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"I love you, but I'm not 'in love' with you..."
Should I be insulted by that?
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If that person isn't in a romantic relationship with you, then no. Otherwise, you'd have to ask yourself more if you want to stay with someone that doesn't have romantic feelings for you.
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He was my boyfriend until today.
It was more complicated than that. Thanks for answering though. |
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Well i guess to answer your question, no you should not be offended. The reason this is a cliche for breaking up is because that is a truly common truth. The basic idea here is that the emotions are there but not in the way that you want.
Also I would not be afraid to give information here, its a trustworthy site with nice people. You can avoid real names and stuff like that, but an honest lengthy explanation would be great. |
Have you tried asking him what the difference is? I would say there is a different between being in love, and to love someone. When you are in love, you are in the state of being 'blinded' by the love, not seeing each others weaknesses or bad sides, and you crave to get acknowlegdet by that person. When you love someone you are with them, even though you know their bad sides, and you wish them to be happy, even if it's not with them. Or, they are ready to settle down and use the rest of their life besides you.
But I guess it depends on what he sees behind his word of choise, though it seems a bit weird to say. |
I wouldn't be offended. Do I think it's a cheap line that floated around relationships for decades and is unoriginal...Oh Yea! xD
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That is probably one of the most painful things to hear, I have heard this a few times and it devastated me. It's like someone taking your heart and saying you won't need this anymore.
No, you should not be offended, but it will still hurt. |
I've had this line delivered to me a couple of times. It hurts so much to hear, but at least they were honest with you. I mean, they can't help how they feel or don't feel, but they can help being honest with you and it seems like they were. I know it sucks to hear that. You have a right to be hurt, but not necessarily offended, you know? I guess just be thankful for the honesty, instead of him wasting your time with lies. You'll get over the hurt with time. :)
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That line has nothing to do with why we broke up, but I believe there is a difference...and we had only been together for a short while, so I'm not too insulted or anything.
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If you're young then you shouldn't be offended. I could understand being upset because of it, but I mean if you're young, you're still confused about feelings. I'm speaking from experience. I am young, and right now I feel as though I'm "in love" with my boyfriend, but that could very well change. He probably felt strongly for you, and still does, but recognizes that it won't last forever. That's not something to be offended about. Hell, if I heard my boyfriend say that, I'd probably applaud it. It's a lot easier being in a relationship with someone who recognizes that it could end, then it is with someone who is dead set on the idea of spending the rest of their lives with you. |
I wasn't offended, but someone told me I should be.
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Someone is just trying to start problems then. It happens, and if you're not offended, that's even better. It means you'll spend less time bitter about a failed romantic relationship than the person who would have been offended. |
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