Why I MUST befriend a girl that just scares me?
 

Hello everyone!

I'm really annoyed with what my "friends" told me.
Ok,was not directly told me...but they ALMOST said me that I'm obligated to befriend with a girl that when I look her in the eyes,It's almost like that she is going to get a gun and shoot me.
I don't know why,but when she speaks with me,or just look at my face,I get really,really scared.(and when I'm scared I almost always have an horrible reaction...:sweat:)

But in this special day,I was friggin angry.
Why,miss Sparkly?
Ok,I was being threated like a retarded person.And I was being really depreciated by my "friends",that never accept any of my ideas(and looked at me,maybe thinking "retarded girl..."),and after used something LIKE WHAT I SAID BEFORE!¬¬
And when I do what I love to(correct things),yelled at me.

Fact one: I couldn't stand that "the cycle" was going to happen over again,and I changed back to my old class(I just changed because in the morning was better for me,because I "help" my mom cleaning my home... and I get some bucks for doing this xD),now I'm trying to do everything in a small time,but happy.

What should I say them? maybe I should send them an "offensive" but really educated message? or ignore them?

Honestly, your "friends" just sound like they are just keeping you around for someone who could be of use. I don't know the whole story, but that's the impression they are giving me right now by what I hear.

Really, I would try looking for a new group of people to hang out with. A person who is not willing to listen and actually have some value in what you say can't be considered a friend. You don't have to completely cut your current group off. That only creates enemies. But slowly set yourself apart from them if they are that bad and find a group that actually enjoys and values your company, because it doesn't seem like they are right now.

If the current group really are good friends, they'll listen to you. And if you try to distance yourself they will try to reel you back in. If they, don't, you find new friends who will treat you like a friend.

As for scary chick, your not "obligated" to be friends with anyone, no matter what anyone says. You should be polite to everyone, unless there are specific circumstances (and I don't think this qualifies). But if it comes to needing to talk to her, give it a shot. I've made plenty of friends who seemed extremely intimidating at first but actually come out to be really sweet people. Others have been the really scary people they come off to be, but still end up really fun to hang out with. And who knows, it could be misinterpretation. I know people who seem like they are rude or mean, but that is how they act. They don't mean to be offensive, they just don't realize others are offended by those actions. So you could be missing the opportunity to make a good friend.

Ooh,Thank you for awnsering! ^_^

I think that's why.And they just "like me" because I'm kinda talented when drawing.

Huum...And I always felt really bad when near them. Like,when you're close to people that you can't trust in. I always felt that I could trust only in myself in that other classroom.

I made exactly this changing back to my old class!
But I really don't want to talk to my other group anymore. They just added me on MSN to bash me(with lots of childlike offenses).C'mon,They are older than me and acting like 7 year old girls?
And I never heard of bash a girl and don't believe her is inserted in friendship.

Oh,the girl don't like me either. I had nothing against her. But a week ago she started looking at me like she was going to kill me. This just scared me. I'm normally extremely polite,but this girl had something that made me feel bad.

It's never good to ignore a problem because, no matter what anyone says, it doesn't go away unless you face it. However, I think that mayhap you have a bad group of friends. Are you still in high school? Because, if you are, they will probably change soon anyway and you'll gain a whole new set in either your job or college. If you aren't still in high school it's probably time to take that step and find a new group or let your current one know how you feel.

Oh,yes I am in high school.

But I had the horrible idea to change to morning,because I am with a job...ok,it was a bad idea,a really bad one... But I'm not a retard,as they think I am,and I changed back to my old class.
I know they are bad friends. What kind of friend treat the other friend like a retard? And depreciates everything that the other friend does?
I don't want to exchange any words with them anymore. I hate people that treats others bad and after,fakes that is friends. C'mon,this is really childish.
They don't give a damn to what I do best,why would they care to what I feel? for them I'm just an drawing machine ¬¬

Just tell them that it's just not gonna happen. You don't click with that person for some reason and that's just the way it's gonna be. But you don't have to be a real witch about it either. ^_^ Not that you would be though. Anyway, just sit them aside and tell them, and that if they are your real friends they won't force you into something you don't want to do.

Hey,everyone! Thanks for so many nice responses!

@Rupert: I wish they paid attention to what I think. They think that THEIR FRIGGIN WAY of thinking of someone/something is the absolute truth,but luckily,they're going to stay with their truth.
They never cared about me. just cared about my drawings.(I wish I could say what I think in the right time...)

@whitebeast: I used to do it,try to convince myself "they are my friends blah blah blah"(try... because I know who a person is,if they are lying to me just by small things,like the way they talk with me,the way someone looks at me...)

I did something that's not completely right,I went back to the afternoon classes...and back to the people that think of me as a person...not as "a drawing machine".

I stopped talking with them. I don't want to have any kind of relationships with people that thinks that I'm retarded.

I know it! I try to be the least time with bad company! I saw somehing like this happen to a girl. She was really nice,until she met the bad girls and became friends of them. now she is just like them.

Yes,drawing machine. for them,my only talent is drawing(C'mon I love correct things, and search things ¬¬). everything that I say is invalid,just is valid if I'm talking about my art style.
I started HATING my "talent" because of these blood suckers.

I used to do some drawings...I don't know why. but I think of starting selling my drawings LOL.

ATTENTION! Those are not friends!

Back away slowly and LEAVE THEM BEHIND!
TRUE friends do not make you feel that way!

hm...
What is your meaning of friends?

I think friends should be people you enjoy to hang out with,
can relate to, have common interests, and are there for you.

It doesn't seem you enjoy their presence or the conversation
and they seem to not appreciate you or give you respect.

So you want to ditch them?
Just tell them you don't want to be friends with them.
They'll be able to find other people to hang with
and you'll be able to find friends who you can hang out with and be yourself
:3

If you have told your friends about this, then maybe you should come up with a different way to deal with it. You can make your point very clear if you really value them as friends. And if they don't accept that, then what kind of people are they. Friends accept people and everything about them.
If you can't really come up with a reason to stay friends with them, then maybe it's time to move on. You never know when you're accidentally start talking to someone and become friends with them. Just don't give in and stick to what you feel is right. And if you feel compelled, you could always talk to the girl who scares you. Maybe there's something really wrong and she needs help. IF you keep getting this feeling and it's worsening, then maybe it's time to talk to someone in an authority position about it. IT might seem really bad, but it's important to resolve this issue in a mature manner.

@whyme : I think you're right...!
I did it! I hate these kind of "friend"!

(my psychologist thinks I'm wrong...just because I know what is a friend and what is a bloodsucker just by small things they do.)

@aino : Mine? mine is the same as yours!

They don't even talk to me anymore...and when I tried to explain,they thought I was wrong and everyone MUST WUV the "evil eyes" girl. Even if I would want to say something to them...
They wouldn't listen. what IS RIDICULOUS of someone that says is my friend,right? D:

I went back to my old friends... They are the people that I love!

@ LeighAnn : I may not solved this decently,but I don't want to talk again with them. I hate people that dont treat me right(like an human,with fears,flaws and a personality,not just an machine that does what they want and just that).
but one thing is right: I will never go back. I lost respect for one of the girls that I thought was one of the most respectful of that school...And is kinda impossible to get my respect back :-x


Hey everyone,I think it's solved! Thank you all!