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ibfvliebd lksan!!!!!!
Ok, so you don't have to respond to this. You don't even have to READ this. I just need to rant SOMEWHERE and this is the ONLY place where the person I am mad at doesn't have an account. ><
So now, I shall proceed. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I am so pissed at my roommate right now. We always have our issues, which I'm not going to go into, but I really can't stand her sometimes. Thank God we have separate rooms. (it's like an apartment style) We were all working on a group project: my sister, myself, and my 2 other roommates. Judy, the one I'm mad at- decided she wanted to randomly say that Virgins are more perverted than people who aren't virgins just to make herself feel better because SHE is perverted and a virgin. I am a virgin too, and I am a prude, and don't like to talk about sex. So I told her. So she decided she wanted to talk about nothing BUT sex. I've been asking her to stop for over half an hour to no avail. She KEEPS talking about it, and I find it offensive. I can handle a sex joke or two. Sure I might squirm, and go 'eew,' but it doesn't kill me. But MY GOD. She keeps talking about how this works, and all these bodily functions, and about all these stories revolving around this person having sex in an inappropriate, place, blah blah blah, in FAR too much detail. And the proverbial "last straw," after telling her repeatedly to STOP and changing the subject a few time, she has the audacity to start gossiping about the sex life of one of her FRIENDS, one of my acquaintances (we can call her "A"), and all A's "sex toys" and the size of A's... 'hole,' and her boyfriend's... well.. you get the idea. And I am SICK OF IT. I don't give a DAMN about A's sex life and I don't think she would appreciate knowing her "friend" is proclaiming it to people she barely knows. It's pissing me off. Judy should know when to SHUT UP. It is disrespectful to me, AND to her friend, who trusted her enough for her to KNOW about her sex life in the first place. And then I just got up and left, and she says, "oh, sorry" like she cares. And as soon as I close my door, guess what? I can STILL hear her talking about it because the walls are thin. So now I am destroying my ears with piano music as loud as I can stand. Am I overreacting? Maybe I'm just too prudish for a 19 year old? D= Ugh I don't know. but It's past midnight and I want to sleep. But it I take off my headphones I know what I'll hear, and it won't be the sound of my breathing. >< |
Awwwww, Squee-chan. I know how you are on the subject.
I would tell her quite frankly that she should keep her sexual ideas to herself, especially since you would rather not hear it. Although I myself am an advocate for not hiding the truth from kids because they'll find it out anyway, it sounds like this person has a terrible terrible case of TMI. I also had this when I first started "having relations" with my boyfriend, but I've toned down since then. This sounds weird, but maybe she just needs to have sex to get it out of her obsession? I don't really support giving away your virginity for nothing but, I think her behavior is getting out of hand. I also hope you move off campus to a place with thicker walls. =3 Also, how are you and your sis doing? I haven't heard from her in FOREVER! Is she on Mene yet? |
Yep that is over the TMI line. I would have a sit down with your other roommates and draw some guidelines if you haven't already. If all three of you (not together unless you want that confrontational feel >>; ) bring it up to her that mayhap she is going to far she will get a clue.
She might to be going at you passive aggressively, so I would watch that so it doesn't escalate. Or for the reaction.... I know we push a few of our friends buttons by over mention a topic, but thank goodness we have the sense to stop before it get over the TMI.... but seeing as we are after the reaction it gets old fast >>; And if it dosen't some one else manages a snarky comment that either redirects or silences the offending parties. |
I'm 20 and I'm just like you, I haven't had sex because i'm even uncomfortable talking about it. So no, you're not overreacting. that was really rude of her.
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@ Jen- XD We're both doing well. Nee-san is a creative writing major now, if she didn't tell you! She likes it much more, I think.
And ugh, yes, tmi. But I guess what really bothers me isn't just that she said something, but that she went on and on (etc.) about it after I asked her to stop for a long time. >< Wha. D= Well, I'm moving out in the summer, so I guess it won't be too bad. |
You and Nee-san and Maria all need to take a train over here! There's Busch Gardens here!
But yes, good that you are moving out from that. Off-campus living is so much easier to deal with. |
I don't think you overreacted. Everyone has different tolerances and different levels of comfort. I am not necessarily a prude when it comes to talking about such things, but I would never find myself comfortable enough with the subject to talk about another friend's personal...anatomy/business/toys like your roommate did! Sounds like she is too much of a gossip for her own good. I'd recommend duct tape, but I'm sure there are better solutions to such a problem. If she does it again, as odd as this sounds, you might try a sort of...intervention. Is there anyone she actually listens to that you could appeal to for help? Or maybe the next time something like this happens, you and the others could have a plan where you all leave the room so she has no one left to talk to about such things.
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Ugh, she needs to have sex so she shuts up about it.
I think it's so funny that you're talking about how your apartment's walls are so thin you can hear your roommate talking about sex, when usually it's that awkwardness hearing your roommate and their SO having sex and how you bring it up or decide to act like it's not even happening. Once she said she was sorry and left, that's about all you can do. Invest in some headphones. Something. Distract her somehow. Because in the real world you usually don't have much choice in what you have to listen to or not. It's either headphones or you spend a lot of money to live in a big drafty house by yourself. |
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