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LiviInLove 07-30-2015 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by EvilPagemistress (Post 1773411527)
I spent 4 years of my life tiptoeing around my ex-fiance - anything could piss him off at any time, and I soon learned to watch my Ps and Qs around him, just in case he bit my head off (which he did on a very frequent basis in any case, so it really didn't matter).

So that's why when this situation came up with J, I wasn't sure how he'd react if I told him I wanted to break things off. For all I knew, he was going to be like my ex-fiance. I just didn't know how he was going to react, and I was worried he might've gone and bitten my head off. Of course, now I know better, but at the time, I didn't. And I am WELL aware that I did the wrong thing. I've already acknowledged it, and I plan on NOT making the same mistake a second time. (And I'm sorry if I sound a bit snappish, but honestly, I've already acknowledged that I did the wrong thing. I would now like to please move past my bad behaviour and focus on the future, thank you).

Sorry, I won't bother you from here on out - I honestly do not appreciate being snapped at. I didn't have the time to go back and re-read everything as I honestly have no time - that's the only reason I don't know what's going on...
So I'm sorry that it seemed like I was judging you - but I really do not appreciate being snapped at.
I won't bother to try to understand what's going on in the future. I'll just leave you be. Sorry for trying to understand what was going on. I wish you the best of luck, and I'll be leaving you be now, because this is what I get apparently for trying to not have to read back through walls of text that I have no time for.

The Wandering Poet 07-30-2015 08:46 PM

These kind of replies always make me sad... =/

Ava The Vampire 07-30-2015 08:49 PM

I have noticed all across the internet, people seem to be getting angry at each other lately.

I try my best to avoid the confrontation. Sensing anger is very triggering for me, I avoid it at all costs. :(

I just hope that whatever happened here is resolved now and we can go back to being happy!

Michy Lea 07-30-2015 08:49 PM

Yes. It's very sad. And kind of awkward.

It's OK, Liv. Don't feel offended and stop posting. Hope you start feeling better.

That's one thing about posting on a public forum, sometimes you get a dive you don't want or have to repeat yourself when people don't read through the pages of the entire conversation.

We all make our own decisions in life and no two relationships are the same. As long as you've learned from past mistakes, your current relationship can only gain from that knowledge.

It could be the heat making people heated. I learned in psychology that when it's hot outside, violence increases. Heat has an impact on people's moods.

The Wandering Poet 07-30-2015 09:10 PM

Is there by chance a full moon coming? I've heard some people say they get irritable during a full moon (hence the werewolf myth)... but I dunno full moons make me happy.

Triggering how so ava?
For me I think I react the worst to stress.

First - How do people get violent if it's so dang hot!?!
Though...now that I think of it drivers have been getting very impatient lately here.

Michy Lea 07-30-2015 09:16 PM

I'm not sure why it happens, but studies have been done that show that people are more temperamental when the weather is hotter. Here is an article about it.

I assume it has something to do with heat making people uncomfortable, leading to more irritability. I know I can get cranky when I'm sweaty.

LiviInLove 07-30-2015 10:06 PM

I honestly just don't appreciate being snapped at when I'm trying to understand what's going on. Sorry for not having the time to read back through what feels like - to my poor sick self - pages of information. I'll just walk away. Because apparently that's what's needed right now.

Forgive me for trying to understand what's going on. I won't make that mistake again in the future.

It doesn't help I feel like absolute crap and hate having to ask for help from people with my girls... :/ :( I know it's understandable to need to ask for help, but it's something that I hate having to do. Plus it's been over 100 for the past week... so yes that is something but also we do have the AC on full blast so that's not really it either. I just don't appreciate being snapped at over all, especially when I'm just trying to understand what's going on, because I'm not on enough to know the whole picture...

And the moon phases have never affected me - it's more the fact that I can't breathe out my nose and I Feel like crap that's affecting me. I'll just leave y'all be for now.

Michy Lea 07-30-2015 10:17 PM

I understand your position. You shouldn't leave Mene over one bad encounter. Hope you start feeling better soon.

The Wandering Poet 07-30-2015 10:23 PM

I hope you get well soon Livi.

Ava The Vampire 07-30-2015 10:25 PM

It's triggering for me when people get angry and angry type over the internet because it always reminds me of times when I experienced people getting angry at me over the internet and I ended up doing something silly because I get so scared of people getting angry at me.

Even through text. I had a friend on the internet once who was my best friend, and we shared numbers and we'd talk every day, then one day he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said no and he blew up at me over the phone, then proceeded to bully me online and type angry messages at me in PMs and spread rumors about me.
I used to get really scared of him because he knew almost everything about me, and to have him writing those angry messages scared me a lot.

I guess every time I see someone write an angry message on the internet, even if its not to me, I get scared.

The Wandering Poet 07-30-2015 10:42 PM

Oh I see. So you get kind of a flashback of sorts? =/ those are no fun.

