ok my boyfriend is like the cutest ever. everyone says we are a perfect couple but he still kinda like his ex but she doesnt like him. everyone is saying to break up with him but i really like him! i mean he told mee he got dumped for that.twice!! i want to break it to him but i still like him should i or should i not??!??!!! :( :) helps

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Eerr...You should probably confront him and ask if he really wants to be in this relationship with you. I mean if he's clinging onto his ex and already has been given up on by other relationships, it seems like he won't change. You should tell him how you feel and that if this may become a problem further on, maybe he shouldn't be in a relationship at all.

I know this seems rough and rather blunt, but if he has lingering feelings for his ex, that's probably going to be on his mind throughout the relationship. Unless he gets over her. It also depends on your feelings, if you really like him enough where you think you won't end up getting hurt by him liking his ex than stay. But if you see this may become an issue, you need to talk with him about it and sort this out.

Just because he still likes his ex doesn't mean anything. His memories of her will fade and he will only be thinking of you. It will happen, I should know. Haha, Just kidding I wouldn't know. But still...He will soon forget her. Just wait it out and love him or whatever you two are.

I still like some of my ex's. Its life. i think personaly its shalow to dump someone for that, unless the other person is 1. cheating. 2. Not into you. 3. dedicates more time and energy to the ex.
It dont matter if your bf is cute or not. -.- what matters is on the inside.
Im blunt. Lol. I know many peolple may disagree with me. Oh well.

Talk to him. DO NOT jump to conclusions. .-. I did that once, and screwed my self over. :D But that was a while ago. n_n so oh well. lol. good luck with your... delima. n_n

Well, before you do anything, you ought to talk it over with him first. After all, has he said himself that he still likes his ex, or have you just guessed or been told rumors? Be sure you have the right story. Then you can make your move.

But be easy with him. Don't go charging in and making accusations, because that'll probably just freak him out and he'll shut down. Ask him what his feelings are EXACTLY about this old ex of his, and see what the response is. If he doesn't like her anymore? Good for you! If he does though...then you need to ask if having a relationship is the best thing for him right now. If his heart still belongs to another, being with a different girl probably isn't the best at the moment. But if its just a little bit of leftover feelings that he thinks will pass with time, just give him a bit and see if it gets any better.

...Yeah? ^^

Don't ignore the fact but don't dump him either. Just be aware of cheating later on in the relationship. I went down that road and girl its not fun at all. Too much drama for me and it gets on my nerves so much. But just trust him and hopfully it won't end up like that. Sorry if i'm a downer. lol.

Well when I broke up with my boyfriend I started dating another guy and I still felt a lot for the ex. I texted and e-mailed him all the time and couldn't let myself get close to the other one. We had a lot of problems.
So, if he still likes her then he might have a hard time getting over her.
I eventually got over it and in total love with the new one. :)
So good luck, just don't let him treat you like dirt.

You Should talk about it with him.
Does he want you or his ex?
I don't think he should be chasing after someone else
while he is with you, hun.

If he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend, even just a little hint of feelings, then talk to him about it. Communication is important in a relationship. Either take a break from each other, break up, or stay together. Discuss all of those options, tell him you're not sure about his feelings, etc. How long have you two been together? If he's still with you and not his ex, then he obviously has feelings for you as well. Best of luck.

I've been caught in this problem before, but from the other perspective: The ex.

Having been in such a position gives me this knowledge: the poor boy's ex is probably sick of her if they broke up and she already turned him down again. There's little to no chance she's going to take him back, especially if he's busy dating you. HOWEVER, if he makes moves on her and tries to ask her out while he's with you, using you as a placeholder, ditch him. As long as he's nice to you, why not keep him?

Does it really bother you that much to know he may have feelings for another girl a bit? You two obviously aren't too terribly serious yet, and maybe once you've had some more time and bonding he'll grow onto you. It takes time, after all.

Do you want to break up with him because this thing with his ex really bothers you, or because your friends keep telling you to? :\
I guess that depends on how much he still likes this ex. Some lingering feelings will probably go away eventually, and you don't really have to worry about them, but if he's clearly not even trying to move on.. you don't want to be with someone like that. Hopefully if he was honest enough to tell you that he still liked his ex he'll also be honest enough with you to admit how much he likes her.

Well, on the one hand he sounds like an ass hole because he still likes his ex, on the other hand, if you really like him, then don't listen to your friends! He's your boyfriend and its depends on how you feel about him, not on what your friends feel. Unless they have a good reason like if he's abusing you or something.

If he has a thing for his ex then its going to make your relationship with him harder than it already is. You should talk to him and see what he thinks about you and the relationship with you. In my experience guys who still have a thing for their ex's needs to be left alone because its hard on the girl to deal with that. I've had two of my boyfriends tell me that. It is heart breaking and not fair.
He needs to figure out who he really wants. If he is with you just so he could get over his ex then that's wrong. If he is with you because he likes you then give him a chance. Maybe let him talk things out with you.

In my opinion, if the break up wasn't a total disaster you never really get over an ex. You will always have a small part of you that will think back on him or her and wonder how things might have been if you were still together.

I don't think you should break up with him. When something like that happens to me, I try to become the girl that makes him forget about his ex. If you try and after awhile he just can't forget, then maybe his thoughts about his ex goes a little deeper than what is healthy for his relationship with you. Talk to him. Tell him you're uncomfortable with his feelings for his ex. Remind him that he is with YOU now. Not her. If he can't listen then maybe you SHOULD reconsider your relationship.

well this is how I see it no matter what we do we are all still going to have feelings for our ex's it's perfectly understandable but if he is still flirting with her then Yeah there is a bit of a red flag there. just tell him how you feel if he really cares about you then he'll understand. but if he keeps pulling that kind of BS I would say get rid of him. don't waste your time, don't put your life on hold for someone who dosen't give a damn.

Hmmm, sticky situation.

Honestly though if he's still got lingering feelings for his ex yet I think that he may need time to himself to figure out what he wants in a relationship now and whom he would like to see himself with. I don't think it is fair to your in a sense of his lingering feelings and I think that there is a possibility that it may contribute to some anxieties at some point in the relationship.

Ultimately this is your choice and you do what you feel is best. I wish the best for you!