What do you look for in a guy or in a girl?
 

I just had a thought - what type of traits do people look for the most in a potential boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you enjoy being with somebody with a sense of humor, with loads of kindness, an intellectually stimulating mind, a great looking body, or more?

Personally, if I was looking for a potential boyfriend, I'd make sure he could make me laugh, as well as carry an intellectual conversation. He has to be sweet and honest, and a good guy.

Physically wise, I'm not picky, but beautiful eyes and a nice smile is a plus.

@Fatalrain: i could understand finding someone who has similar interests as you, but also being with somebody who's different in terms of hobbies is a challenge >:3

@iPanduh: I LOVE DORKY GUYS TOO xD

I have a thing for blue eyes. I don't know why, I just love them.

I look for a good heart. A good heart means a lot to me.

Hmm...I have to be with someone that I feel comfortable with. That means they have to have a sense of humor. A guy that can make me laugh is great. But he also needs to know when to take it seriously. There needs to be a general balance...But I love a guy who can hold his own weight in a conversation, but doesn't think he knows Everything, lol. It's good to have things in common (hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc.), but also variety keeps things interesting and you can learn about/from each other. I like when a guy can teach me something new and vice-versa...

The guy I'm with now is such a game-nerd, lol. He plays lots of video games and also plays a card game called "Magic:The Gathering". I am not such a game-nerd and don't play "Magic" at all, but I can respect his hobbies. I write poetry and he doesn't write at all. I am an English major and he hates English. But he'll read my poetry. But we both like the same movies and have similar views on a lot. Anyone can make differences work if they really want to.
Sorry..kinda got off topic there...lol. Do forgive me, haha.

When I look at a potential boyfriend figure I look for honesty above all. If he isn't a honest person then he better not be lacking in any other department on my checklist. Some one who is trustworthy, supportive, playful, and can make me laugh. It's nice to be able to have some one to laugh and talk with. It'd be nice to be able to date some one who I could carry out a conversation with. I am very open when it comes to beliefs and what someone else likes, so that really doesn't matter much to me. Looks and a great body are a plus. I'd say I caught a winner if he had a nice smile and eyes.

At this point in my life... Employed. In working order. Educated.
Not really picky, after a failed young marriage that ended in me being a divorcee at twenty.

Someone who is nice ;W;
someone who doesn't mind that i'm clingy-hugging kind of type orz
someone that would draw with me and enjoy the things I do,
and be upbeat and cheerful alot *V*
and genuinley likes me <33 TT U TT

These are the important qualities to me in a relationship (way different from my expectations for a less formal relationship, obvy):
- Someone with whom I have a lot in common - We should share at least some interests in common, we should share our major ethical values, we should have at least overlapping senses of humor, we should we should be at similar places in life (ie, I'm a college student and probably wouldn't date anyone who wasn't close to my age, in college, in grad school, or in professional school), and have similar expectations of our relationship.
- Someone smart - Anti-intellectualism is a deal-breaker for me, I really admire intelligence and political/cultural/academic awareness
- Someone I can be honest with and talk to - if I feel judged or if we can't keep a conversation going, I consider that a serious problem
- Someone who respects me and supports me - I wouldn't put up with someone who was an asshole to me, made me feel unsafe, or treated me disrespectfully
- Mutual physical attraction and doesn't have an ideological opposition to premarital sex - If I'm not compatible with someone on this level it won't work. That's the difference between a good friend and a good romantic partner.

I'm pretty lucky because my current boyfriend fulfills all of that. He's an amazing guy. :)

Oh wow, everyone cares about different qualities in a potential boyfriend/girlfriend.
I wonder if it has to do with any past experiences.
It's good to know that a lot of you guys want a person who will treat you with honesty and respect C:

Physically attractive to me, someone I trust, Knows how to deal with me and will stick by me through all my ups and downs.

Not excessively fat, funny, loves me, loyal, can handle my crazyness, respects me and admires me for who I am. My standards may look too high but I'm sticking with it until the end. No smoking or drinking either.

