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Leaving home; And being comfortable with it. :P
I'm still living with mom and my sisters because I'm 15. My mom is casually hinting for me to get a job but I can't deal with customers or any form of publicity. I'd rather work in the back somewhere, but I don't know what kinds of jobs are out there. I guess my problem is that I'm not informed alot, no one tells me these things. >_>;
I know that after I turn 16 my mom will be poking me with a stick until I move out, and if I haven't got a job by then, she'll be poking me even harder. But heh, just thinking about living on my own ish kinda scary. I can look after myself but it's all that money that seemed to grow on trees when I was younger. D': I don't know what the average job pays, but from what everyone else is saying, it kind of sounds like you're paying for alot when you have your own house/apartment. Adding to that, if something bad happens I don't know what to do. I don't even know what the hell a tax file number is and my mom keeps asking me if I have one. XD (But hey, my 30-year-old sister still lives with us and mom doesn't complain. D:< ) -ahem- Enough out of me; what about you guys? :P What was it like for any of you to leave home? Did you move in with a friend or did you decide to live on your own? For those of you who haven't yet left home; are you looking forward to it? And of course: did you get a job you wanted or did you reluctantly work at a shitty place you never want to think about? (Jobs are related because, duh, you need money to move out. O_o ) I guess I'm just asking this because I always want to know about other peoples' experiences. ^^ |
Are they even allowed to kick you out at 16? I thought it was 18?
Getting a job can be hard, I know. Don't work at places like McDonalds if you can't deal well with people (I know I can't.) Go to clothing stores and apply there - while they get a lot of people, it's usually not all at once and the pace is pretty slow. |
I'm 20 in a month, no job, and living in my moms basement. xDD
I'm trying to get a job so I can move the hell out. Dx I used to be scared of the idea of moving out and being on my own, but now I don't care. I just want to get away from my family. xD I'll probably still visit them lots though. I'll take my laundry to them so I can do it for free. xD AND EAT THEIR FOOD. KEKEKEKEKE. |
Well I never planned on working in restaurants but a clothing store sounds okay, I guess. They don't have rowdy customers. ^^
I'm not sure what the legal age is. My mom says it's 16, one of my school teachers said that she moved out when she was 16, and.. yeah. Edit: Chan, you remind me of my other sister. She comes here to eat all the time. xD |
xDD I guess we are both mooches.
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Ashe, what country do you live in?
In America in the state of Pennsylvania, it's 18. If they try to kick you out before then, I think it's technically considered neglect. I know that some states differ on the age of consent or adulthood or drinking, so I don't know if maybe where you live it's different. But 15 is WAY too young to just get whipped out the door.... especially since you just said you don't know a lot about the working world. But if you really want to get a job in the back, I'm sure you can ask about your position when getting an application. As for me, I'm 17, I haven't moved out yet but I'm very excited at the prospect of going to college. I don't think my grades are stellar enough nor my skill level high enough to get me into a great art college, but I still have senior year of high school to get a lot of work done. And Ive never had a job, but they just changed the graduation requirements here so I have to perform 40 hours of community service in some form. That isn't gonna be fun... |
omigosh i know!
my mom was always bugging me to get a job or move out or to do something i'm so used to the comforts of home that i sort of became a leech off of other people i can cook, and i can shop, so i'm sort of like a wandering housekeeper so lame, but i don't want to go to school, and i don't want to work right now |
Ah, yes, I've heard this one before.
I was about fifteen when my parents began urging me to get a job. Every day I'd hear stories and lectures about how they had to work for everything, weren't privileged like I was, and had jobs at 14 to support the household. What my father fails to recant is how he'll brag later in the day about all his family vacations to Europe, living in a massive house, the boats, the music lessons, the music instruments, all of it. So, 16 came, then 17, and now I'm 18 and I still don't have a job. Eventually they began to threaten that if I didn't get one, I would have to move out. I didn't really know what to do. I did apply to various places, and no one called back or responded to the resumes (which is silly, because I have no experience). So, my parents feel it's necessary to ridicule and pick on me for anything I do, or don't do. I'm starting college, and that was my biggest worry; having to keep a job while attending school as a full-time student. I babysit from time-to-time, which brings in a decent sum. And you're so young, I wouldn't really worry about it. I have older siblings that are used for examples as 'good' children. My father won't complain about them either. |
In a way I'm looking forward to moving out because I will be able to do what I like in my own home, be in any room and not have to be hassled by parents. That being said, I'll miss the home cooked meals, and pretty much free everything haha. I'm just about to start a job, and when I save up enough money I'll definitely be thinking about moving out in the near future.
