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do you think its silly?
Greetings GD. I have a question for you well.... it will lead to a question, but here is the story in as short as i could get it.. i know its a bit long lol -------------------------------------------------------------- So i have a younger sister & she is being picked on at school by a lot of other kids. They all state that she is the one spreading rumors & such about them, but in turn they do the same thing. Now i know my sister is a bit of a loud mouth, & can say the wrong thing at the wrong time & can also be a little blunt at times...*maybe more than a little* But anyways. I don't beleive that she does these things, mainly cause she tells me. but then again. She could be lying.. Im not sure. But anyways... either way, whether she does it or not. She is still being picked on massively by people at her school online & in person. the main discretion i am getting is over her facebook page. Now, seeing i am her friend. it all comes up on my *wall* or whatever... & when i see this happen, I feel the need to step in & say something. & when i do.. i get a lot of lash back from these children saying its not my place to say anything, it doesn't involve me at all blah blah blah... & one of the main girls even has her sister in on the insulting & bullying & she is telling me its none of my business.. now i feel that is just stupid. She is as much a 3rd party in this as i am. So she has no right to say stuff like my opinion or acknowledgment of the situation is unwanted...& that if i have something to say, that i can say it to their face.... I get quite mad at this.. But my question is... Being 20 years old & these kids are like 13 to 16... do you think its stupid for me to *argue* with them? do you think it is pointless. Im not exactly arguing, but more trying to defend my sister & also try & explain that they can ignore these *rumors* & just leave it alone. Take the high road. but being as young as they are. They don't like to listen. & just keep biting back. & if you don't reply, they think they have *won* & just continue with the bitching & rub it in even more... What is your input on this? Is it silly for me to Try & reason with these children & stick up for my sister. or should i leave it alone cause *its none of my business* |
Bullies are Miserable
If your sister is saying things that are being perceived as malicious rumor mongering, she needs to start thinking before she opens her mouth around school. These people are going to find something wrong with everything she does. Whether it's related to their original complaints about her or not. She would have to block them from her profiles and ignore them.
Every time you acknowledge a bully, they are given more fuel and motivation to continue with their behavior. It is best to ignore them. Unfortunately, that is really hard to do.:sweat: Bullies want to make someone else feel bad so that they can feel good about themselves. You should get involved by helping your sister deal with any emotional fall out from the way she is being treated more than trying to argue with unreasonable people. They are beyond help, but your sister needs you. Most schools have strict rules these days about online bullying. I know she probably doesn't want to because that would be tattling. It should remain an option if it gets really bad. Of course. This is just my opinion. :) |
well thankyou. That has been the best advice i have had all night long. lol *posted the same thing on another site & i just got flamed*... Anways. yeah. I understand that. With giving the bullies more to grab on to, & it is very hard to let it go. I just find it soo damn annoying that back in my day.. when you were young, you were scared of the older kids. now, its almost like the opposite. I never got to experience that feeling of being *feared* lol I know that sounds bad. but it is a valid point. All younger kids these days seem to think they can get away with anything & can say whatever they want cause they are above the law, so to speak. & half the time, their parents wont do anything cause they see it as too much trouble.. Sickening really. Anyways. I shall try my best to ignore them. I just wish my sister didn't have such a big case of foot in mouth disease lol. Its such a pain in the ass lol |
Speaking as one with a foot constantly in my mouth
I wish you and your sister luck.
When I was a kid I was picked on a lot, but I just didn't let it get to me. There isn't any point to the harassment that is being dished out. If people would be reasonable none of this would be a problem. :) The sad part is that this happens in workplaces everywhere also. It isn't just in school. |
yeah. very true. The world is slowly sinking lower & lower. truly a sad thought there. Anyways. im off to bed. but i thankyou again for the luck & advice. & i wish you a good one. nitenite |
I say stand up for your sister.
Me and my older sister, we have a pretty close relationship... I know not all sisters are like that.. But still, take a stand, make sure your sister knows that at least your in her corner. I should know, as a victim of bullying. |
I say stand up for your sister.
It is wrong for such immature children to just gang up on one person and start shit like that. I'd stand up for any of my siblings any day, if I believe they have innocence. Even for my older sister if I have to. And I'm 17. Although I don't do the whole rumor thing and whatnot, there have been many a time when I've diffused situations like this for my friends, even when I find out they were guilty the whole time, I was still able to make both sides see that they were wrong and that there are more mature ways to settle a situation. Hopefully your sister's peers will back off. Other than that, I really have nothing more to say than to stand your ground and defend your sister. |
This situation is unequal.
That makes it unfair. Her against the world, it sounds like. That's not very fair at all. You are doing the good thing. Yet you said you are getting agitated; do you respond as such? Put a little brain into it or something... find some stuff out and try to make kids eat their own words, or teach your sister to. :yes: In the least, let her know how lame these peeps be for letting whatever's said to get to them anyway. Perhaps don't attack the attackers, but help her to fix / prevent this herself without changing who she be.... if what I say makes any sense atall. :sweat: |
you should stick up for your sister and let her know that your there for her. the other kids are stupid if they just repeat what she is doing if she is. the kids that bully other kids do it to make them self's feel better in my opinion.
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I would defend your sisiter! whenever my brothers get in trouble with other kids i always stick up for them. she needs to know that you are there for her and i would let her know that after highschool she probably won't see these girls again. but she also needs to be careful of what she says too. *nods*
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I think you, as her Older sister have every single right to defend her!
And you should! Dont worry about them, I would talk with your sister more about it. You are a very good sis for helping her. |
Stand up for her!
