typically the way I do it is my #1 rule is "Don't piss anyone off". I find it amazing at defusing fights as well, because I'm not retaliating agressively they get bored. After that I just keep in mind that every human being in the world is different, so I act accordingly for each individual.
I know you say we are "random strangers", which we are, I still always try to ensure I never forget there's another human being on the other side of the screen.

While I agree it is best to "be ourselves", some people come online because they are tired of being themselves and want to "forget" for a while... to "be someone else". I actually find "being someone else" rather fun at times though I can only stand it for a short while. In my time on Menewsha though, I've run into quite a number of people being themselves :)

A geeky rocker drama jockey? Huh... first time I've ever known someone to fit into just about any school group [lol]

As for the one liners... yes those bug me... if I do a wall of text and I get a "lol" or something. Though typically I struggle to get those massive posts.
As for the "thread views", I think part of it is that when a thread is viewed by google "spiders" it adds a view on to the thread, making it look like more people have seen it than really have.
In addition moderators are also looking around at threads as well, so they are probably adding to it.

As ivvy said she does indeed have some rather good conversation in her threads :)
I find that the slower a thread is the easier it is to be able to have meaningful conversation.

Po we do tend to hide out in our slower areas don't we >.< But I like it that way and I know you do as well. We lurk less when we are on and hanging out in the Quest area because it is not 90 miles to nothing to keep up.

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I honestly don't think your walls of text are all that bad... to be fair I've seen walls of text longer on this site... [lol]

Nice people are rare I agree... far too rare. For me I'm nice to everyone because I found that growing up, too few people were ever nice to a stranger who was having a bad day. I always try to drive myself to make someone's day better whenever I can, because I know a lot of people are struggling to be happy every day.

Stereotypes are very silly I agree... I honestly barely fit any of the intended stereotypes for my gender and yet I'm so chained down by them when others view me.
Personally I get along with most groups, though not the jocks not so much because I don't really have any sports interests... but they actually CAN get along... the reason they don't is because they want to feel their group is superior >.< general human stupidity complex I suppose.

By the way you like to just do what you want depending on your interests you sound like you'd do well as an entrepreneur or manager of some sort. You seem to have the right attitude for those sorts of things.

I'm only more confident online because unlike talking in person I have more time to think before I speak. Real life doesn't really have a backspace option. With "playing someone else", I really see it as more of a game than actually becoming them. It can be fun to just "see what happens" when these events occur.

As for the "Hi" people... I always try to write something that can be replied to. Like "Hi I see you're interested in blah blah blah..." or something and talk about a topic of their interest. As for the "Reason I like you", it's simple really, I have a fascination with the human brain. There are so many people in the world and yet not one is the same, and that interests me, so when I see someone who is especially unique, they are very interesting.
Bah... I totally should have majored in psychology...

Also if I miss a few things you wanted me to reply to it's due to it being a wall of text that I sort of "pick what I can" to reply to. I simply find it easier than replying to every word I read ^^
(I also have a job interview tomorrow so I might not reply for a day or two)

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That's true if you're too nice people will step on you, but I wont let people step on me. :)
I see it all the time though, and it's kind of sad that the more innocent and nice someone is the more taken advantage they are.
Personally for me I try to get along with everyone because every person is my own personal experiment in my head [ninja]
As for appearing fake... that's true... all those annoying social boundaries that end up making the nice people look like idiots...

Well I guess for me the problem is that I know employers judge me when they see me and it can be very frustrating when looking for work.

Well I say it because someone like a manager often "Tells people how it is" and enforces the rules, so being passive would be a bad trait when confronting a customer or something.

Hmm... "OD", the new disorder called Online Disorder. That would be a rather amusing study...
[lol] Earning loyalty? That's pretty hard in my opinion. Takes the right type of person for me to trust them if ever after many years :)
Well as for counseling, I've done a lot of private counseling for people and I have a thread that's meant for those who are disabled or different, so I definitely know we all have issues. I think the funnest part is seeing how each individual overcomes it.

I think the online generation isn't so bad. The social development is very different but I have found that if they stay out of the bad parts of the "neighborhood" the development can be beneficial so long as they have a life outside of the internet, like a job or school.

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Well if being nice isn't fair then I just don't do anything at all :)

Well I struggle to find a lot of things interesting... but it's true my problem is much different from yours. I can't stand simple things... they're just too simple and they bore me to no end. But the human brain has so much complexion to it that it's fascinating :)

Well part of it is that there's an awfully annoying stereotype that men can't be creative... and my career requires the use of both sides of the brain on a regular basis. On top of that yeah I am a bit too passive... [lol]

So true... that's typically why I simply tell them "If you want to talk about it just PM me", so if they take the initiative, they likely want help to an extent.

Sorry I was trying to make a joke o.o I'm kinda bad at those... they either work or fail so terribly...

