It's not a jerk move, depending on how you go about it. All you've got to do is say "Can I talk to you guys a minute?" And sit them down and calmly express your feelings. No one's feelings have to be hurt. Just simply say you understand that they're providing for you and you wholly appreciate it, and you were just wondering if maybe this "bed time" business could be discussed.
You may not see any way of compromise now, but they may surprise you. See if you can't get your bed time at least pushed back a little, or something. You know?
Maybe you should talk to them anyway. It can't hurt to try. You don't have to make them feel like they're hurting you or that you think badly of them. Just express that you feel a little stifled. Express your concern about the bed time and things, and ask if there's any way to work out a compromise.
Yeah. I really don't think you're in the wrong. You're trying to better your life. However, the situation isn't wrong either, as that's just how they are. Have you tried talking to them about the rules calmly and rationally? I know I've asked you that before.
Well how far away is your dad's house from where you're living now? Have you considered going back? It might be what's best for you, if it's not too far away. Giving up your job may not be the wisest decision if it IS too far away.
I'm really sorry. I hate that when that kind of thing happens. "If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans."
I wouldn't say you're immature. You're really trying and that's great. I just think you should keep at it. I don't think it's a question of maturity so much as frustration with your life. You're nearly 23 years old. You feel like you should be self-sufficient at this point in your life, and it not only weighs heavily on your mind that you're not, but it also bothers you that you have to be supported by your boyfriend's parents. Furthermore, it bothers you that they have childlike rules set in place for your stay, as if you were 15 years old. You're not immature. You're actually very mature, and that's the problem. You're too mature and independent to feel comfortable in the situation you're in. Which isn't a bad thing. It gives you motivation.
At least that's my perception. I'm no psychoanalyst.... :ninja:
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