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monstahh` 04-13-2010 03:15 AM

Well, before he and I started dating (because I was only 16). He had promised me when he was going to visit his best friend Erin, who he had liked, that nothing was going to happen.
Fast forward a weeks
He comes back. Saying that he and Erin are dating. At the time he insisted it "just happened".

We stopped speaking.

Two months later, he was still saying that, but he had apologized and she and him had broken up, because "she never really liked him anyway".

A little less than a year later, he came to visit me. We hit it off right away and have been dating since.

A while ago, I forget exactly when. He had told me (I forget how we got onto the topic), about Erin and how she never wore the necklace he had gotten her since the week he saw her anyway. I asked him when he gave her that, because he hadn't been to Seattle since. He said he'd bought it before he left, and then he gave it to her when he asked her out when he went to visit her before.

So, not only had he promised me he wasn't going to (we weren't officially dating then, I know...But I really liked him, and I thought he had liked me, so I was DEVASTATED when he did that), but he had lied to me about it on several occasions.

Also, he never gave me anything when we started dating. Though, I admit I asked him out. And then later pounced him in the back of his car. lol That was a really fun weekend actually...

But still! You'd feel hurt too, right? Especially because he refused to say that he loved me, until I threatened to leave him. Then he was all about the love. :?

Ehhh. Whatever. I have to move past it if we want to work. But I just don't know how. :C

mau5ie 04-13-2010 03:34 AM

hmm.. ish kinda confused about when everything happened but ok.
so did they fuck or not?!
that's all that matters really? and even then it doesn't matter.
just get over it because it all happened when the two of you were NOT officially together.

i do understand about the devastation thing though because if the same thing would have happened to me at that age i would have been bummed too.

i would ask him about him saying i love you under those circumstances. was it sincere? or forced? you know what i'm getting at?
that would bother the shit out of me.

monstahh` 04-13-2010 03:36 AM

xDD I know, but he still lied to me about it,.
I'm over the Erin thing, I'm NOT over him lying to me, and only telling me the truth because he forgot he lied.

Not they didn't fuck. She wouldn't even kiss him more than on the cheek. lol

And, I don't think he meant it then, but I'm fairly sure he means it now. xD

mau5ie 04-13-2010 03:42 AM

i agree, that is pretty fucked up. but all you can do is to /move/ on. <3
especially if you love him.

[message me on aim? so i have your screen name again]

monstahh` 04-13-2010 03:49 AM

derpderp you lost it?!

And yeah. But sometimes love isn't the only thing needed for a successful relationship, you know? =O

Actually I can't seem to find your screenie either. :c

mau5ie 04-13-2010 03:57 AM

i didn't lose it i just don't want to sign in to fragile.. because i don't remember that password. lol.

love isn't ever enough. ever. whoever believes that is a moron. O_O;
a successful relationship is the result of hard work, patience, communication, loyalty and understanding.

mine is mau5ie. lol.

monstahh` 04-13-2010 03:59 AM

OHHHHHHHHHHH. I thought you could change your old aim's display name or whateveer. o;

/confused
/IM'd.

And people tell me all the time that love is all I need to make it work. And no it's not.

You need love and trust and time and understanding and chemistry.

We never really had all that, and it's really starting to wear on both of us.

But I just don't know what I'd do without him. Because of how I am right now, living here, without a car and stuff.

There's just...I'm in a hole if he's not around. I need his help for so many things. >___< I've never felt more hopeless.

mau5ie 04-13-2010 04:19 AM

well abbiluv~ people are fucking dumb if love is all it takes. what movie was that in where the husband dies and the wife says something like "love wasn't enough."

oh yeaaa it was grey's anatomy.. in the third season where this really young chick and older black man are stabbed through the chest by the same giant pipe. so his injuries are less severe and she decides she'd rather die. and tells one of the doctors to tell her husband, "if love were enough, i'd still be here..." /cries.

i love that show.

gaah honestly, i could never rely on anyone like that.. that's why i make sure i work work work.
put some money aside bish! <3

monstahh` 04-13-2010 04:24 AM

I am only in this situation because he was willing to take me in after my family basically cast me out. :'( I needed someone and he was there for me.

Which makes me feel guilty, like I might only be using him. I'm not, but. I feel like he thinks I might be or something, idk.


But I can't get a job or I would have one and I wouldn't be stuck like this. lol~
I hate feeling that I NEED someone.

mau5ie 04-13-2010 04:27 AM

well, if he makes you feel like he feels you are only using him then that's wrong.
you're not using him but you do need him for certain things.
what did he expect otherwise. especially in this economy.

monstahh` 04-13-2010 04:28 AM

No, he doesn't make me feel like I'm using him, I worry that he thinks I do. ~O:

mau5ie 04-13-2010 04:29 AM

oh ok.. good! ^^
that would blow!

monstahh` 04-13-2010 04:52 AM

Yes it would. xDD

mau5ie 04-13-2010 04:57 AM

good night for now abbilub! <3

monstahh` 04-13-2010 04:58 AM

OMG. GO TO SLEEP ALREADY WOMAN.

mau5ie 04-13-2010 01:51 PM

pffft.. i did bish! :heart:


WAKE UP!!! you has work to do. [items]
hahaha!~ :heart:

monstahh` 04-13-2010 06:46 PM

Nevar!

It's lady-problems week.

mau5ie 04-14-2010 01:33 AM

NAO young lady! :glomp:

monstahh` 04-14-2010 01:35 AM

/bleeds on u

Also Andy doesn't wanna hang out with me anymore, not sure why. :lol:

Annnd, Jeff says he can drive me down this weekend, just not on Friday, soooo.

mau5ie 04-14-2010 01:47 AM

that's weird.. i wonder why he's not wanting to hang out anymore! D:
sorry honey! <3

cool... i won't be home until friday night... so i'll have to see what's going on saturday morning, and we'll go from there?

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that's weird.. i wonder why he's not wanting to hang out anymore! D:
sorry honey! <3

cool... i won't be home until friday night... so i'll have to see what's going on saturday morning, and we'll go from there?

monstahh` 04-14-2010 01:50 AM

Probably because we hung out a LOT for a while.
derp.

Annd maybe because the other day when he and I were hanging out, I asked him what he thought of me, and the first thing he said was "Well I like you a lot, probably more than I should."

And then he got a little embarrassed and was like, "err um is there something in particular you were hoping to hear?" :lol: It was soooo cute. but I really thought it was okay, but I guess not?

Huh, guys are weird!

Sure, that's fine kimi~
do you have wifi yet?

mau5ie 04-14-2010 02:24 AM

d'oh! that could be why then. lol.
and yes i have wifi.
how will you be getting back>?...

monstahh` 04-14-2010 02:33 AM

He'll probably take me back too. Not sure yet. He went to bed.

Annnnnnnnnd.
It might be why, but he might also just want a break from hanging out with me, either is fine as long as he stays my friend!

mau5ie 04-14-2010 02:46 AM

that's a very mature statement thurr! <3

find out for sure.. because i don't have money to take you back! D:
i'm so damn broke, it's not even funny..

monstahh` 04-14-2010 02:51 AM

Oh me too. lol~

Like I have to be wary about GROCERIES for the rest of the month. T_T


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