Annoying BFs
 

Okay well here goes.
I love my current BF and I mean I really do buuuut lately he hasnt been sleeping well so he has started drinking eneergy drinks like heaps! He's always drinking Pulse whenever I see him and he has like 3 in an hour and a half. me and his friend toni are getting worried about him and he txt me at work saying that today when he had 3 he coughed up blood :-(

Now I adore the guy but it annoys me when he does this! We have tried to tell him to stop drinking so many cause we're worried he's going to have aheart attack or something and hurt himself if he keeps it up. he's always saying that he loves me and he feels bad for making me upset and worry ubt i Hate it when he dosn't listen to me!!!

well me and toni were talking on facebook and here's how a little of it went

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Is there any other way to make him stop? Or at least cut down a bit? I'm getting so worried about him! I'm so scared he's gonna hurt himself and he wont realise until its to late

I'll be moving this on over to Life Issues where it belongs. :yes:

You said the reason he is doing this is because he has issues sleeping? Well maybe instead of trying to keep himself awake he can try harder at finding ways to sleep. Suggest sleeping pills.

Isn't Pulse an alcoholic drink? I am not sure about where you live, but here it is a mixture of vodka and energy drink. Not sure how much this detail changes though. u.u

Why are you taking the critical approach on this issue? Why don't you baby him instead? Maybe if you start babying him and start ignoring the energy drink thing all together that you can help him get better sleep that way and maybe the energy drink issue will resolve itself on its own. I don't know, there's just lots of possible things that all of us can possibly fight with our boyfriends with, so try to pick and choose when you need to be confrontational and when a more gentle approach might help.

Buy him the sleeping pills yourself. Make the doctor's appointment yourself. Go with him. Do all the things someone babying someone would do. It will make him feel better because right now he's probably either resenting you guys for nagging him all the time or beating himself up constantly and hating himself.

I'll have you know that I drink energy drinks like candy and suffer no severe medical effects. Maybe it's because I slowly drifted into the amount I go into now, but so long as I make sure to drink enough water not to get an infection I make it through the day fine. (That's not to say I'm not going to have severe medical setbacks when I'm OLDER, but I've been doing this for years now with no particularly foul results.)

I'm horrid all day unless I have two cups of coffee, but on an average day I'll maybe have three cups of coffee and two monsters. On a day I really want caffeine - a bad day, most likely [I know I'm addicted, no need to point it out, guys] - I'll drink maybe 8 monsters and a whole pot of coffee. My record for energy drinks in a day is 14 monsters - excluding the coffee I had that morning. (My girlfriend nicknamed me "expresso" because I'm expressive and drink so much caffeine. xD ) Keep in mind that I'm drinking all of this and I have arrhythmia. It's a heart condition, for those who were wondering. Despite having this condition I don't really feel any out of the ordinary effects from my large doses of caffeine.

Maybe it's the energy drinks, but it may very well be some other medical condition - or maybe the caffeine and other chemicals bring out an underlying condition. He should still go to the doctor, but what I'm trying to say is that I know a lot of caffeine addicts and none of them have coughed up blood. There has to be something else going on, and that's what he should go to the doctor's for.

Oh, and I agree with Tiara...to an extent. He's a grown man and should do the work on his own and make the choice on his own. Tell him in a mature, calm way how you feel, gently persuade him that his health may be in danger and not just because of his energy drinks. Let him know how much it means to you, but be calm about it and listen to him and how he feels about it, too. You shouldn't make choices for him, no matter how much you care about him.

In other words: Don't baby him, but stop nagging him. Let him make his own choices in life. You ought to trust him that much if you care about him.

I dont nag him, it's more like I tell him to stop alot cause I' scared he's going to get hurt, like i taked to him today and I said I'm scared that I'm going to lsoe him and that I would buy the pills myself and he said losing you would be the worst thing that could happen to him.

-points to the bolded definition-
It's nagging, dear.

Sourced right from Merriam Webster:
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nagging

oh -.-.

well than I'm a nagger! so what!? i'm just so worried about him!!!!