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I'm excited about leaving home. Do what I want, when I want, and how I want to. I know it'll be difficult and hard, but that's what makes it an adventure, and I'm all for adventure! ^_^
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My whole problem was that I could never work at a place I didn't like. Right now, I still live at home because I'm trying to save money to start my own business. I couldn't live with any of my friends because I just wouldn't be able to stand spending that much time with anyone, except my husband. Some time this year, I plan on moving in with my husband, if we can find a place that doesn't cost us an arm and a leg.
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Moving out at 16? Bit rough, at that age you are still a minor no matter if they can kick you out or not you will basically have more trouble then it is worth. I would say deal with the poking mayhap see if you can re direct it to your sister XP
As for me I took the college move out, I show back up for free food and laundry and to play with my kitty cat but honestly by 20 It is time to leave I love them dearly but I am growing up and in another few years off the apron strings entirely >>;;; Living on your own can be nice too, I do what I want when I want and ya know that can be pretty nice. I think having an idea what I want to do with my life too helps, and part of that is no longer living where I grew up so that helps the whole not live with parents forever thing too..... As for a Job, I till now worked summers only and the on campus during the year, The best Jobs BTW as they bend to your school needs! But for non customer dealing jobs there are a good number, If you don't mind heavy labor night restock at places is good, Technical jobs doing like data input, or if you don't mind little kids daycare, look in the paper or online too and research a bit that should pop up more things for you to do. If you don't have the experience try volunteering first as a way to build contacts and some sort of resume. @Merrow- Drinking is 21 uniform for the US, other parts of the world differ. @the_paper_crane- if you want try foe on campus work, it is the best way to hold a job down. Might not pay much but it is better then nothing... |
I didn't move out until I was twenty. I always knew that I wanted to move out and have my own space but I'm so very close to my family I couldnt imagine not living with them. But my sister and I had a fight...mega fight (She was choking me to death and I was desperately trying to call the police while she was trying to drag me away from the phone using a necklace and my hair, my dad came in and dragged her off of me and I couldn't breath properly for a good ten minutes...mega fight). I decided to leave.
Using the council I was able to get my own place without having a job, but the place was horrible! I was terrified of the bathroom and celler (the electricity meter was in the celler) and slept with a broom. I used my parents bathroom more than my own. But after being in there a short while I got my job. It really is a shock how much everything costs when you own your own place, I've been living on my own over a year now and I still haven't got my budgeting down properly. And then the credit crunch makes it even harder! I earn nearly a grand a month, and by midmonth I'm down to a hundred or so. Food and travel only. And even then...bare minimum on food. But it's ok, because I am so close to my parents we all help each other out. I don't know who owes who what anymore. I think I only owe my mum for my deposit...and kitty litter (she owns a pet shop). There was a murder two doors down from my hell house so I had to move out, my mum offered to lend me the deposit to get me out of there and into a nice new place. Also, my sister and I have a wonderful relationship now we can just hang up on each other or go home. But in short, it's always hard moving out, but it's really not that scary. |
I'm 27 and I'm still living with my Mom. I want to move out but I don't have a job since I am studying in a law school. If I get a job and get enough money. I'd like to move out.
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I wish I could be as optimistic as Cherry Doll.
I'm always scared of legal things, like if I did something that I didn't know was against the law, or something similar. ._.; Oh and, the legal age of drinking here (in Australia) is 18. So maybe you can live on your own when you are 16. I can just imagine mom booking me a hotel room and leaving me there. xD @fallen_angel: Woah, I'm really glad you and your sister worked things out. o-o; |
I got a consistent job at 17. I'm a babysitter and I sit for two ladies. It's a reasonable workload and the pay is good and tax free. I'm 18 now and still living at home and most likely will stay here until I get out of college. I think I'm rather lucky because I have a twin sister and we'll probably end up getting our first apartment together. I'm sure that will make paying for our own place a lot easier. I'm not anxious to move out though, I have a hard enough time paying for my car. >.<;
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I'm currently -renting- from my parents, but I also work. Unfortuantely there's no real way to learn to deal with customers of any form, or an office job, until you give it a shot. So you don't really know that you 'can't' until you give it a try. I'm also working on finding a place to move out again, since I'm engaged and we're looking to get married and find a house.
