Good day guys!
The story goes here, my former supervisor and I were talking yesterday. I was asking her for an advice/ her opinion about me, changing my position from my current one to a more busier work and had a great responsibility. My former supervisor suddenly mentioned about me, being a submissive person. She told me that, if I'll enter to a much broader world then it's kind hard on me because of this personality of mine. There will be a possibility that most of the people inside my work place will take advantage of me, and because of this, their could be some problems that might erupt and the blame might put on me....

However, thinking from the way she said, it is somehow true. But I don't want to stay forever in this position i have right now. I always thought that if i don't change, i'll never grow and never learn more things if I keep defending myself from that elements. So maybe, I might take up the challenge for a change. But, i want this submissive personality to be gone on my attitude. I want to be a person who is more responsible in taking her action. A person who would know, where and when she needs to put herself at the office.

Due to this reason I would like to take some advice, to those people who can relate.
How can I conquer this kind of personality? and what are the best ways to do?
Please, kindly help me on this! Thank you:rawrmayor:

You don't necessarily want it to be 'gone', you just need to grow. My personality changes from submissive to dominate depending on whom I'm with and the situation I'm in.

I'm also naturally submissive. I've taught myself to be dominate by increasing my self-confidence. Excess confidence is a sign of dominance. If I'm feeling low, I look in a mirror, and I recite everything I like about myself. Then I tell myself aloud everything everyone else likes about me. I emphasis stronger qualities. When I walk into a room, I think 'I know who I am. I am me. I am powerful. I am strong. I will not back down.' I hold my back straight, my head high and I tell myself I'm beautiful. Walking through a crowded hallway, I remind myself that I am important. That no one can just shove me aside.

Picturing yourself as powerful, is a great way to start getting others to realize how powerful you are. Just don't get cocky.

Remember there are always good time to cool your ego. Sometimes I forget this, especially when I'm out in public with friends, but all of them know how hard I push myself not to be stepped on. So they usually just poke me and tell me to cool off. Or my bf will gently bite my nose or my neck and remind me that he's the dominate one.
*giggles* and thats fine by me.

Being dominate takes a lot of energy to pull of constantly. Work yourself up gradually, don't just jump in.

Oh! and the most important lesson. When you do portray dominance, make others believe it. Don't walk into a room dominate, and then as soon as someone says something you don't like, become submissive. That doesn't fly well. If something you don't like happens, fight it. Become the Alpha Wolf, if you'll allow the analogy.

Thats about as much as I can help. The rest is up to you ^.^ Good Luck.