Things Other People Do That You Don't Understand?
 

So today I was walking through a Walmart to get some toothpaste and in the process I walked through the hair care aisle and noticed the gigantic cans of hairspray. Now, I know you're going, wtf are you going on about woman? But here's the thing. I don't get hairspray. I have one midget travel can of hair spray that I've been using for at least two years and it'll probably last me another. So my point is, how on earth do women/people go through those gigantic cans of hairspray? Like ever?

Anyway, point of this thread being, what are some things that people do or like that has never made sense to you?

people who eat boogers are hard to understand. like, they dont even taste good! [XP]

Yeah, I get that. I try to be nice to people when they're being mean because I figure they're having a bad day, but then when they're like that 24/7 365 that's a different story...

Let's see here. I don't understand how people can eat coconut, and I also don't understand people who get fake nails every week. It's like...that's 50 dollars or more a week right there and you drive junker car. How...

People who complain about how slow other people their own age move, yet refuse to walk faster than how slow those other are walking. Must be something about having worked in kitchens that makes me always walk fast.

I'm just jealous of you not needing hairspray :( My hair's really thin and flyaway, so it needs a ton of glue to get it to behave. Otherwise I might as well not even comb it when I get out of bed, because it's gonna look like shit once I step outside if there's more than a breath of wind >.>


Ok, here's something that some customers try where I work, and I'm like
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I work for a charity that sells second hand furniture. Our stuff is cheap, but some people still try to get it cheaper. A guy wanted a wardrobe last week. The price on it was £45 ($70) which is the normal price we put on wardrobes, unless they're huge or really good. This guy wanted to buy it for £20! Cheeky bastard. The most I'll usually knock off a price is £5, and you know why he only wanted to pay £20? Because he only wanted it to put in his shed to put tools in it...

Yeah, and? How does that affect the price of it, hmm? So if I go into the butchers, and try to buy a £40 joint of prime beef for £5, because I only want it for my dog, that's ok, is it? [headdesk]

So yeah, that's a thing that I don't understand about other people. How some think their intended use for something should have an impact on its purchase price O_O

Ach, Jelly, that sounds like my experience with yard sales. It's already as cheap as it can get, and they still want a penny off. I swear, if it cost a penny, they'd want it for a half penny. What's worse is when they get upset when you won't accept their lowball offer and then start yelling at you about it like it's your fault they're a cheap ass.

Meh, my hair is somewhat a lost cause. It's so heavy that hairspray won't keep it up, and if it's down it's just going to be messy once the wind kicks up or whatever. I just gave up on it, I suppose. [lol]

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Most often, I seem to have this going on. Perhaps spurred by that all-familiar sour taste in your mouth of hating every minute of your job, and congratulating yourself on the way down the elevator for not hurling your coworkers down the stairs. I work in a medical clinic.

It's not the patients, the redundant paperwork, or even the ridiculous and useless "office policy" rules that are followed that bother me, it's the other employees. It infuriates me just having to sit in the same vicinity as that level of unempathetic stupidity. My job could be done by dung beetles--or so I had thought. I seem to spend more time correcting their mistakes and wondering how they haven't walked themselves right out into traffic by now.

So that's basically what I don't understand.

I don't get when the following conversation happens:

Person A: Oh hey there person B! This is my friend, person C!
Person B: Oh, hi, nice to meet you person C! - HEY PERSON A you remember that thing we did last week that person C wasn't part of and knows nothing about and if we talk about it they can't be involved in this conversation in any way shape or form? LET'S TALK ABOUT THAT FOR TWO HOURS!
Person A: HAHA OKAY!

...as for hairspray, it has its uses. It's good for training your hair to stay in a specific style or if you really, really want it to stay together for something involving heavy activity (my purpose is usually costumes). I don't know how people can possibly go through one of those giant cans in a week, though - though I know some people who do it. They scare me a little.

I also don't understand people who don't like cats (I say as a cat is chewing on my screen to remind me).

Eye contact - Eye contact is weird. I've never liked it. But for some reason my discomfort of eye contact is considered extremely rude. Why is this so important? I mean really, I can't pay attention any easier or any less if it's boring.

Cheating - Betraying those you love. Why do people do this? If someone is unhappy and wants to be with someone else just end the relationship first.

Body language - This is like a whole nother language to me and I barely have the basics down...