Personally my experience in mental disorders has as much to do with me as it does with them, because my partner has autism and the more I know about how the brain works the better I can be.

My experience with the internet isn't so strong as my connection to technology itself. I've thrived on technology my whole life, learning it far faster than most in some areas. Unfortunately I found that it had a huge negative impact on my ability to socially interact. That's my reason for first coming onto forums and eventually sticking around at Menewsha. I found with certain users I was able to learn the various social rules I would need to function in society. (Stuff most people take for granted)
Though if technology shut off completely I actually have a love for the outdoors, I have spent a large portion of my life researching various survival techniques I eventually want to try out. If the weather wasn't so rainy here and someone actually wanted to go with me I'd camp in the wilderness a ton.

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Welcome to Menewsha.

Ooh criminal pathology [drool] that sounds like a blast...

Ah worries in life. I have always been a very minimalized person. I don't really care to own tons of things, spend lots of money, I just don't really do enough. Give me $1,000 spare after bills/food and I'm stumped on what to use it on [lol]

Indeed interesting people are easy to spot. :) I have encountered some very interesting people on here for sure. Though ride a public bus for a day or two and there are some very "interesting" people on there [lol

Not sure I just hear it all the time. Says women can't do math and men can't do art... pretty innacurate but sadly overfollowed. So true, always limiting. I have noticed in the recent years look at most things in the world and creativity has taken a drastic drop in the world because people are so heavily restricted. My partner is an artist (and a good one at that), and I spend a lot of time making sure she is always trying to be creative so that she can continue to make wonderful art.
I know personally my career option has a very Creative and Mathematical requirements. I'm using lots of math and numbers to measure things as well as creative thinking to solve problems.

I'd say a funny way to overcome a problem of any sort would be the same to me. I mean if say you have a problem in which you struggle to hold on to things, and your solution is to juggle them, if it works good, but it's also clever and amusing.

True... plus being in a bad neighborhood sorta prevents freely going outdoors [lol]
I can agree my life would have changed for sure, but I can't really be so sure it would be "good" because I know that a lot of people who have influenced my life in a positive light are from my experiences online. Like my partner for instance I met online, and she too is quite a bit too shy to be much of a "in public" person.

Camping in a storm? Ehh... that would be unpleasant... my body has a... intolerance for being cold.

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Ah yeah, mine is into art too, but mostly digital for now :)
I typically only update once every 5+ years.
I'd never get a mac... they're too user friendly... I like to have deep customization.

Well I think what happens to me mostly is that posts gradually get bigger and bigger until there's a big deep conversation going on... and often times there's not that many topics going on between two people. Like here, there's at least 5 conversations going yknow?

Art and creativity is also one of the best known forms of therapy for those who can't express themselves, because creativity has that ability to communicate in pictures.
As for that need to create things... I have lots of various sketches and doodles of things nobody has invented yet... but I created them in hopes that someday I would create them. :)

Hmm don't think I've done either of those things o.o
I understand the need for detail. I'm an amateur pixel artist, so I tend to spend a lot of time trying to get that right shade [lol]
Having a good ear for sounds is always good. I'm like that with a few things :)

Well, I suppose a good example of a person who has overcome an obstacle in a creative or amusing way, is like that of a few blind men people have noticed. They cook, clean, organize, chop wood, all sorts of things and it's amazing that they can manage all these tasks. Even if the task looks odd it is still completed with amazing accuracy.

Well of course, many of us will always perceive that the way we did things may not be perfect, but we were able to witness it working and so it's easy to recommend.

Ah yes that site would very much so not be for you... [lol] bump here bump there... that's all I ever saw XD
Well mene may not be an intellectual gold mine, but at least we're literate... [ninja]

Yeah we pride ourselves in being a bit different. We often tend to see the person on the other side of the screen as a human being rather than pixels.
To be honest that "OMG another gaia" comment is actually pretty common...

I'll admit, the menewsha avatars do have some issues here and there... but compared to what I've seen out there, one being a massive company, short stubby dwarves look far weirder in my opinion... and some... oh gosh the heads on some of those...
But the pixel artist we have had is gradually getting better and better, but unfortunately with all the items we already have it would be very hard to change the avi in any way without having to change thousands of items.

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I'll reply when I can find the time... busy past few days >.<

Nah we met on Gaia (where I heard about Menewsha).

For computers I just like being able to do just about anything I want. If I want a notepad on my desktop I should be able to have one. Then if I encounter a problem, customization allows me to fix it. The reason I don't like Mac though is that it's because I grew up on one of the first Macs. I hated it, and when I saw the modern Mac at a Mac store the guy was talking to me and the Mac was so unchanged I started teaching him about the mac...

