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How do you tell someone you.....
WANT A DAY ON YOUR OWN... without them getting mad, or thinking you are bored with them? Ok.. here is my situation.. My Boyfriend, Who i love VERY much.. more than anything... but recently he has come over to my house every day & then came back after dinner & hung around till late.. Now.. I don't mind over all.. BUT.. i know everyone else in the house.. ie.. mum & her partner.. well. i know they don't want him up every day. but also.. i would like a day on my own, where i can just veg out on my own.. you know.. Like i would go to his house.. But its so small & there isnt really all that much to do.. I don't know.. im just curious... i don't want him to think im getting sick of him.. cause im not.. but i just want a day on my own is all =( What is your opinion? |
Can you use the excuse of hanging out with a friend? I dont know honesty is always good but I know it can be hard to tell somebody you just want a day alone without them possibly getting hurt or assuming something... but how do you think he will react if you just tell him you want to be alone for a day? you of course would have to assure him you care for him and that you just want to hang out alone for a day... im not really sure if I dont know what kind of a person he is and how he would react
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Just tell him that you want some "you time" with your friends and that you love him but it would be best if some days he were over and than others not... I dont' know, he should understand.
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Everyone deserves alone time. No matter how much you care for someone after spending extended amounts of time with anyone becomes too much. If you feel like you need an excuse to do so then feel free to use one (friends, homework, etc.) Otherwise just explain the situation to him, the truth just like you put it above. Everything should be fine, I wish you the best.
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Thanks for the advice guys. you know just what to say =D Yeah.. the thing is.. His friends are my friends & vise versa lo.. but its ok.. I have gotten my day today.. I have to go out in the arvo & he was going out in the morning.. So it has worked out well.. He kinda had the feeling of being *rejected* i think. but he is all betters now. But yes.. Thankyou everyone for your wonderful advice =D |
You just have to be honest, tell him you need space and some alone time. Otherwise, you can always say that you have made plans with someone, ie a friend or your mom.
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simple if he loves you he will give you time to yourself trust me cause if you dont spend time apart the relationship will fall apart I know cause i have been there
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I know you said you resolved this issue, but this kind of thing seems to be an ongoing problem in most relationships and I wanted to give you some advice anyway.
First of all, try to get him back into a hobby (I'm sure he had a ton of them before he was with you) that he can only do on his own. If you do and he really likes it, then he won't feel so bad on those days when you decide to have alone time because he'll want alone time as well to do his hobby. Also, reassure him that you still love him and are willing to compromise with him about this if you need to and that you'll always be there for him when he really needs you and that your relationship with him is your biggest priority. I've been on the receiving end of someone wanting to spend less time with me than I wanted to spend with them. We never spent 24 hours a day every day together or anything because I like my alone time as well, but it was more than he wanted to spend with me and sometimes I get scared when he says it that one of those four things I listed in the first sentence he has changed his mind about and I think I would have handled it better if he had reassured me that all those things weren't true. |
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