Well happy valentines for all you lovers out there :heart:

I will be having the most saddest valentines ever this year, my story is long but i'm wanting to tell it,kinda need someone to tell to if you know what i mean.
So here goes
I met my love 2 years ago on a different but similar site to this. I live in England and him America so 3 months after knowing each other and falling in love i go to be with my love,i stay 2 months then return to the U.K 4 months later i go back and within 1 month i become pregnant 7 months into the pregnancy i have to return back home which is heart wrenching and here my daughter is born is August and her father has yet to see his first born. he's been trying to come across he tried in November and was refused entry in the country so he had to return and apply for a visa and no we have the decision which was made on 2 days ago he has been refused a visa i'm sooo upset with this news and well the thing is that i actually overstayed my visa while in America and i have read that for doing that it's a 10 year ban from going back to the states :(

Thats terrible, im sorry to hear that. I hope the baby, you, and your boyfriend are well.
As for me I might be havin a lonely v-day also, my girlfriends parents have always hated me for whatever reason.. theres a lot more to the story but in the end they have no other reason to hate me but homophobia :( but yea.. so its likely i will not get to see her. I can only hope for the best for both of us.

p.s. If thats your gaia avi its pretty wicked :heart::ninja:

Were all well just sad
I don't see what parents have against there kids choice in oartners i bet there's did he same though when they were younger you'd think they would give them a break i can understand if you was really bad and they knew something about you that was bad.
I hope you try and have a good day and well enjoy the event also and yep that's my gaia avatar :)

You can always try going again :) worth a shot, especially if they didn't say anything about you overstaying your visa. If they do at least you tried. Heck they might not have known you overstayed and sometimes medical things override theirs. If you got pregnant in the states and stayed cause of that, it might just help you come back. I'd suggest whatever happens that maybe get married quickly, that would help the situation a whole lot more :)

And somehow i don't believe its 10years..cause if that was the case the states wouldn't have many out of country visitors. Id actually call and find out the real information...not always is everything true you read on the internet lol

I really do hope your daughter meets her father soon!

I agree, call the visa people, and explain that you have a child with your boy friend and want the two to meet. You might have to get married fairly quickly in order to stay, but if you do a quickie marriage and then plan for a "real" wedding that should help.

It seems like having a kid ought to make this easier. All they can do is say no.

thank you both for that advice i think i will call the visa place asap,he has 28 days to appeal against the decision.and yes that what were planning to get married here so he could stay but if he doesn't get here then i will try and re-enter the states.

I hope everything really does work out, what a wonderful Valentines that would be if it does! Please do keep us updated, im sure we'd all love to hear the outcome and help support you, i know i would!

BTW i do love your Gaia Avi as well, mind if i get your name there so i may add you there? :)

I'm very sorry to hear that. I have a similar problem, someone I love is in a different country, and he doesn't have the money or support to get here to see me. We've known each other since my first year in college, when the bus moved before i could sit down, and fell right on top of him. Yeah, it's dumb, but I feel your pain in not being able to see someone your in love with...

Me too. I wont see him until tonight. I havent seen him for two days due to my schoolwork and his job but it will be a happy reunin and honestly the time apart is good for us. I miss him a lot though >.<

cant wait until Valentienes Day! ^_^
I got him a card and some candy!

Hey OP, my daughter was born in June, so our babies are almost the same age! I know what you mean about how difficult it can be to be away from the person you love. I'm sure that you know that you can share photos and such of the baby over the internet, and you can also use stuff like Skype to do free video chat so that your bf can see the baby in real time. A lot of soldier's wives use these sorts of things via the computer so that their SO's can see their children while they are away on tours of duty.

One of the best ways for your bf to help you two be together is to have him marry you because then legally, you can be there as long as you want. Have you two considered this?

Just asking.

Also, try looking into dual citizenship. My husband's mom never naturalized her citizenship from England and my husband was born in America, so he has citizenship to both countries.

And my daughter gets dual citizenship by proxy, so that's pretty cool!

I'll keep you updated and yes it's rosemarquina on gaia feel free to add me :)
It really hurts when your soo in love and cannot be with that person.

Originally Posted by Oni no Tenshi

Hey OP, my daughter was born in June, so our babies are almost the same age! I know what you mean about how difficult it can be to be away from the person you love. I'm sure that you know that you can share photos and such of the baby over the internet, and you can also use stuff like Skype to do free video chat so that your bf can see the baby in real time. A lot of soldier's wives use these sorts of things via the computer so that their SO's can see their children while they are away on tours of duty.

