Moving out?
 

Is it as hard as everyone says it is? I've been told (specifically by my family members) that it's easier said than done.

So what do you think Mene? Was it hard for you to move out, or are you still with the folks?
Did you ever try to plan things out financially before you did anything?
What's the hardest thing since moving out?

I want to move out so bad. It's like a puzzle though. Get a job, save up money, look at available places then finally you can move. That's just if everything goes as planned. There could be no houses or the job you have is horrible. It will take a while before I move out, sadly.

Yes and no.
It's more expensive than anything else, you can find a dozen awesome apartments, but affording them and the deposits can be a challenge if you're on a tight budget.
At least for me, but I also haven't had to worry about moving affecting my job yet, because I do "by commission." I also had people to live with, and I've yet to live truly on my own, I've also had a good safety net too, for when things go south.
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The actual "moving stuff from point a to point b" is not really all that difficult, it just tends to be labor-intensive, and can take quite a bit of time.

The difficult part about moving is coming up with the funds. If you are moving into a rented space, normally you need to pay down a deposit for the apartment (or whatever housing you are renting), the first month of rent (if not more), deposits for utilities (which can be quite expensive) and other related services if applicable (for example, we must also pay a deposit on our trash service), and if you hire movers or rent a truck to help move your belongings, there is that cost as well.

I'm assuming you are moving out of your parents' house; otherwise you may incur other costs in trying to repair or clean the place you move out of as well (for example, we will be paying to have our carpets professionally cleaned before we leave).

Then, of course, it might be emotionally difficult to move, especially away from parents. Part of my training as a member of the residential life staff on my university campus was learning how to coach students who were home sick. I never encountered anyone who was home sick though, and I never really experienced it (my dad's home was only a few hours away so I could pretty much go home whenever I needed to).


Personally though, my move-out from my dad's home was not particularly difficult. I moved into a college residence hall, so I did not (and could not, really) move much with me, and the deposits and related expenses did not apply to me since they were already lumped in with other expenses that were billed to me by the university (and at that time, all of those expenses were covered by scholarships and grants).

Then I moved from that residence back to my dad's house, then to another college residence (same campus different building), then to a duplex, then back into the same building on campus again (for a summer job), then into a different campus building (for another summer job), then back into the duplex at the end of the summer, then into a house that I shared with about five other people, and then into the apartment I am in now.

So in the past four or five years, I suppose I have done my fair share of moving, hah. :lol: It has definitely become more difficult as I have aquired more stuff, like furniture, but the toughest part will be starting from square one again. In May, my husband is moving out of the state, and he does not want to pay to move all of our belongings (namely because most of our furniture is of fairly shoddy quality), so he has to deal with getting rid of a lot of our things in order to move, either by selling, donating, or trashing things. I am moving in about a month as well, into basically school housing again, and since I am likely traveling by plane, I cannot take much with me. It is tough trying to decide what needs to be put into storage to send with my husband later or to be rid of entirely.

Saving up the money--and keeping up enough to continue all the payments you will have to make--can definitely be very difficult. I used to imagine (when I was little) that I'd have my own house by the time I was 18, because that was how everyone made it sound, like you move out at 18 and that's that. If I hadn't met someone to move in with, I'd still be stuck with my family and I'm 21 now--and we still have to live in a budget apartment with the rent adjusted to my husband's income (which is quite low). Even now, we can't afford a normally-priced apartment, much less our own house.
That said, the rest of it (getting away from family, doing things your own way, keeping up with your own appointments) is pretty nice/easy.

