I'm going to strangle my niece.
 

Okay, first things first. My niece is 7 years old, and spoiled rotten, and it's not my sister who's doing it. Her ex husband, new boyfriend, and mutual friend all give her extremely expensive gifts, and anything she wants. It's now to the point where I don't even want to spend time with this little nuisance.

Whenever she comes over, she out right DEMANDS that I give her things that belong to me, that are of high value, do her nails, make her food, and wash her face. If I don't, she glares at me for a good 10 minutes, and finally walks out with "HMPH!", to tell on me. (Not that anything happens, she's just annoying.) When she watches TV, she constantly repeats the same one thing just to be obnoxious, and asks clearly stupid questions, then acts up when I tell her to stop.
"Is the clock a baby? Is the clock a baby? Is the clock a baby?"
Over and over. I can't take it anymore.


The last things she demanded was my emergency cell phone, and Ipod. After I flat out told her no, she could not have those things, I went upstairs to clean. Out of a sheer miracle, I found my stuffed pikachu from when I was 5! Shortly after putting it on the couch, I went back upstairs.

Sounds like I'm babbling on, right? Well, when I came back down, it was missing. Granted, the dog was here, and probably dragged it around and pushed it under something. I didn't put much thought into it, and let it slide.

Last week I went to my nieces house for a family BBQ. Lo' and behold, when I went inside a yellow lump was sitting on her floor; my pikachu. When I asked my niece where she got it, she looked me right in the eye and said, "You gave it to me!"



tl;dr: Niece is spoiled rotten, and resorting to stealing because I wont give her what she wants, and is being as annoying as possible, and I fear if she doesn't quit her shit, I'm going to smack her.

I just don't know how to handle this little girl anymore. She only does this with me, no one else in the family. I've tried to ignore her, but then she walks out crying because I wont talk to her, and if I don't ignore her, she's just blatantly annoying!

I haven't had my period in 3 months, have acne, and IBS because of all the stress this causes! Heeelllppp. T_T

I guess you just gotta keep in mind that she is still a child. That doesn't excuse her behavior, but it does explain it. She's not quite at the age yet where she can see things from the point of view of other people. In her eyes, everything in the universe was made for her.

I would suggest putting up a poster of "rules" in your house where she can easily read and see them when she visits. Things like, "Ask for permission to borrow things that aren't yours," or whatever else you feel is relevant.

Child or not, she KNOWS what's right and wrong. She knows she cannot take things from other people, when they say no. Her mother taught her that, and it's clear she knows better, because with anyone else, she asks, and accepts being told no.

The rules thing. . . Yeah, I could do that, but then she'd go to my mom and say, "But she told me I could!" or like yesterday, "But I can do it at my house, so it's okay!" And as soon as you turn your back, she's doing it again.

We've tried rules, every time she comes here, we make sure she knows what she can and cant do, but she acts like we're just crazy morons.

I'm thinking that she does it because legally, this IS her house, because we're renting it from her mother, so she doesn't have to do what we say, and everything in "her" house is hers?


@ Syraannabelle - Can't spank or time out, she's manipulative and she'll tell my mom I'm beating her or something. o_O She's done it with my brother after he put her in time out. This little girl is seriously out of control. Her mom (usually the only one with her) makes sure she knows that she can't do that, but when she does it to me and I talk to her mom, it just doesn't work. She ignores everything she says because it involves me.

lolol ohai Retro bby.

I know the feeling. I've had to babysit for spoiled rotten little whiny crabass babies before. I'm a great babysitter, can't you tell? XD The way I solved it, was to stare right back at their face until they do the HMPH and walk away. I know you probably stand up to them yourself, but keep doing it. It's a kid, you get authority over them, no matter how much they want to whine about it.