I like people (both genders) who can see things my way. Who can "live in my world", "speak my language". Who I find myself at ease with. Beautiful on the inside, capable of intelligent toughts and with a good sense of humor. The kind of people who make me realize they could walk by my side, hand in hand, in the whole journey of life, and it just feels natural, good.
I tend to like smart people, sure of themselves, with an high charisma.

I'm not picky at all when it comes to appearence, even if I tend prefer slim androgyne men and chubby women, long hair, full lips.

I'm very easely attracted by eyes with strong and deep glance, any colour and shape.

Someone who has similar interests as I do, but also the same sort of humor. I'm a bit dark sometimes, and I know it unnerves some people! It wouldn't do to freak out the person I'm dating, right?

I want someone who's kind and gentle, but doesn't always have to be. Someone who CAN face reality, and someone who doesn't need constant attention 24/7. Also someone who doesn't just sit around and talk about their problems, especially not one who does it for attention.

Someone who is not stalker-obsessive is a good trait, too. >__>;

I just want someone to love who will love me back. Being (physically) attractive is just the icing on the cake, but I'm not picky.

When I look at a guy, I usually look for a man who upholds a sense of morals like I do. I look for one who's a genuine and complete gentleman. I'm alittle old-fashioned so I like men who treat me as a lady and who treats others with respect as well. Physically, I'm attracted to guys who take the time to dress nicely and who keep themselves neat and clean. I know that sounds alittle bit vain, but I believe that taking pride in one's appearance is a sign of self-confidence and self-respect. The man I'm with now is all those things and more, I'm more than satisfied with him, he's an amazing person.

Hmm I guess someone who I can relate to and not have to lie to. Also someone that isn't too perdictable. I guess I also look for a confidence, I suppose i'd also like it I they were athletic so they could run with me. I don't mind appearances that much as long as they aren't fat and try to be clean, Its fine to be fat but I just wouldn't be able to date someone like that because like I said I would want a running buddy. :/ Also another big trait that I like is when they are mature but can still be silly. :)

Personally I am rather attrached to guys with Dark brown curly/wavy hair and I LURRVVEEE green eyes, as for girls I have to admit I like girls with naturally dirty blond hair and with bright blue eyes and freckles. :D

I feel picky. XD

Aha, and lets not forget they have to deal with me staring at them and drawing them constantly if they're beautiful! XD

For me, they HAVE to be funny, crazy, playful, and smart. Someone I get along with adn can have fun with, who I feel natural around.
<3~

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I think past experiences has a lot to do with it.. at leats in my case. In my last post I said how I have to feel natural with them.. It's because when I'm with other people my nature is to act like the person that THEY would accept and interact best with, and I end up acting more like the person I'm talking to than me.
That's why I treasure my friends so much, because they act like me, even when we're all being ourselves ;D

When that special person ever arrives, they'll make me feel accepted and safe to be myself.. or I hope they will! I prefer to think of fairytale romances than normal things.. I'm such a dreamer! xD

well, i guess i better go on record then, eh?

Things i look for in a Girl.

1. Has to be smart. and i mean honor roll / dean's lister or GPA average of 3.5 above. im a geek so other geeks turn me on. B)

2. Has to be sensible in a conversation. i guess i can speak my mind, and at times talk too much, but if she just stared back and not contribute to the conversation, i would probably get a muddy shovel and wack her on the head just to prove that she maybe a zombie wanting a go for my brains.

3. Looks aren't really high on my book, but a clean, sweet-smelling,presentable girl WILL ALWAYS make the boys go mad.

4. this one's optional, but i always fancied a woman who practices martial arts. I dont care what school or style she does, and i could care less about the rank. something about women who can and will eventually use deadly force on someone turns me on.

5. a good personality counts A LOT. As the proverb goes, "Better be alone under a tattered roof and have peace, than live under a mansion with a troublesome wife"

i guess thats what really gets me. too bad i have absolutely nothing to offer this type of woman... :(