I'll say it's an big shift, and it's not all happyness and bedtime when you feel like it. There's stuff that needs to be done and if you rent, contracts between yourself and the person you're renting from that need to be followed, but it can also be very rewarding. Before you do it, it seems massive and intimidating, but once you actually TRY it, and see that you are in fact capable of doing -that- much by yourself, there's really nothing else like it. The fact that you're not one hundred persent comfortable isn't nessisarily bad, it means you're cautious, and thats good. If you're equally cautious in hunting for a place, and a job when it's time, you'll probably also be careful and reasonable in how you spend your money, and you'll do better. |
I moved out at 18 when I went to college... And while I was homesick for the first couple of months, I got over that pretty quickly. Freshman year was nice, because I didn't have to pay for anything, as I had scholarships. But after moving out of the dorms and living in apartments/houses that were more expensive/had utilities to pay for, I had to learn to live cheaply. Though I may have gotten some help from my parents, I tried to be as independent as I could and worked as much as possible.
I have always had a job it seems. I remember starting to babysit around 12 years old, and by the time I was 16, I had my first 'official' tax-paying job at the pool, lifeguarding. I had various other jobs up through college, and though some of them paid horribly, I think they were great experiences. I did have to move back in with my mom briefly after a breakup with my boyfriend a couple of years ago, as I was moving from Oklahoma back home to KC. I was there a total of two months before I got a job, and I was DYING to get my own place. Not that I don't love my mom and all, but I'd been living on my own for so many years that living at home just wasn't for me. I was too used to doing things my way, and though if I had to, I'd move in with her again, I'd just rather not. I am 26, so I think it's understandable to not want to live at home. |
I never was comfortable with leaving my mothers house,
I was forced to do it when I was 18, cause my mother died and my brother and I could not stay in that house because it was suitable for complete families, and not for a teenager and a 20 year old. Glad an uncle suported me quite enough with everything, and at that time i had a boyfriend (who I still have now) and he was there for me alot. I live with my boyfriend now though. I don't have the job I wanted, but I realy had a cool job at a laboratory, I never knew I would actualy do that kind of work. Friday was my last day there, it was season-bound work. It was a realy cool time there, and sure hope to get something like that again ^^ |
Yeah,so am I, Thank you. We were constantly bullied at school and learned that in a fight we had to disable our opponent or else there'd be another 20 ready to kill us...literally (one of my bullies and one of hers are serving for murder) so even after we left school, if we fought it was always very serious because we couldn't get out of the "fight for our lives" mode. We're great friends now. We never fight because we know we can just go away and leave it. We do still yell a lot though :P She's not a bad sister, it's the people who bullied her who made her like that.
Moving out really helps to strengthen family ties because you're not tripping over each other needing your own space. |
Well you could always work at like a resturant and stay in the kitchen, or just do the dishes? :3
I'm still 15 as well as you, but my I don't think I'll be leaving my parents until i'm finish college/university. :3 But I already have a job, well it's with my dad, but I kinda wish I had a different job. xD |
Okay..for your job problem, looking for a backroom inventory job, or go to an auto place and ask if they have a position to pull parts from the back. As for moving out and getting a job, I know exactly how you feel. I have the pressure coming at me too. I'd say figure out what the local minimum wage is and see what kind of apartments around where you go to school fit your budget. Also look into foodstamps and section 8 housing before you make the big move.
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Another option to look for is cleaning work - for example, older well-to-do folks will sometimes hire a person to come in once a week and do the vacuuming, dusting, polishing, etc. I did that myself in college to supplement mine and my husbands' income.
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Uhh i still at home, and im 24 x-x
Sad but i can't really afford to live off my own back at the moment. I dont really like my job and its only part time. I look every week for loyal shops suited to me. But none come up. Its a sad case really... and with recession hitting its a real worry. |
I moved out at 18 so that a friend of mine in high school who was 17 could stay and graduate there. His mom was moving out of the district and he had to have an adult to be able to do it. I wasn't ready, my mom wasn't ready, but we did it. It was nice. We got a little 2 bedroom house about 2 blocks away from my mom. I didn't have to work as I already had my college annuity money that paid monthly for living expenses and my deceased fathers social security so that was nice. I just focused on school. He had to get a job though and ended up as a telemarketer. I know he wasn't none to pleased about it but he made enough part time to live decently on and he wouldn't have been able to do that with a minimum wage job. All in all, I think it turned out fine. The only problem we ran into was when we first moved in together a bunch of our friends came over and ate all of our food. I had to get a small loan from my mom to get more groceries for the month.
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