If anything, talk to their parents or whoever else spoils them. It's okay to spoil a kid every now and then, but sometimes it gets too much. I guarantee you they'll pull the blame card and say HE SPOILS HER MORE THAN ME, or deny it out right. Shove proof right in there face. If it continues to bother you, refuse to take her. It shouldn't be your problem, she's not your child. You didn't spoil her to high hell.

And more than likely, the parents see it too. They just don't know what to do about it. They may have started off spoiling her, without realizing it, it escalated until she was a little brat. But they continue to do it, because they don't want to hear her whine just as much as you don't want to hear her whine. I think Dr. Phil for Babies should take a visit XD

How dare she steal your pikachu~! >o<

Anyway, even though she's just a kid, she's getting pretty big. By now she should know that stealing is wrong.

And I guess it's normal to ask questions because she is curious and eager to learn at this age. Well, some aren't eager to learn, but younger people are easier to teach. O.o; So I think you should teach her to be aware of how she acts, to stop when she's pestering people, be polite when she's at other people's house, etc. If she can learn this while she's young, she'll continue to have those habits. I'm not trying to say she was raised incorrectly or anything like that, but it seems like those values need to be enforced a bit more.

She's fortunate to be recieving lovely gifts, but maybe suggest to her mother to limit the time she has to use those things. Maybe she is using them whenever she wants, and so she thinks she can do whatever she wants. And it seems like she cares about what you think since she cries if you try to ignore her. Maybe you can talk to her nicely about those things.

If she keeps acting that way, she might end up like my cousin, who I'm also wanting to strangle. >.>; My cousin is 12 years old, cannot read not because she is incapable, but because she doesn't want to, is spoonfed by her mother, has her homework done by her mother, kicks the walls if her mother goes to work and she wants to go somewhere, etc. It makes me sick looking at her. I feel sorry for her mother. -_-; This is all because she was also spoiled to the point where her parents didn't know how to handle her.

Lock her in a closet. Give her to the gypsies. Put her in the lost and found.
Just kidding. XD That's what I would want to do.
I'd lock all your valubles up when she comes over and unplug your tv so she can't repeat stuff of whatever she's watching.

Talk to your aunt and have your aunt sit down with her and explain what is right and what is wrong. kids are hard to deal with sometimes. I would also take the TV away until she learns how to behave or some other thing that she likes and only give it back once she learns how to treat people and their property. Seven is old enough to know what's right and what is wrong.

Punish her and be strict with her. If she's only doing that to you it's because you let her get away with it. Make rules and speak with your sister on appropriate ways to discipline her.

Sounds to me like the kid needs lots of nice rules right about now! :D
You and her mother and her significant other and whoever else is frequently watching the kid all should get together and have a discussion of the law. Make sure you all know what is and isn't allowed, what is the punishment for this and whatnot. The difficult part here is consistently enforcing it, of course. But she certainly can't manipulate you guys if you're all a united front, now can she? She just needs a standard set of rules and punishments that everyone is enforcing every time she acts out.

Oh, man, she sounds horrible! Why do you have to spend time with her? I'd say just make yourself a bigger person to her, so she doesn't feel...comfortable? being a brat to you, since you said she isn't a brat with anyone else.
Talk to your parents, her guardians, whatever, try to get them to give her some discipline.

I think maybe if you talk to your mom and sister and she accepts, maybe telling your niece she cant come over and play unless she starts acting more her age? I guess thats something I at least would do. I was baby sitting a friends kid the other week and normally she is sweet, thankfully, but then there are days when they outright wont listen and I have to resort to "Well, if you dont stop throwing the paper bits on the floor all the time and keep telling me to pick it up we wont play with paper anymore today." and then I start taking it away. Sure they get angry but if you're lucky they wont keep doing the same thing over and over for long. I guess you could see it like grounding rule.


But, as said, you can try different things, but talk to your mom and sister first. Oh and I assume you have tried spending time with your niece? Sometimes they can act out cause they feel neglected and just want you to notice.. but they also test their boundaries.. kinda like dogs. Its the person they are testing that must be strict then.

Do it.