Get drunk - You drink a bunch, not remember any of it, and you get a nasty hangover (and possibly a baby or whatever other permanent things), sounds awful.

Smoke - Ingesting smoke. Never made sense and it has always made me feel miserable.

Gossip - Sure talking about some topics are nice, but when you know that it's something humiliating why do people talk about it? If it's embarrassing they can at least have the respect to leave out their name...

Make-up - It looks awful and I always find someone looks much better looking like a human being not a doll...

Deodorant/Perfume/Cologne - This stuff smells worse than the natural human smell. Why is this popular?

Body modifications - Okay so you pierce your ears, maybe your lip and a few other things sure, but when you start ripping out parts of your face and putting plastic and gelatin stuff in there that's just messed up. The only time I think this would be reasonable would be a gender change. If it's just because you "don't look pretty" that's just stupid and makes no sense.

and much much more...

I don't understand cheating also. There is never a reason for it and no reason to lie on top of that. Also, I believe if you love someone you do not hurt them like that.

I also do not understand how people can have so little regard to a life. I've seen many cases of animal abuse where people just do not care. I also do not understand how someone can murder someone else or rape or whatever else to someone. I just don't get it and it's something that I can never justify in my mind.

Hate for no reason is another thing I just do not get. What I mean by that is things like hating someone based on something they can not control such as gender, race, sexuality, gender identity, etc.


Not much else really gets to me. I'm just like "to each their own" to most things.

Poet's post is pretty much my whole character...

haha! [rofl]

people that play dress up on internet forums
wtf mang

I know right Risque? I mean heck some of them are guys playing dress up on the internet too. *cough*

See, I understand cheating, but that's because I'm willing to admit to myself that monogamous relationships are not for everyone - and they're for even fewer people when they're a forced ideal.

When you force people to think that they can be with one and only one person...they start to regret their choices and get grass-is-greener syndrome. No matter how perfect they are for each other, the tiny little faults pile up. And you feel like crap and want to explore other options...but then according to the world you can't just be "fickle" like that, you need to live up to your commitment!

So you cheat. And it's stupid and it is, to me, indication that we need to change (read: remove) society's rules about relationships. Let people decide for themselves what they want out of a relationship rather than promoting a single idea of the "perfect" relationship.

This just gave me an AWESOME idea for a video game actually. Sweet, now my boyfriend's future company has THREE titles in the works!

And Poet, you might be interested to know that eye contact is actually considered rude and aggressive behavior in Japan. It's most polite to avoid it.

And I agree with Mystic on those last two points - though I do understand how people can rape. We treat female-bodied people like their bodies are not their own and solely exist for our enjoyment, naturally people are going to want to just "take what's theirs". >_> That's rape culture. I could go on for hours and hours about it.

...what I don't understand is how we could have survived as a species while creating that culture.

Well the thing with cheating is that your preferences for a relationship should be outlined prior to the relationship. If you want to be able to date around sleep around and do whatever, it should be defined ahead of time. Otherwise you are, in a sense, intentionally hurting them. Otherwise the lacking portions of their life need to be discussed. I agree society forces a norm on us though.

Oh really now? *wants to live in Japan*

Oh I never understood to objecting of women I mean heck I can't even call my cat property. She's a living thing and if she wants to betray me for another person then she isn't mine anymore. Just like if I date a girl and she leaves me she's no longer mine. The only time you should be able to claim a woman or a man is if they give you that right, and that right is likely going to be temporary.

Absolutely, but the point I'm trying to make is, a lot of people try to make their preferences for a relationship fit this predefined heteronormative monogamous narrative when that just doesn't work for them. They try and they try and they try to convince themselves that it does, but it doesn't - and they end up hurting themselves and others for it. And they're at fault, yes, but so is this idea we've built up that psh, a man and a woman, a white picket fence, two kids, and a dog is what we should always assume everyone wants because everyone really wants that deep down.

As for sexism, I wish I knew when and where that started...so I would know where and when to go and who I need to castrate if I ever discover time travel. It makes no sense - women could destroy all of humanity if they collectively just decided to stop having babies, but if men made that decision...we have sperm banks, therefore that plan is out. I understand it though, I have to understand it. I'm a writer and I feel like it's my job to research the successes and failings of cultures around the world. Because media is so powerful, it gives me the ability to highlight what kinds of things in the world REALLY NEED TO CHANGE like yesterday.

