New bf questions
 

You know when you're going out with a new guy for the first time, the butterflies, and excitement, and stuff?

Well, I'm going out with this guy that I've always thought was really, really cute, but we never were both available at the same time before.

We are now.

This is a guy I could see myself totally falling hard for.

My question to everyone is. Do you remember the last time you felt the way I do now, and how did it turn out? Did you wind up staying together for a long time, or get married, or at least are still together?

Also, I really, really like this feeling, and if you get with the guy and stay together for a long, long time, does it go away, and would you miss the feeling, or does it just get better?

I dont' think I've ever been this excited about a boi before.

Lol, Supreme Commander Gavila~~ I love visual aids. :yes:

Hmm. At my age I have a problem with single guys and them shutting down emotionally at some point. Pretty much, normal guys should have made a relationship decision before they were 25, or they're always going to be stunted like this, lol. ; ; But yeah, that's what happened last time, and I liked him a LOT, too.

But at least the reward for that kind of relationship ending is a good time boyfriend where you don't take anything seriously, before moving on to try again.

Oh, whenever I talk to my fiance I get the butterflies as though I've fallen in love all over again!

Me and my fiance have been together for over a year and we love each other more and more each day! It's a wonderful feeling!

I loved my man so much that I had to ask him to marry me!

Love is an amazing thing! <3333

MaryKay: Didn't you post not too long ago about your previous boyfriend? (Just wondering, I could be wrong.)

I felt this way for my current boyfriend; 1 year, 6 months later, we're still together. I still love him as much as I did 3 months into our relationship.
Still together! =3
It takes an awful lot of work to keep the feelings there. I don't quite get the butterflies anymore, but I believe these song lyrics from Razia's Shadow explain how I feel quite well: (Sorry, Razia's Shadow is all I listen to these days)
I mean, my first relationship where I got butterflies lasted for 4 months, and I got hurt really bad, because I was putting in a lot more than I was getting out. Just be careful. But good luck on your new boy :)

I agree with the others. Right now you feel really great about the relationship because it's new and possibly because you haven't seen his faults yet. That doesn't mean that you won't like him as much when you see his flaws, it just means that you have to be ready to accept them. Most likely things will change and this feeling you're having for him right now will change into a different kind of love if you stay together.

The last time I felt like that was with my boyfriend that I'm still with. We've been together for 4 years now. Things have definitely changed from the initial feelings, but I like the security that I get from that. When things seem like they're changing in a relationship and you aren't sure you like it, my advice would be to not let the other person know that you're freaking out (unless it really is a huge deal of course). Things changed in our relationship that I wasn't too thrilled about at first, but they turned out to be completely normal. If I'd made it a huge deal, it would've turned in to a huge deal.

The only time I felt like that towards anyone is with my husband. I couldn't see myself with anyone else either.

Aww that's great!! It's a nice feeling! Totally agree though, get to know him better and if you can accept his flaws then it's great! If you can't be ready to accept that there are other boys (:

I've been with my boy for 8 months, the thing about us is that we don't live in the same city so it's really exciting when we are about to see again (pretty much every 2-3 weeks). Lately I've been having the same feeling from when I met him, I remember going to work and feeling butterflies in my stomach because I knew I would see him! That was for the first 2 months. When the construction ended he had to go and we both were heart broken, that's when I knew we were going to last even if we were far.

I haven't thought about getting married or being for a long time with him. Just take it step by step, things will go as they are supposed to go so it's all good =D

I'm a pessimist, so I won't offer any advice because it'll only depress you, but I remember the last time I felt for someone such as you, we stayed together for three years (he lived with me and everything), then one day we realized that we grew up so close to each other that we had become more like siblings than lovers and I broke up with him and kicked him out of my parent's house

:3

I went on a first date with a guy this evening. Oh, my. See, the entire day, we flirted a bit, and cuddled on the couch in the recharge room, and then I got him to ask me out to dinner. And wow. He's cute, has great eyes, and he seems to get my sense of humor.

I dunno where it'll go, but I'm glad to let him take me there for the moment. I love the feeling of the early part of a relationship, where you're falling for one another. It's great to be caught up in passion, rather than settled in and just doing things out of comfort.

Been in the relationship for a year and three months or something now.
I still get the butterflies, but not when I think of him. Only when we're being all lovey-dovey.
As it should be. If they were around all the time nobody would be able to think straight and we'd all be getting ourselves into bad situations.
No, it's not like it used to be. It is not nearly as nice. People become disinterested and stop paying attention to you, or you find that they weren't what you thought you were looking for.
Either it works out or it doesn't. Take the chance. Get hurt. It's good for you.
As for me I promised him that I wouldn't leave him, so I might as well be married.
They can't all have happy endings, you know.

I'm starting to feel that way now about a guy I just met. We're both looking for a relationship, and we seem compatible. He's also unlike any guy I've ever dated, which is definitely a plus. I tend to get hit on online a lot, so it's refreshing to find someone who only lives a few hours away that I can connect with and possibly meet.

The last time I felt this way was...when I dated my last boyfriend. We had dated once back in high school (nearly 5 years before), but we had gone our different ways. We started talking again and became friends, but he was moving to be with a different girl. I went on vacation and didn't get to see him before he moved, but when I came back, he had already moved back and wanted to give it a shot with me instead. Things didn't turn out well because he kept secrets. He...wasn't ready for a relationship like he thought he was, and I got hurt because of it. I had trust issues before that, and they didn't get better, but I'm working on it. Still, I can't give up on love, and neither should anyone else. It's worth it once you find the right one.

Good luck!

I beg to argue the all might visual aid. The biggest problem with it is that it clearly ignores the existence of infatuation. You meet someone, you have a crush on them, you become infatuated with them, the infatuation eventually wears off and you are left either loving that person, depending on them, or simply with little to no feelings for them. Dependence is often mistaken with love as well - if you spend a bunch of hours a day with someone you are going to be thinking about them all the time even if you don't love them. Love can be a completely different type of climax than infatuation and affect you completely differently based on your significant other.

(One must remember that I am female and have a misleading avatar. xD Mmkay? )

I remember the first time I saw my current girlfriend. It was about a year and a half ago? Maybe 15 months or so? She was in my Social Studies class, sitting two rows ahead of me and I fell. Hard. I remember becoming friends and realizing almost immediately I was madly in love with her.
The first time I told her, I was rejected. Kindly, mind you, but I was still shattered. Over this summer, though, she broke up with her boyfriend and our friendship just got closer and closer. We started actually thinking of ourselves as a couple and in a relationship about three months ago? After all that time of pining over a broken heart, I ended up with hers after all.
I still think it's the best and the luckiest thing that's ever happened to me. Love is great when it's not unrequited.

I was in a relationship for four years with this guy, and it ended up being a really destructive relationship, but that was after about two years. We both sort of knew that we hated each other but sort of loved each other too, and just stayed put for another two years, then he went to university and finished me over the phone.

I'd already fallen in love with someone else, when our relationship was crumbling anyway, and this person also loved me. We've been together a year and a bit, and we do have arguments and some problems but things are generally great, and we've moved into a house together and are trying to save up money to move out of this horrible town.

I love those butterfly feelings.