As great as it sounds to want to get out and try living alone, I think there are some advantages to living at home too. Don't get me wrong-- I wanted to leave home as /soon/ as I was finished with high school (and I did by going off to college), but there are things about it that I definitely miss: my own bed and home cooked meals.
I'm very very biased on this subject though because in my freshman year of college my parents moved to a state on the other side of the country, so that meant no weekend trips back to the house for me. I have friends that will complain about going home or their parents coming to visit but I wouldn't mind that; being stuck at the dorms 24/7 with no way of going home until long holidays is not really my cup of tea. @[email protected];
Though on the other side of the spectrum...I'm currently at my parents' house (will be until April) and it's starting to get to me. It reminds me of being back in high school and itching to get out on my own. >_<

I moved out when I was 16, I got a little help with my rent but otherwise I was all on my own. I moved because I wanted to go to a school quite far away from school. I never had any problem with the practical things, I accually thought it was fun to do my own laundry and shop my own things. It made me feel so grown up xD
But from other aspects it was probably a pretty bad thing for me, since my depression got very much worse without people around me all the time and in a city where I only knew a few people I wasn't likely to ask anyone for help.
I moved back to my parents a year ago (I'm almost 20 now). Which kinda sucks since everyone else my age is moving out, but I'm staying until here until I'm healthier and done with school.

But as long as you have the financial stuf alright then you'll figure out the rest. Whatever you do try to not get in any more dept than you need for your studies. And try to meet people if you move to another city, there's nothing as lonely as being new in a city you don't know.
And don't expect luxuary :)

Its never been hard for me to move out.

The first time I "officially" left the nest I was 19 and moved to Alberta and worked at a resort for a few months. I ended up coming home mostly because all I did was drink like crazy out there and party and wasnt' accomplishing anything.

The second time I moved (was 21) to a local town to live with my boyfriend. His dad was pretty much living with his girlfriend so he had the house to himself. Then his sister wanted to move home she started a bunch of drama so I moved back home.

The last time I've moved was this past July and I am now living in Winnipeg (Manitoba) and this was the biggest "move" as all my furniture, all his furniture was moved, we had to set up a lot of things like internet, hydro etc... and everything went smoothly. If you have a plan and follow to it and don't mind being alone then you'll be fine.

Moving.
 

Easier said than done, If you're thinking realisticly rather then fantasy land...Which I am thinking realisticly. >.<Like my bf soon...well when im 18.. almost 17 now. in a few months. He wants me to move in with him. It is quite easier said than done. you have to buy and do everything on your own once you move out not to mention we will be living together so getting along I dunno.. I mean we get along great now. We don't ever argue or anything..I complain sometimes though but yeah. hahah. it is easier said than done if you are thinking realisticly.

I am moving out in december. I am 18. My parents are divorced, and remarried (not to eachother of coarse). Threw my high school years they have built up depts and such. Making it diffcult for me. Both my mom and dad, and their spouces own a house, have a child, and deal with my brother and I. That is just a little bit of background. With my mom, ever since I was maybe twelve, would never let me loan any money. I worked for it doing chores and such around the house. But then I turned 16. Still had to do chores, but was cut off from any money. Now to many, it may sound cruel. But I am glad she did it. Want to know why?

It forced me to get a job. Learn to work on my own. Most days, I have to feed myself die to work hours. But I still come home to a house, and a room. In my senior year, I was looking at collegs, and both my mom and dad told me, they were not going to pay for me to go. It was expensive though.

So in the past year, I celebrated my birthday, got four promotions in my job, and now am getting ready for a school program. I think part of moving out, is learning how to handle being cut off. And learning to do things for yourself. Like getting a job. I hate when I hear people my own age bitch about not having this, not having that. Built a damn bridge and get over it...

I pay my parents rent, and car insurance. Not to mention phone, food and clothes. I still don't know what It is like to live alone, but I think I have a pretty good start.

I will always remember something my dad said to me. "I hated being at home. So I joined the coast guard, and a month later I was gone. I had a bag of clothes, and a twenty I borrowed from my friend before getting on the plane."

I want to move out that anybody could ever know. Living with my mom and brother is not good for my mental health, and the moment I can move I'm taking that shot. Which will most likely be when I transfer into a four year college and stay in a dorm.