I find that interesting threads can be rather hard to find sometimes, but from personal experience I will find a good experience in certain threads really depending on what's been going on. Well it may be that they are putting it back on track because they want that topic, but certain forums are preferred to be on topic for the most part. Though the General Discussion and the Menewsha Nations is a lot more lenient when it comes to topics derailing. Must say though, when a thread derails, that's when the fun starts [lol]. Ah yeah well, I didn't expect it to do very well XD

True, though I must say I would never sell an unfinished piece of art.

Pixel art galleries? o.o I've never seen one of those. I doubt I'd turn pro with much, the only talent I'm going "pro" with is being an engineer. The rest is more of a hobby for me. My friend on the other hand, I do plan to make her into a professional writer/artist, because she truly has the talent. Besides, with books like we've been getting lately it's not hard to make better.

Reccomending things that don't make sense doesn't really make much sense o.o
Statistics in my opinion are the fun part... I love reading statistics :D

Well about Gaia... I'd say that sums up a large percentage of the site, that opinion is created because the good people are hiding from said crazies. Though some of them are simply attached to their pixels. But don't worry, [lol] a lot of us already know how much is wrong with that site. Most of us used to be there before Mene.

Yeah that is pretty sad, I see people with such terrible grammar and spelling all over, and while Menewshans tend to make a typo here and there, it's not all that bad compared to most other sites I've been on. The fact they are literate is a big plus for me XD

I typically prefer to be different, but that "pride in being different", is partly because being "normal" is currently really really messed up. Personally I click with most people, depending on their attitude. There has been I think one user on this site whom I wont talk to. But the people I don't click with are the ones who don't follow the basic guidelines I put in my threads.

Haha yeah some of them really are barely human XD I can agree that avis are sort of gender guided, with menewsha's userbase being primarily female, but that's likely because menewsha isn't "manly" enough.

I know at one point the pixel artist actually went back and repixeled the whole avi to reduce the color amount. Plus from what I've seen since her first items she has been getting way better :)

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Ah... the ole ringing off the hook problem...
I have that problem when my parents go on vacation... suddenly EVERYONE wants to call...

Oh it's rotten... plenty rotten... but the seed of a rotten fruit can still be useful :)

Been hearing that about windows 8. Haven't had the chance to try it yet. I haven't tried any of those programs before, but they sound fun to play with [drool]

True we get opinionated about some weird things... but then... go look at political chat in real life [lol] it can be just as opinionated about unimportant things.
True "uptight" could explain some of us. Though there are others that are very laid back and outspoken. I've met quite the variety on here.
As for the site being anime-ish, part of that is likely due to how hard it is to make something look realistic without making it difficult to be consistent. As I'm in a contest for trying to make an item for menewsha, even just having 6 shades is incredibly hard to get just right. o.o I couldn't even begin to fathom 40+ shades realism would take...

I'll admit... while I get along with most of the users here, there are a few users that dislike me, and I'm okay with that.
My ideal self is mostly what I go by when deciding who I want to be. The only times I will really stray from that is for a relationship or a very strong friendship.

Interesting... yknow, that blunt answer probably explains why there's almost no guys here. What about the site do you see as the most "feminine"?
A pedo cake? Well that's an interesting yet accurate assumption o.o

Menewsha is civilized thanks to the very strict rules it had when it was younger. Now they aren't as strict, but the community tends to keep people from getting into trouble by leading as an example.
Yes, we can be a bit more sensitive. Menewsha has quite a lot of parents, wives, and women in general compared to guys, so it's not too much of a surprise that the site is "sensitive".

In the end though, at least because of you I can see how users view us from the outside.
Also, is there a reason you are still deleting your posts? You don't need to :)

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Haha... well you know what they say... get every other version... like windows vista and windows 8 are the hopping points [lol]

Actually, I find that the more blunt or "offensive" users tend to just be avoided by the more sensitive ones. The staff don't get involved unless the "offensive" user is actively harassing them.

Oh there will definitely be better pixel artists [lol] but one can dream :)

I find making a friend online is treated as "less special" because it takes so much longer to develop than a real life friendship.
Yes, I do tend to get along with girls better for the most part, though to be honest I only know the gender of half the people I talk to.

That would be rather true. I know I have heard people wanting the male avi to look more.... male... before.
I would agree it is a lot more directed to female avis. The primary reason I use a female avi is the sheer lack of quality male items.
I can definitely see what you are getting at though. It really is true that the site is very heavily directed towards females. So much of the site is... "soft", while a general masculine male might want something with a little more...."edge"?

It's not a bad theory. This topic has been discussed between users before, unfortunately many of us were already very active when we answered, so our opinion was a bit biased. You opinion, in a way, helps explain why a number of users don't come back after their first few posts.

I see. I just find it helpful to look over the previous posts. Make sure I don't send us in a vicious topic loop XD
Really? No reply? That's odd...