One of the best ways for your bf to help you two be together is to have him marry you because then legally, you can be there as long as you want. Have you two considered this?

Just asking.

Also, try looking into dual citizenship. My husband's mom never naturalized her citizenship from England and my husband was born in America, so he has citizenship to both countries.

And my daughter gets dual citizenship by proxy, so that's pretty cool!

Yes we use skype and msn but he recently has had no internet which has been really hard for us both.
And yes we've talked about getting married either way if he comes here or i go there.
On the 18th she will be 6 months old i guess it's just really scaring me that he won't actually see her in real life for more months.
She was conceived in America i'll have to look into the duel citizenship thing thank you for your advice.

Hey hun! Long time no see I thought you quit but I'm glad you're back -hugs-

I can't believe you're going through all that crap! Hows your first born taking everything? The ideas people were shooting at you are great though, and definitely worth a shot.

Though... the dual citizen ship I think they have to be born there not sure but if it turns out the baby has dual you will probably be able to get in because of her.

How come he's having such trouble going there... I mean even if he juts goes on vacay isn't it like up to 3 months or something he can stay there? I know I didnt' have to apply for any visa's or anything when I went to germany but I stayed there for like a week under 3 months.

Aww~ i wish i had a love myself >A<

Originally Posted by aphrodite remix

Hey hun! Long time no see I thought you quit but I'm glad you're back -hugs-

I can't believe you're going through all that crap! Hows your first born taking everything? The ideas people were shooting at you are great though, and definitely worth a shot.

Though... the dual citizen ship I think they have to be born there not sure but if it turns out the baby has dual you will probably be able to get in because of her.

How come he's having such trouble going there... I mean even if he juts goes on vacay isn't it like up to 3 months or something he can stay there? I know I didnt' have to apply for any visa's or anything when I went to germany but I stayed there for like a week under 3 months.

hiya mixy yeah i came back lol at xmas time for the event was bored *hugs*
i know this situation is just so exhausting i don't know why they denied him entry the first time because we checked if he needed a visa and they said no but they just wouldn't let him come in so he went back and applied for one and now they have also knocked him back i'm so confused by all this,and if he had gotten in he would have been able to stay for upto 6 months.
i think your right about the duel citizenship
How are you hun anyways?

Man that's such crap I hope his appeal goes through. If it doesn't he should get in touch with a lawyer and see if there is another reason he is being denied or something, because really it just doesn't make any sense.

I'm alright just debating entering a few of the events going on, have to work early today which kinda sucks but isn't bad. How are you otherwise?

Thats the thing he doesn't have much money i payed for his flight over here iit's costing me a fortune lol

i'm doing ok a bit depressed but doc put me on some pills seem to be working. the baby is fine though doesn't know any difference always smiling which makes me happy :)

Ugh that's so crummy, hopefully his appeal goes through and if not then you can always try to get back there. Flights back and forth though must be so expensive :(

That's good. I couldn't imagine being in your boys position though it must be so rough not being able to actually see his child.

yep he's holding it together but i know he's upset :(
the flight are very expensive altogether i've spent 7 thousand if not more now

Omg that's so insane that's like a new car! I wonder if there's no way that ur gov might help you or something and work something out. Like there must be something somewhere that helps people be together especially if they have a child. I know in Canada if we have an imigrant and they get in they can sponsor their family and they get in rather quickly compared to some of the other hoops they might of had to jump through if they were just applying by themselves.

I'm going to see this lady who works for citizens advice on monday hopefully she'll be able to help me.
Yeah tell me about it i could have bought loads of things for the baby with the money.

It seems pretty strange that the two of you are having so many legal difficulties. Is there an age-related problem going on, or something to do with your parents/families not liking each other?

There's no problem with our families but there is a age gap between us but i don't see why that would hinder us ?

I know how you feel. I've been dating the guy I'm with for five years and we've been long distance the entire time. He's supposed to move here at the end of this year though and I really hope he does, so we can be married and do everything in person now. I'm tired of just infrequent visits.

That's awful, it must be so hard on both of you. :(

But going to the CAB is a really good idea, they've really helped us in the past. I'm sure they must be able to do something, especially as his child is a British citizen.