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Define cheating in relationships
Through out the internet i heard and seen so many different opinions on what cheating is in a relationship. Some may agree or disagree with what cheating means.
Here is a few questions for you... -What do you define cheating? -Do you believe those rules of yours implies to all relationships? -What is your opinion on the relationships that has different settings you're abnormal to? Do you still condemn it cheating? My answers above -I define cheating is when one of the two broke a agreement what they believe it's cheating to them, not to every relationship. -No, i don't believe my rules implies to everyone. I just think partners should talk about what is acceptable and was is not then assume the rules exist without communication and agreement with on another. -I may not feel comfortable or have a disagreement with the actions but i don't consider it cheating because they have different rules then i do. |
Cheating is when a person deceives their partner. When a person selfishly abandons their faith in the person they are with and they lust for someone else. Not all relationships are meant to last, but I think if someone wants to be with another person it is best to break up with them first.
One of the most attractive traits of a human being is honesty. If someone's partner lacks an honest-heart and looks to deceive their partner and play them as a fool then true love will never exist between that couple. It is best to be honest and have a love life without lies, deceit, lust & guilt. Everyone has their own journey in life, that includes their relationships. It's a unique journey full of joy & misery. |
How I define it is if they have to lie about it or keep it from me then it's cheating. If they're lying they are probably doing something they are not supposed to be doing.
It does depend on the relationship. Some relationships are more open than others. For some that works, for others it does not. It just depends on what terms the people in the relationship agree on. |
I never really understood why the act was ever called "cheating" when I actually stop and think about it. However, for he sake of the thread, I'll just go with it. I'd say that, for one reason or the other, it's when someone in a relationship loses interest and decides to become intimate with someone else without even breaking off the first relationship.
I believe that the base of my definition applies to all cheating instances. It's actually more complicated than that, though. Some men or women probably don't break off the relationship because they don't want to see heartbreak in their first partner. I'm not justifying that it's right, but I know that some are like that. Then there are the assholes who just don't care and live for deceiving so long as they get what they want. Quote:
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Cheating can be anything that falls out the established boundaries of a relationship. Everyone has different definitions of what is. Some are fine with their partner having sex with someone else but not happy with some emotional bonding and so on.
If you're unsure, lie and/or feel some sort of guilt for doing an act, it is possibly cheating and it is something that should be discussed and clarified before being acted upon. Overall, cheating is just a break of trust. Regardless of individual definitions of cheating, I think the things I outlined above tends to apply to every relationship. |
I think it entirely depends on the couple. There is no predetermined definition on 'cheating' because it's whatever the couple is comfortable with, and they respect each other. If they break that respect, and do something the other person is not comfortable with, whether sexually or not, that's cheating. I think cheating can be a wide variety of things, but of course, it's usually meant in a sexual way.
I know a couple that are married, and they are extremely open-minded. The wife may sleep with another woman, but not a man. The husband will not sleep with a man, and will only sleep with a woman if his wife is involved, for a threesome. That's not cheating at all. However, if the wife were to sleep with another man, even though her husband is against that, it would be cheating. She did something that her husband is not comfortable with, and did not respect him. The same could be said if he slept with another woman, without his wife involved. Some people are strict monogamous. Others are not. I would say most are. I would not feel comfortable with my girlfriend sleeping with another woman, but if she were to express a desire to sleep with someone else, together, I may consider it. |
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Our definition of cheating is "anything without the previous ones consent" I can recognize that I am not the only pretty girl that is going to be attracted to my husband in his lifetime. I trust that he loves me and that our love is stronger than brief passions. We have been together for about a decade now, and it did take us about 7 years to become this comfortable, it was something we both grew into together and talked openly about the entire time. So if there is a brief passion that comes his way I don't feel it's a threat and if someone really get along with both of us we are open to a "triad" type relationship where there is more or less permanent third to us, though we admit finding that right person for us will probably be a looooong and difficult process XD SO that's probably pretty abnormal, hope I didn't scare anyone XP I get that this kinda thing would make peoples jealousy meter sky rocket and at the beginning of my relationship when we didn't trust each other as wholly yet it couldn't have worked. But we have always told EVERYTHING and like I said, slow process and we are always working on it :) |
Everyone has their different values so cheating will be defined differently for everyone. For me, however, I usually end up on the extremely strict end of the spectrum of cheating and that ends up being labeled as possessive sometimes so I try to back off it a little. I do, however, define cheating in my little world as either emotional or physical cheating and I don't go for either.
I expect to give and receive as complete a loyalty in relationships as is possible. Can you look at other people and say "hey, they're attractive?" Yeah, but I expect it to go no farther than that. Basically, if you are "loving" another person physically or emotionally (emotionally in other than a platonic way) then you're cheating on me. Emotional cheating I might be able to work with and forgive, but physical--yeah, no. But I would prefer neither if possible because I don't believe healthy relationships are built on either of those things. But, like I said, other people are more lenient. But for me and mine this is how it is. |
I think we've pretty much unanimously agreed that the definition of cheating varies from one relationship to the next x3. So that's good. What may work for one relationship may not work for the next.
Fortunately when it comes to my inamorata (isn't that just the coolest sounding word? x3) and I we are similar in that we can both be a little overprotective and possessive. We'd most likely define cheating as being emotionally or physically intimate with someone else, in a romantic fashion. There are parts of us that we reserve solely for each other, and any breach of that would in my mind be considered cheating. |
I do agree that the term 'cheating' does vary from person to person, even from relationship to relationship. What one person believes is cheating, another may not.
Personally, I think cheating is going behind one's partner behind their back, be it an affair or taking money out of their accounts. If the person I'm in a relationship with can't be truthful over something, then I can't trust them and will need to break that relationship up. Because if I can't trust them with one thing, what else can't I trust them with? |
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For me, cheating is doing anything that would undermine the strength of the relationship. It doesn't even have to be physical. If someone's heart isn't 100% committed to a relationship, then it's basically cheating.
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