The thing about sexism is that it's been a central part of our society's values for so long - and yet sexism is considered terrible - that most people are sexist as all hell and don't know it, and will become defensive if called out on it. Same goes for racism actually, but that's another rant. We have "traditional" roles forced on us from the time we're born - in many cases, with the invention of ultrasound, WHILE WE'RE IN THE WOMB (research has shown that babies can be influenced by the way their parents interact with them while they're still there, by the way). And these messages are poured on us for our entire lives. We hold women to a higher standard than men. We use the idea of being feminine as an insult. We consider femininity weak and yet force it on any child born with a vagina just because hey, that's the way it's always been so it MUST be right, right?

There's actually an article on Cracked.com that highlights a lot of the messages we're bombarded with to promote misogyny on an institutional level. It's really worth a read.

The result is this world which seems to be getting more and more bigoted every day.

Really it's their fault for confining themselves to the ideals of the rest of the world.
I know my parents will be quite unhappy when they find I'm in a relationship with a girl who has a mental based disability. Just because people frown on dating someone like that doesn't make my choice any harder to make. I shouldn't have to confine myself to the ideals of the rest of the world if they aren't my ideals. If my ideals don't harm anyone else then I don't really care.

*reads the thread* Owed a hot girl? Eck... the hotter they are the higher chance their ego is through the roof. No thank you.
Women are decorations? Uhh... I don't get how we are trained to see them as such... but I definitely missed that part of my training.
Conspiring to ruin us... uhh that one is just ridiculous we're doing a darn fine job ruining our own lives...
Manhood stolen? Oh dear these are starting to get pathetic...
Feeling powerless... well aint that their own darn fault...

My conclusion... men simply have issues with being bested in general.

Think about all the times you've seen attractive women in ads. Carl's Jr. and their thing where they just always have to have a woman sexily eating one of their burgers. Car calendars with women spread across them like parsley on a dinner plate. Every ad where a woman's body is all that's in the picture and her face is cut out. That's the kind of thing they're talking about - when you see it all the time, it sinks in. It's scary.

EXACTLY. Men - specifically, straight white wealthy cis men - built this ridiculous unfair system where they are always on top no matter what. We're moving toward a society that recognizes how unfair this is...so these men are acting like a bunch of toddlers trying to cling to power because they do not want to think that a woman - or for that matter, a brown person, a gay guy, a trans* person, or a poor person - could possibly be better than them at anything ever. So on both conscious and subconscious levels depending on the individual, any time someone is fighting for their rights, they up the ante trying to make them look like they're just terrible people.

Notice that there's more sexism coming about with the gay rights movement gaining momentum. I'm willing to bet that a huge part of the reason is that by the stereotypes, gay=effeminate=bad. So more than one group is getting caught up in the backlash from these overgrown toddlers not wanting to share their toys.

I dunno, this society just sucks. Can we have a zombie apocalypse so we can rebuild from scratch?

Ah... yeah that's true but I see women drooling over men in ads just as often. So while not as much, men are used for the same purpose. Women are just used more often.

Honestly I have seen gays and they don't really act any different from a normal person. Sure some of them wear skimpy cloths that screams fashion nightmare and some try and talk differently.
As far as I'm concerned I have no issue with a gay unless they A) Talk like a teenager at 30 years old, or B) have cloths 3 sizes too small on.
But then again that bothers me in general anyways.

I would have to disagree with you on that. I think the right term you are looking for is, "asshole." Assholes can be of any race or orientation.

One of the things that's been annoying me most is people's spending habits. My friends drive cars that break down and complain about how they can't afford to pay X bill on time or Y bill is already past due. But you can bet that they all have an iphone and an ipad. I just don't get it. Those same people also have no issue with buying jugs of Bicadi (or some other alcohol) and going through tat at some odd house party at so-and-so's house. I don't understand! Maybe I'm the odd one... but it just is really irresponsible behavior to me.

So true... and so many homeless people these days I've seen with these fancy phones and stuff too... it's ridiculous how bad they are at priorities...

I nromally don't get to see homeless people's stuff because I'm typically not around it but my friends just drive me nuts. At least they've finally stopped asking me to borrow money. they've learned the answer is always going to be no. And it will be for a LONG time. It'd be different if I felt they were responsible and just had an unfortunate month.