If she gets picked on she won't have a lot of confidence for school. Even if she is spreading rumors she should not be bullied! |
wow... that was a lot of positive responses. I would have thought i would have gotten alot more *NO, You should let them figure it out for themselves* lol Thankyou all for this. I do feel a little silly trying to talk some sence into these children. So frustrating that it makes me want to swear my head off at them, but i cant do that cause their parents would see it & i would be the bad one lol. & responding to the parents, They are those type that beleive their child is gold, Or is just blatantly blind & do not wish to get involved... Makes me want to slap them with my right hand lol. When i have responded, it has been quite lenghty. I would say that. Almost like a short story haha.. but i have never victimized the other girls. I have stated that both sides should just take the high road & ignore it. but the older sister of the other side starts going on about how im not directly involved blah blah blah. God... it was like a broken bloody record. I wold post the entire current argument, if you wish to see it. Then you could understand my frustration lol |
Go ahead!
xD And kids don't like to read. Practice keeping it short and sweet, like how youtube's The Wine Kone likes his women. xP Example, that older sister... after her YOU BE NOT INVOLVED shiz... just an "And you are?" What she say to that? |
Wow! Small font I dislike. >< I can't even get glasses because of my stupid Peach Care. -pouts-
Anyways, I don't think it's stupid. They should stop doing the same cycle. It's pointless. I would just ignore them and yes, I know you're sticking up for your sister and sooner or later they have to learn that picking on someone else because of some stupid rumor will get them no where. They are all callow as of right now and defending your sister is getting no where when they tell you have no opinion in that matter. I'd say just ignore them and make your sister delete her facebook and create a new one. Unless she is friends with them, then that's just dumb. Nobody should treat anybody like that. Why does she have them on her facebook anyways? That's even stupider. Augh!!! Just delete, ignore and live your life normally. |
Your sister must be saying dumb things like a 2 year old.
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It's stupid for them to behave like that
and it's not stupid for adults or third parties to step in to defend. While else parents break up fights? Is it some wild pack of hyenas going after dead carcass? People step in to protect and defend. Do they think it's better for parents to let their children fight it off just because they don't know the story?? Even friends want to come in and break it up! They are seriously ill-behaved and need to calm down. I don't think it's something you can ignore since they are bullying her on and off website. If it was just online, blocking would have solved it. Seriously, if your sister is getting hurt (whether it's her fault or not) the teacher or counsellor should intervene before it gets violent. You were only doing it what you feel was right. |
Your sister just needs to lay low for a while, and not talk to people unless it's positive. Honestly, they're right. It's none of your business and you're not going to change anything over Face Book. Now, if your sister ASKED you to defend her OR talked to you about the problem and asked you for advice. Then, you should defend her or give her advice to be quiet and lay low.
School is just a game that adults make you play. You don't need to make it worse for yourself. School is basically like work, you need to act like someone you're not to get through it better. |
it IS your business. she's your little sister! ofcourse you should be able to do something and say whatever is on your mind.
but through facebook isn't going to be that effective. I think you should consult your sister and come up with some ideas on how you might want to solve the problem together. .. it would also help if you looked big and scary xP |
If your sister is truly doing those things, she deserves the treatment she's getting.
However, if she's telling the truth and they are all spreading rumors about her and picking on her, and she's fighting back by doing the same things, she's not making things better. She's making them worse. What her classmates are doing is considered a form of cyber harrassment, and depending on which state you live, it's illegal. The bullying may be an annoyance now, but later on it could escalate into something else and someone could get physically hurt or worse yet -- killed. I'm not saying it's gonna end up like that, but you seriously need to have a chat with your sister about this and get the parents involved if they won't stop...get the school officials involved as well. If this whole thing threatens her safety or her life, I wouldn't give a damn about her reputation, her life is more important than a superficial thing such as reputation =) Good luck to you. |
You should stand up for your sister. =(
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When I was in my late teens, I used to think there was a point in arguing with people like that... not just younger people, but ignorant people. I used to think that maybe if I explained my situation to them, that they would see things from my point of view.
But as I got older, I came to realize... that no matter how much I try to explain things to ignorant and immature people, they will not see things from my perspective. With maturity comes the ability to understand and explain different points of view. At an immature state, just about the only thing a person thinks about is themselves. So yes, I do think that its not a smart thing to do, arguing with these immature people. I cannot offer you advice as to how to get them to stop picking on your sister, but the method you explained here will not work, in my opinion. |
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You be totally right. Her current method won't work, but still she shouldn't just do nothing. That's why I was talking about all my suggested stuff and was trying to make sure she wasn't acting angry when talking. (angry generally makes for really stupid things said. :sweat:) |
I'd say you just kill all the little fuckers. That'll teach 'em. c:
But in all seriousness, go for it. My brother's 4 years older than I am, and I've been in that situation where I've been picked on by everyone. My brother's kind of a beast though, so he just threatened them, and whenever they would walk in front of the car when he picked me up from school, he would rev the engine, move the car forward quickly to freak them out, then hit the brakes. good times. c: |
I'll tell ya what you do... you go down to her school and tower over these little punks, stomp on their faces and scare the crap outa them (bring your friends to make yourself seem bigger) and tell them that if anyone has a problem with your little sister they need to take it to you. (make a fist at this point)
Well maybe not exactly, but you need to stand up for her. I do the same thing for my sister. She's loud and annoying but I'm the only one that is allowed to pick on her, and I make that very clear. Family first. |
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