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It's ok it does help to have someone listen.

We haven't really started looking yet, can't really afford it just yet.

Oh hey we're thinking about having our honeymoon in Canada because I've always wanted to go but we don't know which part to go to, do you have any suggestions about where would be a good place.

My Grandma keeps saying she knows she's a nuisance. It's not her fault.

I have tried to talk to my mum but she doesn't want to listen, she never does and she gets into moods really easily. She can hold a grudge for fuckin years she still goes on about what that doctor said to her over a month ago. She keeps considering selling our house and Grandma's house and getting another one so she can have Grandma with her all the time. My Dad has said serveral times he does not want to live with my Grandma, I said that to her the last time she was going on about and she went well with what's happened I think he'll change his mind. He won't though he likes my Grandma but she is a bit batty and he can't handle her for too long.

I don't think anything I say to her will do anything but make her be angry with me. I think the only way it's going to change is when my Gran is back home and independent again. It doesn't help that my mum thinks it's all because she hasn't been there for her enough. If she was there for her any more she'd have been bloody living with her. She keeps fussing over her like she's a child, I had to drag her away the other day because the nurses on the new ward don't like us being there outside visiting and she kept asking my gran is she could manage her tea on her own and she kept saying yes.

She got pissy with the nurses yesterday because my Gran keeps having these like episodes where she can't stop her hands from shaking and the nurses didn't ring her to ask her to go and help her eat and the lady in the next bed did it. My Gran said the nurses said they can't expect my mum to come in everyday to do it and my mum went they don't know me and I can.

Sounds like fun.

I have no idea what to do, my mum's car is broke so she's getting the bus to the hospital everyday unless my dad's off work then he has to take her. She's constantly moaning about the buses and she just said she can't get to the pet place where we get our pet food from on the bus. I said you can get there but you have to get two buses (very short ride on both) and she went on about carrying the stuff. All I said was other people have to do it that can't drive and she had a tantrum and sat outside crying. My Dad said he's had enough of her she's driving him mad. She does nothing now my Grandma's in hospital all she does is go to the hospital, moan about the hospital, moan about the bus, play an online game till god knows what time, go to sleep, get up and start again occasionally moaning about the hospital food menu when she has to make food to take in for her because my Grandma won't eat Chicken or Turkey like they should change their entire menu choices because of it.

My Dad has a bad back, bad legs and is blind in one eye and when my Grandma is in hospital he has to do everything and he doesn't have time and he's in pain and he relies on my mum to get his medication because he finishes work too late to get them but she hasn't got them because she's been at the hospital all the time so he ran out 2 days ago and because of it being Easter he's not been able to get them until today.

I don't know what to do, it feels like my family is completely falling apart. I'm doing everything I can but I'm limited on what I can do. I haven't even seen my Grandma most of this week because I've not had time to go because of things I had to do. I've got an essay due in just over a week that I've not had time to start and need to go to the library for it and mum always acts like it's the end of the world when Grandma's on a bad day, she's got liver disease and has been in hospital almost 2 months she's not goin to be fine everyday.

I'm sorry, I know you can't do anything I just wanted to vent to someone. :sweat:

Yeah, I don't pay taxes yet but they don't seem invest much in the national health. They're under staffed and have 50% more absences than the private sector but a lot of their staff seems to come from the agency which is more expensive they have to pay them almost double because the agency takes a cut.

Should be able to sort the economy out eventually did it before. They just need to pull their finger out and stop pissin about.

My brother might have found a house. I can't remember the technical term for his heart thing it's erm he had a hole in one of the pipes and they had to replace it and it beats faster than normal. Last time the heart specialist bothered with him they said the valve they replaced was leaking but then haven't bothered to check up on it for about 2 years and aren't even bothering when he rings them about it.

Yeah there's loads of places now because of the state of the economy. I didn't talk to him last night, I fell asleep. :sweat:

I don't know what hospitals are like at yours but I think ours is because it's the NHS and the private sector is better but we can't afford that. My mum tried to get this Bupa one when me and my brother was born because he has a heart thing but when she told them about his heart they bumped the price up and said anything connected to his heart wouldn't be covered so she didn't bother because that was the whole point of taking it out.

He never tells her off when she does something wrong, she knows she's doing something wrong but she knows she can get away with it like a kid. She's from the dogs home and she has clearly been trained at least a little bit by her original owner before they abandoned her because she knows what "leave" means and I know my brother has never said that to her.

Mm I'd go with the first one as the ideal but second as back up. Don't know yet gonna ask him about it tonight. Don't really want to move too far because there are times like now when my mum does need me to be close and with neither me or Johnny being able to drive and me having no plans to learn any time soon needs to be fairly close.

My mum's a little upset, the ward my Grandma is on now are really good at looking after her and have relieved her of her carer duties so I think she's feeling a little erm rejected. But they are there to take care of her that's what they're getting paid to do. They're really good on this new ward they've proper pulled their finger out and started actually working to help and she likes the physio lady much better and the doctor is changing a lot of her medication and has given her some that should remove all the fluid she's got built up in her body. So hopefully we're gonna get somewhere now. :)

Yeah it is better so far.

I've had my brothers dog all day, she's so cute and good for me she doesn't obey him because he babies her.

Me and Johnny are gonna have to find somewhere in a bit.

Yeah that wards physio was going to assess her today so hopefully they have a nicer physio that she will want to do things for but I asked her how she was and she said she was much happier now. It wasn't helping that they were keeping her on that other ward after they couldn't do anything else for her.

Oh cool, glad you found a good place. My brothers looking now but it'll be harder for him because he's got bad credit and needs to find somewhere that allows pets and he's only got 2 months to find somewhere as well because his landlady is selling the house they're in and there's no room here for him and all his pets plus our dog doesn't like his dog.

Yeah maybe.

Good news though, she got moved to the new ward today and she can see out the window and has an awesome view of the moors.

I don't know, he was gone for ages they've said they've put her as priority.

I keep getting really bad headaches, I've had 3 since Wednesday. :|

We know why the food provided by the hospital is often cold, their kitchen is out of order so they're ordering it in but instead of getting somewhere close they're getting it from Wales. Which is ridiculous I don't know which part of Wales it is but north Wales is at least 2 hours away at the very top of the country. :|