
12-26-2009, 05:49 AM
Velvet: I understand (Trust me, I went through it once too) that it is difficult and you feel very lonely right now. I wish we could rewrite our hormones so we aren't such a slave to our emotions, but unfortunately we can't. I think the best thing to do is find a friend and hang out with them for a while. Try to take your mind off things. Then, tomorrow, try and talk to the boy you are interested in. You have to show him a little trust and let him see who he wants to; if you can't do that, then how can you expect things to work out? Relationships rely on trust. If he decides to give into temptation and be with this other girl, then would you really want to be with him? It feels that way right now, but in the long run you might feel differently. Just try to see things beyond just "this moment". It's hard to think of the future, even a little bit in the future, when it feels like everything is so intense and every moment is harder, but if you make a decision based on what you want just this moment, you might find you don't want it the next. And decisions like this tend to have consequences. I'm proud of you for not leading the other boy on. I know it would be easy to take comfort in him but you are right, it would send the wrong message or it would make it harder on him, and that's not fair. You're doing well so far hon, just try and stay strong.
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