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When I was younger I felt like a failure very often.
I have always had relatively low grades (as a result of my perfectionism, I can't get anything done! ;__; ), therefore I convinced myself that I was useless, stupid, and that I was a burden to others because I was so stupid. And I quite honestly believed it. It was only half way through last year, when I was talking about the study of physiognomy to a friend, that the rest of the class were eavesdropping (small class), when Caroline and the others turned to me and said: "Gavrilla, you're freaking brilliant. I wish I was as smart as you." That was when I realized I was smart. And I no longer felt like I was a failure. I used to beat myself up, telling myself that I was a failure in my family because I have poor french. I'm an outcast in the family because of that, therefore it was something that always haunted me: If I could speak better french I would make my father proud. But I could never do it. Therefore, with the help of the family's opinion of me, I was convinced that I was a failure to the family. I visited Ma Tante Dianne (one of the only aunties that hasn't ostracized me), when she was amazed, because my french was not only good, but it comes naturally to me. Then, surprisingly to me, when I returned to school in the fall, I had one of the best spoken french, only topped by a girl from Quebec. And all of those years I spent, asking my friends for help in french, has been switched because it's now them that asks me. I know that I'll never measure up to my dad's standards, but at least I know I'm not a failure anymore. There have been plenty of things like that which have bothered me, but all of them were the result of beating myself up about something. I haven't gotten that feeling in a very long time because I spend my time doing things that I'm proud of; volunteering, and helping people, so even if I know that my french is crap, at least I'm helping someone. So if I die today, I'd die knowing that I accomplished something and therefore I am not a failure. n__n Perhaps you should look into volunteering at the homeless shelter or something? You meet a lot of new people, and the people who actually do help out there are the kindest souls you'll ever meet. |
I feel like a failure when I do something wrong..or someone is mad at me. and when i get bad grades.
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I'm going to start off by saying, once you're in a career path, say if you're a doctor, nobody but your boss is going to care what college you went to. If you can't afford university, it's better to get an education at a community college than to just quit and become a fast food worker.
And yes, I criticise myself like crazy. I gained five pounds? I'm turning into a cow. I got a B+? Holy crow I need to study. I'll never be as good as my sister. Honestly. It kills me, too. A lot of people mention how amazing she is to me. I have to do something outrageously abnormal to get any recognition. So I started theatre, and I'm going to London this March to do a professional play in the West End. I got all the money through scholarship. |
Yes...sometimes. when i dont just cant get something right, or i'm failing a class or maybe when I'm just having a crappy day...sometime when you think everything is going wrong, i think that's when most people feel like a failular.
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I felt like a failure when i failed all my TAKS test in 5th grade! :(
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Everyone has times that they have done something wrong.
Truth is, the only wrong doing they can do is hurt someone or themselves. I know anyone can tell you this, but you have to take the rain to get a rainbow. Everything might be falling apart at some time, but you simply pick up the pieces and find some glue. You know what, scratch that. It's not always simple, but if you consider everything you do and acquire some patience everything will fall into place. |
I attend what could be considered a community college right now. I was directed to attend it because undergraduate programs are basically the same, no matter where you go. The difference is, I don't have to spend $40,000 on tuition for basic classes and a basic degree for only 24 credits.
I believe that this year, in a grand total, tuition, books, parking, every other fee that a college throws at you, came to a total of $5,000. Which, when you think about it, a good sum of money when you're starting out on your own, but it's definitely nowhere near $40,000. I've felt like a failure before, of course. I failed one class ($200 right down the drain). And I've done plenty of things that weren't up to someone else's standards, which makes you feel awful. You've got to remember that if it makes you happy, then despite your situation, you shouldn't be forced to worry how it makes others feel or think of you. |
I just felt like a failure last night when my ballroom dance teacher humiliated me in front of my class when I couldn't "bend" my knees. I know it was unintentional, but because of a little mistake, I was teased for the night.