I tried moving out before, basically I ran away to a friends house for two weeks but then he started to be a douche and I eventually went back home because he kicked me out because I stood up for myself. :|
And my mom constantly uses that against me to prove how much of a failure she thinks I am, which doesn't help my depression one bit. <__<

The day I move out will most likely be the last day I see any of my family again. Black sheep aren't welcomed in my family, and I'm the black sheep. :|

@Captain Pains: My mom is the same way. I did not do well in school. Mostly C's and D's (Thanks Math and science!). But I passed. And she likes to use that against me. Because I took a year off. I have a job to keep myself busy and out of the house. Plus it shows me that retail sucks and I never want to make a career out of it :P

I'm 19, and I still live at home with my parents.

I'm not aiming to move out until I become 21 or 22.

Until then I'm saving money and eating bacon.

Well that's a tough one. I live with my fiancee now but I moved out in a rather...bad way. Nonetheless, things are better now but it was easier than I thought it would be. I got my things packed in just a few hours and had the boxes at my fiancee's house the same day. So it was all rather easy to do. No I wasn't financially stable enough to do it seeing as I was still in school at the time but he took care of me until I could get a job of my own.
But to answer your question though, it's hard to judge whether it'd be easy for another person or not. You were raised differently than I, and I'm sure your life is completely different than my own. For me it was an easy choice, but for others its hard to just leave your parents so easily. It's something that needs to be thought about a lot before you know whether or not you're ready.

I'd say yes because I need a full-time job and nobody is hiring D: but other than that every other little detail for the next 7 years is easy to plan

I moved once, and only once, and I'll NEVER do it again unless *I* have a major medical problem that requires me to move hell, earth, and my remaining cat all over again. Why?

Being up since 1 am the day of the move, leaving an hour later with no breakfast and almost no lunch until almost noon, driving almost non-stop for eight-plus hours with two cats, one of which was SCREAMING the entire time [guess who was in the car with the screaming cat? Three guesses, the first two don‘t count] in two cars, and a moving van through three and a half states, two re-fuels, and hardly any pit-stops.

Then having to deal with the people at the DMV basically saying that I don’t exist, all because I, at the time, didn’t have anything in my name to prove that I actually reside at my current address, all except for a letter from my employer, a pay stub, and my roommates word. There was a mess-ups all around, a lot of unpacking, and basically trying to get stuff together while also working at my new job.

Oh, have I mentioned yet that during my first month and a half of being in my new home and all of this, minus the moving part, I was working 40-plus hours [ or about eight to nine hours a day ] a week at my new job?

So, yea, unless I am paid MILLIONS to move again, or there’s a medical need that renders me useless, I’m not going anywhere.

I haven't move out yet but I am planning to for the next school year, I will be starting college and living in a dorm *bleh* I am kinda worried about it though, I really like my privacy and my OWN house. I don't even like stepping foot into my friends houses, nor do I like them coming into my house. I especially hate the thought of sharing bathrooms with strangers, I don't like public bathrooms either.

The hardest part for me was finding a new job in my new location and people to hangout with. I was going to school at the same time.

I had saved 10K by the time I left my parents at 20 years old. It was all gone by the next year.

I don't like to talk to people I don't know. I make most of my friends from mutual friends, so being at college alone without mutual friends to friend off of, I drove home a LOT.

Moving out can be difficult. It was hard for me to move the first time. But after that it just get easier and easier. It takes lost of planning and commitment. And don't ever leave packing for the last day. Not a good idea. Hahaha. I have moved 20+ times in the past 4 years. I honestly lost track. Haha. Being finically stable is always a must. I dont think moving out for a month or so then having to go back to your parents to live with because you were finically ready. Self esteem -10 pts. Kidding. haha. Just do what you think is right. No worries.

Try to get a dependable roomie first. Like a serious book worm who doesn't look like he/she will skip out on the rent.

Omg, moving cats is awful. I moved mine two hours from the humane society to where I lived, then across town from a house I was renting to my current apartment. If they have to move more than two hours away, I'll definitely be visiting the vet to get some sedatives or depressants so they're not so stressed out from the car ride.