I didn't say that's a terrible thing! I've done it before, too!
Like I said, though, if he's having trouble with sleep and he's coughing up blood I think there may be an underlying medical condition he should get looked at. The caffeinated drinks are probably hardly even related to it, if at all.

so it's okay for him to drink 3 in an hour?
I'm trying to get him to a doctor and as Tiara said I might have to book it myself so he will go.

Well it's going to kill his liver in time, but I do the same thing so I can't exactly condone him too much.

Also, you went from telling us he drank "like" three in an hour and a half to telling me he certainly has 3 in an hour. :\ Which is accurate?


EDIT:
Need to add this. You shouldn't book his doctor's appointment for him. Like I said, he's a grown man and should be entitled to make his own choices and mistakes.

well now I'm confusing myself its practically 3 in an hour, sorry for confusing you.

I know I shouldn't but hes always telling me I shouldnt worry

Listen, I completely understand where you're coming from on the worrying thing.

My best friend is dating a boyfriend who is generally nice, but every few weeks something he says makes her so miserable she just about feels like dying. When I try to explain to her that he's emotionally abusive she tells me that she's not going to break up with him. In fact, she's explained to me that she plans on probably marrying this man.

I love her and I want the best for her, but she's her own person and I can't control her life. I know it's tempting to take control and fix your friends' problems, especially your best friend since they're the closest human being to your heart, but you shouldn't, just like I shouldn't. You should give your input, let them know how you feel, and let them make their own choices.

It sucks, but it's the right thing to do.

hmm I have told him and he tells me that he feels bad for making me worry and all I say is dont.

well, its not like I want to sound all 'do this do that' but i cant help it. its the way I speak, i always sound like that

I understand.
My bf is from a rough situation. Her mother left her when she was 2, she never knew her father, her oldest brother got adopted by strangers, and she and the middle brother got adopted by their grandma. Recently her "mom" has become too old and injured to work, and a couple years back she tried to kill herself. Because she has no money I've tried my best to make life good for her, and it's hard for me to watch herself do something that may very well ruin her whole life, but it's not my choice. It's hers.

Just try and keep that in mind, I guess. You can do whatever you want, but he's his own person and should be permitted to make his own choices no matter how stupid they may be. He knows how you feel and maybe you could bring it up every once in a while, but just let him make up his own mind on it. Maybe if he thinks you respect his opinion and choices he'll feel more inclined.

hmm thanks for that. I'll try

i hope you friendw works everything out soon, it sounds like she's going through alot right now.

She's always going through a lot. Luckily we don't live 2 hours apart anymore, so I can be there to keep her together. (And I've almost talked her into moving out of her house. She's gotta learn to live her own life, and I've got her on the path.) Thanks, I appreciate it, and I'm certain she does, too.

I hope your friend gets the help he needs and everything turns out fine. I'm glad I could help!

thanks, you really did help. I just needed to talk to someone real bad about it

If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. I've got myself a fairly good life so I tend to be a listener for most of my friends. Over the years I've learned how to pay attention and give some pretty good advice after hearing peoples' problems a majority of my life.

I'll gladly listen and, if you want, give you advice, if you need! n_n Don't hesitate if you want to. (That's not to say I'm trying to persuade you or anything. o.o It's just an offer, because I know how much having a listener helps.)

LOL thanks I will, i could really use a listener every now and than

Sometimes you just have to let people hit the bottom before they're willing to accept help or question their way of living. Your nagging will do nothing but annoy him. I would suggest backing off and just keeping an eye on him. He knows how you feel about it already so there's nothing else you can do.

Vix, I adore you. Somehow we always give similar advice, but you magically make yours blunt enough to get the point across. I admire your straightforwardness. :D

Thank you, love. I don't like to waste time sugar coating things so I tend to just say what I'm thinking regardless of whether or not the person listening to me will be offended. The world isn't pretty and neither is my mouth. Gotta have some backbone to survive, you know?