I wouldn't have felt like a failure if I hadn't taken 10 years of tap, jazz, and ballet. Talk about an ego killer Dx |
Yes. But the thing to remember is to always learn from your failures and mistakes; this will make you wiser. Without them, we would never grow as humans and remain stagnant in life. ;)
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My boyfriend and i started to fall apart but things are starting to pick up. I have recently quit most of the wrong things i used to do, but my friends still do it all, so we really don't talk now.... mostly they stopped talking to me. I droped out of school two years ago but i am ready to go back in september for my ABE and i'm actually very excited. |
Sometimes I do fell like a failure but not all the time.
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Only when I look around me and see at all the things I've never done. DX;
Like .. cleaning my room. Cleaning this, or doing that, picking up this, or organizing that. Blah. :C |
Definitely.
I'm 17, VERY behind in my schooling, have no job, don't have my license despite having had my permit for over two years, have very few friends, am on the computer all day, have no motivation or physical energy to do much of anything - even if I want to, am pretty badly out of shape, and I'm not very good looking to boot. So yeah. Every single day. |
Who doesn't? It's difficult to admit you've failed. But, giving up is even worse. It's better to try and fail, than to not try at all. |
I feel like a failure everyday in my life.. I am constantly reminded that I am a bad driver and have totaled two cars. Whenever I try and be nice and help out with my parents laundry I seem to do something wrong... it just seems i can never do anything right in my mind.... I just want to like die..
The only thing people say positive about all of that is that your a live and clothes can be replaced which doesn't make me feel any better but worse.. Sure I go to a state college for something that I find fastinating and I am not sure if it's totally right for me, but i am excited about it.. just yea.. >.>" that honestly doesn't make up for all the thing that I do wrong in everday life.. I am guess I am saying is that I am a big failure even though I have direction in my life.. |
All the time
I often find myself lacking in many ways. I feel I'm imperfect while everyone around me is more perfect then I. I know how wrong these feelings can be but they never seem to go away. They make me feel they stem from a confidence problem.
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I've felt pretty useless lately because I don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and I have nobody to devote my time to and nobody devotes their time to me. Like... Yeah.
It's a bit more like feeling unloved. |
I am a failure.
It's a bit depressing. |
I skipped college and enlisted in the Army Reserves instead. I really like the experience and it made me stronger. Unfortunately I married young and was in an awful abusive relationship for some time. I felt so bad for failing at marriage.
In time, I met an amazing man that I am still with now. I like to think the order of things happens for a reason. If I had not gone through what I had, I would not have met the person I was meant to be with. |
I felt like a huge failure when I failed my intermediate Cechetti ballet exam last winter. But I passed it now, so it's all good. I just had to wait half a year, which really sucked. Also, I had to pay the fee twice. $184, twice. That harsh sucked.
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Eh, I feel like a failure every day at some point, but then my brain cycles around to reality. I'm just like anybody else.
In my choices in my life I went toward caregiver and being productive creatively rather than money. I'm still alive, that's all I'll say, lol. I have some success and some not success. |
Yeah, I have no backbone, no skills, I'm not exceptional at anything and I'm told all the time that I'm odd. :/
I have no future, no goals, and I'm unorganized. I'm going to university but there's no chance of me getting a scholarship because my grades are just so unbalanced. I can't do what I want to do because I don't want to do it. I can't do what I kind of want to do because I can't pass the courses. So what can I do? Besides drop out and work at McDonalds the rest of my life.. So yes, I feel like a failure constantly. |
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I often times feel like a failure. Right now I'm in the 11th grade, I don't think I'm really going to make it to collage due to lack of money and I'm not all that smart at all really. I'm horrible at math and I'm letting my parents down.
I'm in the middle of my end of the trimester breakdown though... I feel like a failure at least once every 3 months. |
yes. i was part of the relay race and i run prettty fast so i was able to out run the girl but then the baton dropped and were like 3 seconds away from the other team
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