Earlier, my sister walked into the room where I do my schoolwork and am all set up and stuff, and she had her friend with her. We were standing there talking by my laptop, and my brother saw the Reebok (sp?) on her friend's pants, and mentioned it. Immediately, my sister freaks out because it triggered something relating to Shinee...her favorite Korean Pop boyband. This is their newest single, if you're curious. Also, she's 16, and I'm 19.

Well, here's the thing. I'm a hardexcore Dir en grey fan. For those of you who don't know Dir en grey and are curious, click here.

So obviously there's a massive difference here. Her Korean Pop vs. my Japanese Rock.

This sounds so immature, but this is really a problem here.

All she does is sit around fangirling, virtually stalking this boyband. She's in her first semester of college, and other than that and her out-door hobby which she goes to a few times a week, Shinee is her LIFE. She talks about them constantly. She never shuts up about them.

And it drives me up the wall. It infuriates me. The other day, she sat down and was just writing a list of all these Kpoppers she knows.

So tonight, when she was in the room with her friend, and the reebok thing happened. Well we started talking, and I mentioned something about Dir en grey, and I was about to pull up a magazine scan (there's four from the spread, total). As soon as mentioned that, my sister blew up at me and started yelling that I can ram Dir en grey down their throats, but if she mentions Shinee, I get pissed off.

I don't say a word about Dir en grey, ever, except for the two concerts we're going to next month.

She humiliated me in front of her friend, and she overreacted. But the thing is...this goes way deeper than just the bands.

I talked to our friend tonight, told her how I felt, and how I was really upset, and all she did was throw in my face how my sister keeps telling her what I say and how I act and how I never let her know that I'm happy she's into this band. So it just made me feel even worse. My BFFL didn't log on tonight.

What my sister doesn't understand is that she can go on about her hobby and her band, and my brother can go on about his hobby and his bands, but I have to sit back and go to their competitions and their tournaments, sit there and watch them do their sports, sit by and listen to them go on about whatever they want.

When I was 16, I had both my ankles operated on due to torn ligaments and tendons, and a year and a half later, while doing everything I was told to by my surgeon, some idiot put his foot under the volleyball net and I landed on it (with braces on) and retore my ligament.

I'll never play volleyball again. I'll never play sports on my old level, again.

So how is it 100% enjoyable for me to sit there and be so supportive of them when I can't do anything.

Am I the only one who ever feels like they have to take a back seat to their siblings, younger/older, because they're either unable to do certain things or have reasons that prevent them from doing so?

/end long rant

You and your siblings have alot of miscommunications between you. You guys need to sit down and talk to each other like adults, calmly tell the other how you feel and how you were humiliated and come to a compromise.

My brother and I were like your siblings, as time went on, our lives became too hectic to actually bother getting into fights. Even though my brother and I have differing opinions, we actually sit down like adults and talk it out. It was completely awkward and weird for me at first, I actually freaked out about it, but I saw that it was a great way to clear up any miscommunications between us.

Try it out.

P.S. My brother and I are 21 and 22 respectively =) We aren't that old lol

Honestly, the only person I can officially say I 'hate' is my older sister.

I won't go into dramatic details here, but lets just say my sister is a diagnosed narcissist. And while I know its probably a medical condition having to do with her past, I find it hard to forgive her for the things she has put me through just to make herself feel better...

I agree with Leenalia that you guys have some communication issues, and it would be good for you to learn to speak to each other like adults.

Like with the band thing, tell your sister how she makes you feel. Don't do it when you're still annoyed, and don't do it when you're arguing. Wait until she's in a good mood, and calmly bring up the subject by telling her that you felt really embarrassed the other day.
Don't be confrontational, and don't let her goad you into an argument. Be the loving, mature big sister whose feelings she hurt, not the angry sibling.

With regards to the sports thing, that's something you'll just have to deal with.
It's not all about you.
You should be proud of your siblings, not jealous and spiteful. There are plenty of other hobbies you can take up, and if you're supportive of your siblings, they'll be supportive of you.

