Honestly? I don't know that you would be hit with the same drama. It would really depend on your attitude, your demeanor, and whether your advances felt platonic. And they very well could, and it would be okay. Because it's harder to tell on the internet, you kind of do have to trust your instincts. Personally, I know and have known a lot of straight guys, not just family. Even in elementary school and before, the time when guys and girls are supposed to have cootie-based superstitions, I didn't care. I was on a co-ed soccer team for a while, which was mostly boys and one or two girls, including me. Most of the neighbor kids I played with at home were boys. Even now, in real life at least, I generally find conversing with straight guys is easier than conversing with girls. And most of the guys are fine. When they are not, or when they cross the line into not being okay, my gut tells me, and I listen.
I have also known gay guys who were jerks. Different sort of distancing happens there, but it's still a distancing.
In any case, friendship goes both ways, and, well, I guess some trust was broken on both sides. And there are scars on both sides. I hate that there are sides. Please understand that.
Hm. Still don't have the staff member's perspective, but okay then...
It was a cuddle request, if I remember correctly. The person asked felt distinctly uncomfortable about it. That's not something you ignore. It's just not. You do not ignore feelings of discomfort like that, whoever (gay, straight, male, or female) is causing them. You, or at least someone on your behalf, steps up and says that you feel uncomfortable, and even if the other person doesn't think their actions or requests should make someone else feel uncomfortable, they should stop anyway, and not act put out by it. It's the courteous thing to do.
Again, I'm sorry that the drama happened at all, but... There it is. It's okay that you are friends with him, but at the same time, you don't have to abandon other friends, either. :)
Did you get the staff member's side of the story? ... Sprinkles tried, it really did. People were uncomfortable and even afraid to hang out in their Mene home for a while. Drama happened. It's not a happy story, but there are different sides to it, you know?
XD There's always one cousin like that. Is it a younger one?
Irked me, too, but... It's been my Mene home since last winter, and drama really is pretty rare. I'm comfortable there. You are missed.
I've been okay. I will be doing a bit of traveling next week, to a concert, which I am very much looking forward to. Seriously, I haven't really looked forward to something for years. Which I guess is sad, but... :) How 'bout you?
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