What have you done on your 1st... (Serious Topic)
 

experience having sex?...
I'm about to give up mine to someone i love, but then, since i'm not that experienced, i really need some advice on what to do first or what should be done before doing it?
i'm pretty scared cause i dont know how to use contraceptives and etc.
its going to be OUR first time, even my boyfriend doesnt know what to do when it comes to safety.

note: we are like 22yrs old and so naive when it comes to this! so uhm... i really need serious responses.

Well I'm not sure if asking people on the internet is the best idea on this kind of topic. But I'm pretty sure that there are books on the matter that you guys can probably buy and go through, and try out different things :3

But make sure that your boyfriend uses a condom, that's all that I can really tell ya.

condoms are not 100% safe right? but i'll suggest he'll use it. i've been trying to ask my irl friends too, and they're just making fun of me.. and so i resort to this, and i do research on the internet as well... T__T

No condoms have a failure rate. They can break etc...BUT it is safer to have it then not to. I am with the fellow suggestion. You should look up creditable sources to read about it. Maybe asking here is not the best.

I think is would fit better in Life Issues, since you're asking for advice.

As for my advice: Use a condom, and don't do it unless you both know it's exactly what you want to do. Don't feel you just have to jump to penetration either. Intercourse isn't just penetration, warm each other up. Get comfortable with each other's bodies, explore until you're relaxed. It may or may not hurt ( I would not know, I have never had penetration sex with a male ) so if it does, remember to take it slow and don't force him into you.

Well, to be as safe as possible (without getting your tubes tied), you should go on birth control and use a condom. As for experience, well when it's your first time you obviously won't have any, so as long as you get the concept of sex (which I'm pretty sure you do) then it will just come to you when you're ready. you could "set the mood" with candles, rose petals, a hot bath, lingerie, etc. if you want. You both should want this and should both be comfortable with each other and your bodies. As for pain, it will hurt, especially your first time because he will pop your hymen (unless you've already popped it), but don't let this scare you out of doing it. once you do it more often it won't hurt at all and it will be a very pleasurable activity.

I hope this helped. ;D

Sex.
 

Ummm, nobody can really give you advice in this area.
But might I suggest doubling up on the contraceptives? Maybe go on the pill AND use condoms...
More than anything, just have fun!

Okay. There are some pretty... novice answers in this thread. I'm gonna set this straight here. I'm gonna split this up into different categories.

Warning: Adult Information Ahead

Protection and Safety
Since this is the first time for both of you, I'm going to assume that you are both disease free. If it's not, you should of course both get an STD screen done. This can be done from free to fairly cheap at any local planned parenthood facility.

Next, dealing with pregnancy, there are many ways to go about this. The easiest way is of course condoms. Despite what some of the people in the thread have said, the prevention rate for condoms if you use them correctly is 98%. If one breaks, you can feel it, and you can replace it. (I've had them break on me. It's pretty damn easy to tell, cause suddenly everything is really sensitive.) So, really, these are your best bet. The downsides to condoms are that some people do not like the feel of them.

The second most commonly used method is birth control. This method has huge potential pitfalls though. There are many possible side effects, including a huge loss in libido. Some women going on birth control really have trouble getting any sort of drive out of themselves. And even then, the perfect failure rate is less than condoms, being at 95%.

If you are really paranoid, you can combine the two. There are other methods of birth control as well, but most of them are long term and much more complicated, and not needed unless these solutions will not work for you.

The Actual Event
Okay, so, you are both new to sex. Luckily, real life isn't like a porno. There is a lot more to do, and you can both go at your own pace. Naturally, everything starts with foreplay. If you aren't trying to rush, it's good to feel each other out. Avoid the sexual bits. As a guy, I personally try to spend at least 5-10 minutes kissing and caressing my partners body without touching the breasts or vagina. Once you do move on to this part, take it slow here as well. If you are feeling out breasts, start slowly with the outside, and work your way in. And don't neglect the rest of the body while you are at it. Same goes with the vagina. Start on the outside, with the lips, gently work your way into the clitoris area, and depending on your partners preferences, you can finger, lick, etc. For the female, there are plenty of options as well. Just general stroking and touching, blow jobs, etc.

Finally, once both partners are comfortable, put the condom on, and prepare yourselves. Spend a couple more minutes cuddling, and then try either the missionary position or the standard cowgirl position. Both are excellent for newcomers. It isn't a race either. A lot of women enjoy slower sex versus what you see in porn movies with the guy pounding like a bullet train. Don't be surprised if he comes really quick the first time. It's actually pretty natural with all the excitement. Just because the guy orgasms doesn't mean it has to end though. Take a few minutes, replace the condom, and go again. The second time the guy will last much longer due to what is known as a refractory period.

ANYWAY. I hope this was somewhat helpful. If you want to know more, just let me know.

If you're considering using birth control, it is important to talk to a doctor about all the available options and how they may affect you, especially if you intend to use a prescription method. For your own safety, please do not just go out and grab the first available thing or rush into anything. Sex CAN wait if you are not prepared for any reason. Make sure you are informed and safe before making this decision.

Adult information below

Another thing about the condom use, (well i havent used one before but have researched).. Always make sure that it is not expired. Open it carefully so nothing tears. And you know what a hymen is right? It is to protect your (girl) private area when you are young, but it usually is still in tact until, well, it breaks. It is possible to have a broken hymen while still being a virgin, because of things like horse riding or intense exercising. It is easier if it is broken ahead of time. That really is your choice though. You will want to make sure that you are wet enough and he is hard before the penetration. Also, relax. This not only helps with your mental state, but also your physical state of readiness. You may want to put on some light music to set the mood, maybe lighting or appealing scents such as roses. It's okay if you don't know what to do with your arms or legs lol. Just caress each other if you get confused lol. That, and kiss, whatever else, well... you probably know what kind of things your boyfriend likes, right? And just make sure both of you enjoy it. Even if you hymen has to break, you can relax and talk sweetly to each other. I agree- missionary or cowgirl would probably work well. It would be a good thing to communicate your feelings and desires to your boyfriend. Tell him what you like, how happy you are,ect. Good luck :3