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Okay, forget probationary, I've been debarred...
Yeah. I'm practically kicked out of the College of Engineering, but I can still study in the University...
And I thought I'd be on probationary, but noooo... I got debarred... I failed 15 units, and my parents are throwing fits at me like there's no tomorrow... :sarcasm: I'll be shifting to either Philosophy or Psychology... Only if the university still accepts student with 15 failed units... >_< Great... I've been screwed by life... I am a failure and a disappointment to the ever arrogant, overachieving family that I belong in... <_< |
I say you need to learn to fight back. So what if you got debarred?
At least you aren't as much of an arrogant ***** as your mom was being over YM. |
There's no use. It's normal for moms to be like that. To expect EVERYTHING from their child. Tch. She's a country girl, brother. Forgive her rudeness. <_<
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Ironically enough, I don't have my mom's arrogance and spite. XD) |
Not all parents expect perfection from their kids, I have always told mine that I don't expect them to be perfect, just do their best. Maybe you just got into the wrong field and you will excel elsewhere. I don't know you or your mom but, maybe your family is just mad because the put so much money and whatever else into your school and they don't feel you did your best. I wish you luck in whatever you chose to do with your life.
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Failing at college is not failing at life, first and foremost. Secondly, if you still have a shot at University, there are still plenty of opportunities in the field of higher education for you. There;s no need need to buy into a parent's need for their child's perfection. If you feel okay with where you are and what you are doing, I'd say you're in the clear.
If University is out of the question, it's still not the end of the world. Degrees just make some things easier to obtain, they aren't the final word on what you can and can't do with your life. Moreover, if the funds are available to you, you can always do like your friend and pick another vocation. |
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It's always money mom talks about. It's like she cares more about money than me... That's one thing I hate about her... She keeps on nagging how much I spend on this and that, and blah... |
Did she have problems with money or the lack of at any point? I bet she nags you out of concern more than anything else.
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@yzabetalone: She has debts. Our part of the family (mom, dad, lil' bro, and me) does... But it's mostly hers... She has a debt of around $1800 just for rent, and that's one reason we can't move to another place... Yeah, and I'm always the one to blame in terms of finance. She keeps on nagging that I don't use my money properly and that it would be better if my allowance was lessened... D:
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I'm not really sure what to say here, other than let you know that you're not alone. Pretty much the same thing happened to my boyfriend. The first college he went to was really tough, and he failed too many classes. And he's not a stupid person either. So he got kicked out of college, and his parents were furious at him. His parents are pretty awful in general about the whole college thing so this was probably the worst thing that could have happened to him. But he took a semester off, and then the next semester he got into a different college and he's managed to do okay in that college. I knew another person at my own college, who was very smart, a lot smarter than I am, taking difficult classes and I think he ended up failing and getting kicked out too. He wasn't a real close friend so I'm not sure what happened after that, if he managed to get back in or went somewhere else or did something else with his life. I don't really know, since I haven't heard from him since. But I guess what I'm saying is that it happens, and try not to feel too bad about it. I know how awful parents can be about this sort of thing. My own aren't too terrible but my boyfriend's are absolutely awful about this kind of stuff and they make him not even want to bother with college. Just try not to pay too much attention to your parents and if you go to another college just focus on that. College isn't easy and sometimes these things happen. Don't let it make you feel like it ruined your life or anything, or that you failed your family or yourself because of it.
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Maybe you can get scholarships at another school. Or you could ask all your professors if there's anything you can do to make up the failed classes to at least get a passing grade. Although 15 is quite a lot, maybe you can find a way to at least ameliorate it.
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I want to stay at that university, and if I can, I'll be auditioning in the university orchestra for a scholarship so that my mom doesn't have to nag me too much about it... And yeah, I'll be writing a lot of letters to the dean of engineering about a few things like, make-up classes, and the intention to shift to either Philosophy or Psychology...
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I can relate to you somehow.
But it's not just as bad. ^^; Still... It's not a matter of gravity of the situation. xD; I failed a subject and got four incomplete grades. But that meant I'd be extending a year. They also bitched like there was no tomorrow. Also, they weren't very cooperative when I asked for help. Plus they knew I had problems during the semester I incurred my deficiencies and still it's all my fault. Ah well. Nothing wrong with that... I'm used to it. But wait~ This isn't about me. It's about you. ^^;; Are all your failures final and executory? As in no room for redemption at all? If there is then it could put you on probationary... Do you still want to continue studying Engineering? Is there no room for you to write a letter that will allow you one more chance? In our school, we can write a letter to be readmitted despite our having been kicked or what. It's possible here. Perhaps it's possible there? Read the rules... Or ask around. It could help. As for failing in itself... It's true. Failing college doesn't mean you fail at life. |
I now what you mean. Everyone in my family has a higher degree or is working on one but me. I failed out of three schools and had to drop out of one due to an accident. That was three years ago. It was a blessing though because now I know exactly what I want to do and I'm much happier trying to plan things out now then I would have been trying to finish a 8 year degree.
I don't think it's that big of a deal to fail out of one school. Sometimes people try to go for things that they thing they want to study but then find out it really isn't what they were interested in. Something better will come along. |
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Probationary is no longer possible. I think shifting is the only option left. That and transferring schools. |
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