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Invasion of Privacy
I've just finished reading my younger brother's Bebo page. (social networking site)
It was on the computer when I sat down, he must have forgotten to sign out. It didn't reveal anything of particular interest, except that he wants to lose his virginity at 15, which is under age and a tad alarming... seeing as the girl could be 13 or 14. edit; Yes, to read his page was wrong. |
Unfortunately its like the new cool. Young teens thinks its cool to have sex at that age but the reality is, they can't handle the consequences. They just see it as them having a fun cool time. If I found one of my younger siblings out on this kind of scheme, I would have a nice long talk about it. Its one thing to have it later like 17+ but at that age it shouldn't be there goal. I hope everything works out grand.
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1) your parents should have access to what you and your brother do on the computer.
well in this case, your brother since he is young. 2) i would inform your parents, IMO its better to be safe than sorry. since young kids these days feel the need to have sex with no thought of consequences. the worst that can happen, is that he gets mad but that is all he can be. its not like he can run away and take care of himself |
@ Bunai - I didn't actually think of telling my parents, but I'll consider it.
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Kinda scary that people would set goals of when to have sex.
Stereotypical teenager right there.... x.x |
Yechh! At 15?!
At 16, maybe, 'cause that's legal, but having sex with someone so young would be really really scary. D= -scared- |
Wow, people. Who says all teenagers don't think about consequences? I was thinking the same thing as her brother, but I've thought about that sort of thing all the time.
The generalizations of those who think they are superior are absolutely infuriating. I may only be thirteen, and you may think I'm stupid, but I just thought that I should put that out there. Not all teenagers who want to have sex are absolutely stupid like you think they are. On the subject, I've got to say that I think that what you did was absolutely wrong. It's his little place for him to not have to deal with people that know him in real life getting to that sort of information. Sure, a few may know, but that's because he might want them to. Invasions of privacy = bad = fail. Naughty sister D=< |
Remember that people aren't always themselves when they're online - They can twist and turn the truth in order to make themselves more appealing to new people. Just because he says something doesn't mean that it's 100% true.
If this issue really concerns you, just talk to him about it. Tell him the truth and ask him what's up. I'm sure he'll be more likely to talk to you than to your parents and he may appreciate you coming to him first. |
How sad.
It goes along with an article I read in a newspaper the other day. The fact that teen pregnancy is at an all time high. The newspaper blamed the media (of course) especially movies like Juno. We're not saying that all teenagers don't think about the consequences, but what is the ratio of those who do and those who don't? I'm going to take a guess and say that most teenagers don't. |
That is actually typical for teens no a days. I would inform your parents on what his goals are. You could also talk with him about sex and girls.
I think children and young teens need to have very little freedom on the inter net. |
Er.. contrary to what everyone else thinks, I don't think it's your place to step in and tell him it's not okay to have sex yet. It's his decision, isn't it? Do you have any reason to think he wouldn't be responsible about it? O___o;; I know public opinion says teenagers are idiots and have no idea what a condom is, but it's not really true.
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It's not so much about telling him sex isn't okay. Hell I hate it when people are like that. xD
But to actually say "I want to lose my virginity at THIS age" is kinda...wrong, imo. |
I think you should talk to your brother as well before going to your parents... or you know... maybe just keeping it to yourself >_>... he may not even do what he says... how old is he anyway? is he 15 now? ...
I'm not sure if I can say much else without starting a argument/debate/virtual fight xD... that's a good topic for debate ... how young is too young to lose your virginity ... I should see if there is a thread in the debate forum xD *wanders away* |
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I can safely say that i am still a virgin at the age of 17,..... not many people would believe that due to how most teenagers have had sex before reaching even 15, but its true :P
Basically if you are worried consult your parents,.. Id go more for the momma, papas can take these things some times the wrong way and fly off the handle,.... Although you did invade your brothers privacy which is wrong,... it was good you found out exactly what is going on in his mind,.... although it is natural for a boy at all ages to want sex from the ages of about 6+ they may not understand it,.... but its still there in his mind *NOTE: Oedipus Complex* |
That's disgusting, and way too young. Actually, the law says that you can't have sex until you're 18, but everyone does it anyway because it's not reinforced. If I saw my little brother typing that I would immediately tell my parents. Secrets shouldn't be kept, they are evil.
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then there is no reason to defend yourself. or assume the 'people' who say such things have a "Superiority Complex" if anything, its out of concern for someone else. overall, more Teens who dont think ahead or have a concern over their life outnumber the ones who do. the antics are stupid, but overall that is what Teens are do, they explore and need to learn or someone to guide them. Quote:
if this was so Private, he wouldnt tell the whole Internet. personal opinion most stores do not sell condoms to young children. and there are various kinds he would have to consider. if he is being underhanded about it, i just see no "happy ending" coming from this. as a sibling who has a concern over her brother, i say she has every right to step in. especially if both live under their parents roof. |
Oh boy, my parents would freak if they saw that.
Good thing it was only you who saw that xD Did you tell your parents after? xDD |
iut depends where people grow up, I know at a young age, that people want to do that, but it is young in my opinion, harp a bit on it being a big decision more than you are too young for it. As for the rest of the time, it is something that I worry about the girl more than the guy, she has more to lose. that is what is concerning above it all, one kills their education, and their life, and normally cause issues for the kids if they do that. It is their decision, but something that I would hope they don't do for seeing the consequences if he does.
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Before you tell your parents about it, have a talk with him first.
He could just be making it up to seem "cooler" online. I know a lot of people are different online than they are in real life. If that truly is his goal, then yes, you should inform your parents about that. He might kick and scream and tell you not to tell them, but you definitely should. On a side note;; it's wrong to go through peoples' pages. Even if he forgot to sign out, you should have just signed out for him and left it at that. |
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