[hug] Hopefully you can feel safe enough here.

Ava The Vampire 07-30-2015 10:57 PM

I feel safe here,

But I still get a little scared when people type angry messages online, granted, i can't always avoid it because well, people.
But still, I actively avoid people getting angry at me. I will even agree with things I don't agree with to avoid people getting mad at me.

I just hate it when people get angry, online and off.
It's scary. When I was in the hospital, we had a man who got angry and literally flipped the table in the lounge and I just automatically think of people flipping tables when they are angry and I get scared for my life.

Angry people are scary, I avoid at all costs.

MedievalBeauty 07-31-2015 01:51 AM

I hope liv will be okay, must be hard to raise children, atleast that's what I have heard.
I usually avoid anger related topics unless its directed at me, then I kinda lose my cool. So, perfectly normal to do so.
Im the only one awake, yay pretty cool but boring as well.
How is everyone going besides the anger posts?

Ava The Vampire 07-31-2015 02:01 AM

I am okay, Beauty
I saw my therapist today and had a pretty good day overall.

I have a really busy week ahead of me after the weekend is over. A lot of treatment to do and such.

How are you??

MedievalBeauty 07-31-2015 02:03 AM

Ah okay that's good. I am glad you have a good day. What kind of treatment are you getting if you dont mind me asking.

I am good thanks; been laying in bed for awhile, but been awake for a few hours now. I don't have much planned for today as far as I know.

Ava The Vampire 07-31-2015 02:13 AM

You are in Australia right? :)
No plans for today? You should do something nice for yourself.
Maybe go see a movie or something??

I'm going to do some thing called intensive outpatient treatment (IOP) which is also called day treatment where I go to a clinic three times a week to do group therapy. I've done it before but that was a partial hospitalization program (PHP) where I was not working and we learned about how to go back into society after a long period of being in the hospital. That time I was in the hospital for month.

PHP is basically like staying in the hospital except you go to sleep at home and come back in the morning.

IOP is more like really intensive group therapy.
I'm kind of looking forward to it, but I know it'll be a ton of hard work.

Michy Lea 07-31-2015 02:14 AM

I have actually fairly successfully done a gradient French manicure! I'm happy right now. Probably about to take a nap before we go out to the casino later tonight.

MedievalBeauty 07-31-2015 02:22 AM

Ava: Ah okay, I've never heard of it before you mentioned actually. But, I do hope all goes well for you.
I'll probably watch movies or something later, probably in the evening.

First: Ah awesome, that sounds like fun. I hope you have a great time.

Ava The Vampire 07-31-2015 02:29 AM

What do gradient french manicure nails look like?? (Would Google, but I'm lazy and my phone doesn't like me.)

Definitely have fun and chill out and watch some fun movies, Beauty
You deserve a nice break.

Michy Lea 07-31-2015 02:34 AM

https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-T...t_original.jpg

Like this. It's more of a soft fade between the pink and white instead of a harsh line.

MedievalBeauty 07-31-2015 02:34 AM

Thanks Ava, I appreciate that. I've been watching this tv show called reign for a couple of months or so, and its really good. It's set in the medieval times as well.

The Wandering Poet 07-31-2015 04:15 AM

Yeah. People are people, and aggression is an unavoidable human nature.

I know the feeling a bit Ava of having to get help. I actually got sent the the counselor myself at my college. They said that my social skills weren't up to snuff so they want to "fix it" somehow.

EvilPagemistress 07-31-2015 07:25 AM

For what it's worth, I wasn't in the best space when I made my last reply to Liv, and that's probably why I was a bit snappish. I probably should've held off on replying until I'd cooled down :( That's a bit of a fault of mine, and I feel kinda bad. I honestly didn't mean to upset anyone :(

LiviInLove 07-31-2015 02:10 PM

I was hoping to wake up feeling better, nope - the hubs said that if I'm not better by Monday - he's personally taking me to the doctor. The girls are back at Greg and Jon's today as I really have no energy to try to get out of bed. :/ Ugh! :( I hate being sick.

How're you all doing? Excuse me if I have to take awhile to respond, I may go back to sleep - I probably will actually.

(And because of being snapped at just because I wanted to know what was going on... I doubt I'll try to understand things that are going on in this thread other than immediate conversations with me... Just saying. So excuse me if I don't bother to try to understand people's problems because if I get snapped at for trying to understand - sorry, but nope... I'm not bothering to try anymore.)

Ava: I'm sorry if my retort back to being snapped at and treated badly sent you into any flashbacks, I didn't mean that. I just am tired of people who feel it's ok to snap at me as if it's ok. :/ From here on out I won't be responding to anything that doesn't directly involve me.

Beauty: It's exhausting especially when I'm sick.

First: I never said I was leaving Mene - just possibly this thread.

MedievalBeauty 07-31-2015 02:55 PM

Liv: What kind of sickness is it? Like a headcold or something.


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