Like my older brother is an amazing musician. I've always wished I could be too, but I just don't have the natural talent he has. No matter how much I practice, I'll never be more than mediocre.
But I don't seethe in jealousy because of that. I'm too proud of him. I go to the gigs he plays, fight my way to the front of the crowd, and I'm excited to tell anyone who'll listen that the guy tapping the guitar is my brother.

@ Leenalia, you're right; we do have a lot of miscommunications, but I've talked to my sister about certain things that she does--like when she gets mad during an argument, after she (very loudly) voices her opinion/feelings and it's my turn to tell her, she stomps off with her fingers in her ears yelling "I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT!" So the thought of talking to her, be it a good mood or bad, really isn't very appealing.

@ Cherish, I understand what you're saying. And you're right, but I've tried the talking calmly to her. She's got anger issues...she blows up at the smallest things, and she's even admitted to that.

As far as the sports thing goes, I understand what you're saying, but I didn't mean for it to come off as I was going on like I wanted all the attention or I wanted it to be all about me. What I meant by saying that was that every once in a while, not ALL the time, I'd like to have a conversation where we're not talking about her horse riding or his fencing, but maybe something I'm into, you know? I know I can't play sports anymore--I'm putting off a third surgery right now. But just this passed weekend, on my day off, I drove an hour with my Mom to my brother's first away fencing tournament. I've been to 98% of my sister's horse shows. I'm always there supporting them, and they know I do even when I can't make it to their tournaments or shows.

It's just frustrating...I don't know if I could ever fix it because my sister is so hot-headed. My brother isn't so bad, but my sister just blows up. =/ I just don't know where I should go or what I should do to fix it. =/

++Life issues?++

I think the problem is not just the boy bands you guys like or hobbies..
It seems like she wants to argue "who's better"
:offtopic:
whether it's boy bands, tastes, etc.
The fact you talk about your favorites must have struck a cord
for your sister.

She has to accept the fact everyone has to like something different
or else we would all be not unique and the same.
*plus everyone would be rivals!*:illgetu:
She doesn't have to like it--just accept that you like it.
Going at each other's throats (mostly her at yours)
isn't something either boy bands would appreciate
and it makes her selfish and unable to hear your feelings and thoughts.
If you guys can't talk to each other and consider each other's feelings
(mostly her getting upset)
then you guys can never talk to each other equally.

*I'm a twin so I know that we have to share everything*
:hug:
It's easier for us to let the other twin talk and respect what they like
or talk why you dislike without daggers at each other's throats.
What you have in common are boy bands
what is different is which type.
(but that is nothing to argue or blow up about)

--you're sister needs to calm down and she shouldn't get too obsessed with this--
Also this is just an interest--it's not the battle arena!
She has no reason to be protective over her boy band

That's exactly how I feel, but I have no idea how to convey it to her because she's so hotheaded and so stubborn. If it's not her way, she flips. I wish she knew how to control her anger.

I take backseat to my little sisters all the time. And I only get to see them for two hours every month. But I'm constantly having to watch what I do, or what I say, because god forbid word get back to their dad. I couldn't even post something on line because it could cause my mom to lose time with them. I get bitched at for not calling my dad and harassing him for child support ever month because my mom refuses to get a job and earn another way to pay HER child support, being told that when my mom goes to jail because of failed child support payments I'm the one that gets to explain it to them. No pressure.

