I need 5 reasons to live. And please, don't mention religon.

Reasons to live huh.

Well, for one the base curiosity of the future. Are there things in your life that you have yet to acquire, but you know will be released very soon. If life ends, you will not be able to experience these events to come. Who knows, you might have even enjoyed those things more than you previously assumed.

The people that you will meet. Who knows, maybe within the next few days you will meet someone who will change your life. This might take a while, but your entire exhistence might change because of this said person. Everything you once thought, and everything you once felt might be changed.

You my friend might very well be able to change the world. Sure, you might not see it at the moment, but even maybe just a sentence, a statement, a glance at someone feeling down, and you might change their entire perspective on life. Who knows, maybe a word of kindness or a friendly gesture might cause them to do the same to another, and another. A chain if you will.

You yourself might be able to change our lives as we know it. Maybe you don't think so now, but perhaps you stumble on something in thought, in mind, and are able to influence the way we live. You could invent, or think of something so grand that you couldn't even imagine it came out of your own mind.

And you need to live for yourself. Life is easily taken away. You control your destiny, and how you will survive or not. You need to prove to yourself that you can do it. You have the capabilities to be a powerful soul, one that is strong enough to conquer your own personal demons, and to continue through life. Even if you do nothing of the above, even if your only purpose in life is to exist, you did so. And you did it for you, not for anyone else. Not for your parents, your friends, your siblings, your teacher. All for you. Selfishness is acceptable at times, that being one of them

Because if you are not happy right now, you will be happy again.

One reason. But reason enough for me.

Life is beautiful and happiness always is around the corner, I think that is enough reasons as is, personally.

Food, sex, love,nature,guys,girls. I gave you six, haha. And I'm serious about those.

I don't think you can live by another person's reasons. You have to find your own.

You're willing to come here in search of support, aid, and reasons for continuing. That takes strength and willpower, which you have right now even if you don't personally see it. If you're searching for reasons, that means that you aren't ready to give up yet.

Here are some hotlines that I want you to call if you keep feeling this way. Talk to them, talk to a friend or family member, even feel free to pm me if you like. Just keep looking for those reasons to live and I promise that you'll find them.

1. Watching the sunrise with someone you love early in the morning where the only thing keeping you warm is each other.

2. Feeling the awe-striking wonder of knowing that you've participated in creating another human and feeling them move inside of you when you can't see them and knowing they're actually there.

3. The embarrassment you get when creating a really good story or piece of art and waiting for them to tell you that they think it sucks when in reality they tell you it's amazing and you can't understand why.

4. Someone telling you they think you're beautiful on the inside (regardless of what you look like on the outside..)

5. Lying in another persons arms and knowing with all your heart that you will never love another as strong as you love them.

These aren't in any specific order and seeing how you didn't say the BEST 5 things... these are just some of my favorites.

1) Food
2) TV
3) Videogames
4) Meeting someone you love
5) Watching yourself accomplish your milestones.

I second the food one! I love food. Plus the world is full of so many things to discover. If you're feeling trapped and or bored or depressed try changing your life up. Try hanging out with different people. If you're not good at meeting people in real life go through friend finding sites. I do that and you meet some pretty interesting people that you would not have other wise met.

My reasons for living:
- I want to study different cultures and know what life is like for others.
- I want to have kids one day and raise a family.
- I love my dog and I can't see dying because she's like my child.
- Things always get better over time. Life is what you make it. If you're always thinking negatively then yeah, things will suck. I had the same problem. I just forced myself into thinking two things positive for every negative thought.
- I CAN and want to better myself. I can't do that if I am dead.
- Death is a permanent "solution" to a temporary problem. Think about how much dying would affect things around you.
- Trying to kill yourself does not always work and you can end up with life altering injuries. For example, I have problems because I tried to OD on pills and scars from where I cut myself trying to kill myself. It's just not worth it and now every day I am reminded about that stupid part of my life.

So yeah, there are reasons to live. You can change how your life is. If you can try even moving to a new place and replacing everyone in your life with new people. Start over. It helped me a lot and made me much happier.

Thank you all for your kind words of advice. I knew this was the right place to ask, because I have more in common with everyone here than at home or at work. You are all very kind, it is only ashame that we cannot meet in person.

Judging by the responces you've gotten you probably don't need any more but I'll give them to you anyway.


1. To find your own reasons to live, because they must be out there, you just haven't found it yet.
2. Because we don't know what happens when we die, so it's best to take advantage of the time we do know we have.
3. For the good times you've had, the good times you will have, and the fact that the bad times just make you appreciate the good and the good is much sweeter for your efforts.
4. You're choices effect others, someone does love you, someone does care. In fact everyone here cared enough to give you reasons didn't they? Remember that we are strangers, and if strangers care enough, theres people you know who care more.
5. So that you can learn the joy of life and experiance everything that you can. So that when someone asks YOU for five reasons to live YOU can save someone else from their missery, because you were there and you can sympathise better than another person.

Prolly don't need it, but I'll tell you my reason: It's the coward's way out.

I swear, I've got enough weapons in my house to kill myself seven different ways. I came close to it once. Then I looked at the thing in my hand and thought of how easy it would be. I threw the thing on the ground and thought about how I wanted a challenge. Life sucks. I admit I've had a pretty freaking hard one. Especially when I found out that I'm a bastard child. I'll tell you though. I don't want the easy way out, and no one else should either. Unless they are really, really cowardly.

I was going to make a thread similar to this.
I need reasons.

I don't think it's cowardly though, as 1snic1 said. Everyone says "its the cowards way out" but in my case I wouldn't see it as cowardly. I guess its just a way to make people feel guilty for how they feel. However, hopefully reasons will come to us sooner or later.