I have a 15 year old Bro. I swear its like a double standard in my house. When I came home after school and hmwk I had to do the dishes. If they weren't done b4 my parents came home they'd yell and ground me. My little bro doesn't do them on purpose they barley say a word then I end up washing them. We fight all the time. I'm usually the one to get yelled at cuz I'm the oldest. He always gets his way its just ridiculous. I do things for him all the time. I buy him stuff every once in awhile to be nice. I'll pick him up from school on early release days so he doesn't have to walk. I'll take him to the store or drop him at scouts. Then instead of being nice to me he turns around an is nasty. Starts fights. constantly does obnoxious things to get me mad at him. Constantly blaming me for stuff. Then he also get to do thing earlier than I ever did, and not that it matters anymore but its the principal It seems like all he's learning is that if he waits long enough and ignores mom and dad he won't half to do things. and eventually they'll make me do it. its frustrating. I do my chores every day and if I'm late once or forget cause I'm working on school stuff there all over me.But he only has to do dishes once a week while i do them every day, and if hes late on his one day its no big deal. Its just really irritating cuz its like hes on some kind of pedestal. I dunno what to do. I do alot for the kid and he doesn't appreciate it. and gets away with everything. and no matter what i do he just is nasty to me.

It may seem hard, but in the end it's good have siblings there with you. Once you move away you realize how different it is without and you miss them, but usualy it's good since you get along much better since you both are not in eachothers hair and not bugging th eother just because you want. Siblings can be annoying, no lie there at all, and they can ruin your stuff. But soon you leave and they become more tolerable and then it is a lot easier to do everything you need

Learning to get along with your little sister is worth it in long run. But for right now, I would say do your best to just ignore her fan girlieness, she will grow out of it.

Originally Posted by Miechan

Earlier, my sister walked into the room where I do my schoolwork and am all set up and stuff, and she had her friend with her. We were standing there talking by my laptop, and my brother saw the Reebok (sp?) on her friend's pants, and mentioned it. Immediately, my sister freaks out because it triggered something relating to Shinee...her favorite Korean Pop boyband. This is their newest single, if you're curious. Also, she's 16, and I'm 19.

Well, here's the thing. I'm a hardexcore Dir en grey fan. For those of you who don't know Dir en grey and are curious, click here.

So obviously there's a massive difference here. Her Korean Pop vs. my Japanese Rock.

This sounds so immature, but this is really a problem here.

All she does is sit around fangirling, virtually stalking this boyband. She's in her first semester of college, and other than that and her out-door hobby which she goes to a few times a week, Shinee is her LIFE. She talks about them constantly. She never shuts up about them.

And it drives me up the wall. It infuriates me. The other day, she sat down and was just writing a list of all these Kpoppers she knows.

So tonight, when she was in the room with her friend, and the reebok thing happened. Well we started talking, and I mentioned something about Dir en grey, and I was about to pull up a magazine scan (there's four from the spread, total). As soon as mentioned that, my sister blew up at me and started yelling that I can ram Dir en grey down their throats, but if she mentions Shinee, I get pissed off.

I don't say a word about Dir en grey, ever, except for the two concerts we're going to next month.

She humiliated me in front of her friend, and she overreacted. But the thing is...this goes way deeper than just the bands.

I talked to our friend tonight, told her how I felt, and how I was really upset, and all she did was throw in my face how my sister keeps telling her what I say and how I act and how I never let her know that I'm happy she's into this band. So it just made me feel even worse. My BFFL didn't log on tonight.

What my sister doesn't understand is that she can go on about her hobby and her band, and my brother can go on about his hobby and his bands, but I have to sit back and go to their competitions and their tournaments, sit there and watch them do their sports, sit by and listen to them go on about whatever they want.

When I was 16, I had both my ankles operated on due to torn ligaments and tendons, and a year and a half later, while doing everything I was told to by my surgeon, some idiot put his foot under the volleyball net and I landed on it (with braces on) and retore my ligament.

I'll never play volleyball again. I'll never play sports on my old level, again.

So how is it 100% enjoyable for me to sit there and be so supportive of them when I can't do anything.

Am I the only one who ever feels like they have to take a back seat to their siblings, younger/older, because they're either unable to do certain things or have reasons that prevent them from doing so?

/end long rant

I agree with lee, you need to sit ur sis down and clear the air. and u know what? if ur bro and sis arent going to support u and u dont feel like supporting them, then don't. dont go to their games and competitions. and if u have to, bring a book with u or ur mp3 player. dont even pay attention to them. maybe then they will learn what a "two-way street" is