I can give you the reasons that I live for.

- The smell of chocolate chip cookies fresh from the oven. (It is true, I love food!)
- A smile on a loved one's face - especially if I am the reason they are smiling.
- Sunsets and starry nights.
- The opportunity to learn something new or get better at something I already know.
- This last reason might sound a little weird, but it is my guilty pleasure. Every week I check postsecret.com. All these people send in postcards with their secrets on them and they are posted anonymously on this blog. Some of them are heartwarming and some are heartbreaking, but they are all personal. You never know what you will see - but sometimes I see postcards that other people have written their secrets on, and they have the same secrets as me. It makes me feel less alone.

Originally Posted by Lordi

Thank you all for your kind words of advice. I knew this was the right place to ask, because I have more in common with everyone here than at home or at work. You are all very kind, it is only ashame that we cannot meet in person.

I just want you to know that you are not alone. I mean that in several ways. I have been there, asking for reasons. Many of my friends have been there. My brother, my sister, others here on menewsha, who have their own lives away from the computer, and their own experiences. You are not alone in that others can relate to the feeling. You are not alone in that you are a human who is struggling, but has some hope that you would prefer to hang onto than throw away. I hope you don't take this as depressing as much as, it is comforting really, because we can be there for each other. Not everyone will be, but some will. And if you can't find anyone at some point who wants to be, then you have not searched enough. You could be asking people for whom they are too busy, or they can't think straight right then, or they don't understand what to say or how to help, maybe what you mean. The thing about these complications though, are that they can be fixed. It's not that they sincerely don't care. It takes explanations, or experiences, or for them to have some free time. And as for everyone else, we are here by your side even if we are in a rush.. because we want you to stay on this earth.. to live and to prosper. I hope that you can feel safe knowing that because you truly are safer this way.

Secondly, who is to say you will never meet one of us who cares? One of us who posted here, or one who would if they knew of it? To be frank, you may have already met a few and not known, because you've not brought up this site. And if that is not the case, then what is stopping you from meeting? It could work out that way for all you and I know. The reason I am stopping to say this is, I met my best friend online. On gaia, actually, before we knew about menewsha (years ago).. Well guess what happened with that? We talked, talked, talked.. haha, we.. have stopped each other from committing suicide.. we have brought each other many smiles, and had very intriguing conversations. Well, I'll tell you how it worked out. We fell in love. And we've met now on several occasions, because our willpower to was greater than the 200 miles I had to travel. In 2 months, I will be moving in with him. And 5 1/2 months after, we are going to be married. And guess where I met my maid of honor? A very precious friend as well.... gaia, before we knew about menewsha. lol. Soo yeah. Also remember, these people are not just pixels on a screen. They are actual people who inhabit the same earth as you, live under the same sky, watch the same news channels and share in the same range of emotions. Say you strike up a PM conversation with one of them, or a few. You may end up with a precious friend as well. I can't say for sure how far it might go beyond that. It is up to you and them. But cyberspace, I will inform you, is not the limit to your comfort. *huggss* I hope these walls of text are not too much for you to take in :B PM me if you want to talk more or need clarification hehe

Originally Posted by lunanuova

I was going to make a thread similar to this.
I need reasons.

I don't think it's cowardly though, as 1snic1 said. Everyone says "its the cowards way out" but in my case I wouldn't see it as cowardly. I guess its just a way to make people feel guilty for how they feel. However, hopefully reasons will come to us sooner or later.

It's interesting, isn't it? I used to think it was cowardly to commit suicide. I suppose I can say I see both sides at this point. When you are feeling vulnerable, hopeless, whatnot.. you also take on a form of apathy which may or may not be strong enough to keep you from endangering yourself (or others, have you). Before you pass the point of apathy which you would do more destructive things to your health, what you value, ect... then it's hard to understand. It's hard to see why anyone would want to take their life like that. But it's not that they're stupid. it's not that way for either side. It just takes a whole new level, that's all. I hope that it is not too strong of one for you that you cannot be protected. You deserve it, that's for sure. But when you think about it, you would feel a lot greater satisfaction if you worked through it than if you let go. What is there to be proud of, when you drop it all before it's over? Are you proud of being a strong person? Are you proud of seeing things with an intelligent mind? Are you proud of taking good care of your family? The scope of self satisfaction becomes a lot smaller. If you'd say, "Screw it. It hurts too much. This will never get better", what have you gained? A way out? Are you that stuck that there is not something better? That is a very serious question because after you die you cannot take it back. You may be inclined to say yes today, but have you felt like that your whole life? Will there not be a day when you would regret it? If you happen to have a good day some time in the future, not even extraordinary.. just good, that you have food you enjoy, company you enjoy, tastes, scents, feelings, thoughts you enjoy at least moderately... would you not feel silly to think that you would throw away the potential for something so likely to happen?

Do you have a friend?
Do you have a pet?
Do you have a beautiful plant?
A sister? A brother? A mother? A father?
A husband? A wife? A child, adopted or your own?
A stranger whose life you affect?
Food you enjoy?
Textures you appreciate? Like feeling the soft skin of a lover, or of a smooth cat..
Things that you wish to accomplish?
Have you already left your dreams, to where you wish to have nothing to do with them? If you left now, you would have nothing to do with them but what you have done so far.
Do you have stories you wish to finish?
Places you want to travel?
Conversations you want to have?

Try finishing this list, if not in this thread, in your head or on paper.... and just see everything you can think of doing, keeping, cherishing. That maybe they should be cherished more than you realized. If there weren't for beautiful moments, I'm sure a lot less of us would be walking the streets come day or night. But there are. So live for whatever you need to, just don't let go of it before you're 1,000,000x sure you haven't forgotten ANYTHING in this world you would stay for