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HeartMoogle 05-18-2014 07:52 PM

Message Deleted - A Place to Post Unwanted Messages and Conversations
 
Welcome to Message Deleted

Too often, when using social sites where we interact with strangers, we receive messages from said strangers that are...less than desirable. The message may be rude, offensive, really idiotic, or some combination thereof. That's where Message Deleted comes in. This is a place to post any messages you've received or transcripts of conversations you've had that are unacceptable for some reason or another, and to hold discussions/conversations about them.

Basically, this is a place to laugh at the idiots, trolls, and jerks who invade our inboxes on various websites.



How does it work?

It's very simple. You just copy and paste the message/conversation(IN QUOTES, OF COURSE) that you found to be unacceptable, and make sure you keep within the rules. Then we all discuss and laugh at it, again making sure we stick to the rules.

HeartMoogle 05-18-2014 07:54 PM

So what are the Rules?


The rules are as follows:

Rule #1: Always adhere to the Menewsha Rules and Guidelines as well as the Menewsha Nations Rules and Guidelines.
This is really important. If you have to censor your post for appropriateness in terms of sexual explicitness or for excessive language, then by all means, do so! Other than that, this should go without saying.

Rule #2: Do not show personal prejudice.
If the person who messaged you shows personal prejudice, then be careful to censor out slurs (racial, transphobic, etc.) they may have stated, as per Rule #1. But also, do not post posts that you find funny due to your own personal prejudice. For example, don't post a message from a person from China purely because they are Chinese and you don't like Chinese people. Also, do not, in discussion, express any form of prejudice, including, but not limited to, racism, sexism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, ageism, religious prejudice, etc.

Rule #3: Only the person posting the message/conversation has to be offended for it to be valid.
Don't ever tell a person who posted a conversation or message they received that they should not have posted it because the message seemed harmless or innocuous, or that they overreacted to a message. Everyone has their own sensitivity and tolerance levels, especially when it comes to Internet exchanges. The only exception is when the person posting the message asks how they should feel about it, or if they overreacted. Then you may respond, as long as you are courteous.

Rule #4: Do not post any messages or conversations held on Menewsha or with someone who is a known Menewshan.
Seriously, don't do this. It is an invitation to start drama and flaming. Only post messages or conversations from other websites.

Rule #5: Do not goad people.
This sort of goes along with Rule #4, but it should be explicitly stated. If you want to post a message or conversation on this thread, then be careful to not tell the person that you are going to go talk about them on Menewsha. That, too, is an invitation for drama and flaming.

Rule #6: Make the sender anonymous in the post.
You are perfectly free to state what website where the message/conversation happened. Do not, however, post the sender's username/profile link/contact information. If copy/pasting, be sure to change the sender's username to something that has been obviously changed, such as BigBadJerk.

Rule #7: The Thread Creator reserves the right to edit and create more rules as deemed necessary.

HeartMoogle 05-18-2014 07:55 PM

Do's and Don'ts


Do:


  • Post things that strike you as ridiculous
  • Post things that offend you
  • Discuss and laugh at the things people post
  • Have fun
  • Be kind
  • Be courteous


Don't:

  • Be inflammatory
  • Be a jerk
  • Forget to follow the rules
  • Be a bigot

HeartMoogle 05-18-2014 08:25 PM

I hereby declare this thread, open. :3

---------- Post added 05-18-2014 at 03:54 PM ----------

So I'll go ahead and post one of mine.

This came from a website called Spinchat. I can't stand people who know they are assholes and think it's okay because that's just who they are.

Quote:

UnfilteredAndUnkind: hello Alice, im [name redacted]

AliceAbsol: Hi [name redacted].

UnfilteredAndUnkind: how are you doing today?

AliceAbsol: I'm all right. And you?

UnfilteredAndUnkind: Im doing great. Where are you from? Im in California

AliceAbsol: From the U.S.

UnfilteredAndUnkind: Are you going to get reassignment surgery?

AliceAbsol: I plan to. It will be several years before I can, though.

UnfilteredAndUnkind: why is that?

AliceAbsol: Lots of issues. Money. I'm not out to my family yet. I haven't even started hormones yet.

AliceAbsol: Also, while I don't personally mind, you should probably know that asking a trans woman you don't really know if she's gonna get SRS is kind of inappropriate. For future reference.

UnfilteredAndUnkind: I one of those unfiltered, don't give a f**k kind of people. lol

AliceAbsol: Well that doesn't make it okay. And if you continue to be that an insensitive kind of person, you will soon become a blocked kind of person.

UnfilteredAndUnkind: please block me then.

AliceAbsol: With pleasure.

Cora 05-19-2014 06:09 PM

I'll start the conversation rolling on that one then o.0

I read the beginning of that and had made the assumption that there was some outside knowledge from like a post somewhere or something that had spurred her to ask about it. Then I got to the end and was very [gonk]

The idea of gender and sexuality are not ones that you so bluntly ask about. Many people would get very very offended by that.

HeartMoogle 05-19-2014 08:38 PM

Exactly! You don't just ask someone about work they have or haven't had done to their genitals. You DON'T need to know that. All you need to know is how the person identifies.

It's super offensive. Like, I bet he, or ANYONE I've ever had do that to me, has ever once walked up to a cisgender girl and asked her about her genitals.

beathag 05-19-2014 08:45 PM

Plot twist: you were wearing a shirt that said: "ASK ME ABOUT MY LADY PARTS"

Cora 05-19-2014 09:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HeartMoogle (Post 1772709231)
Exactly! You don't just ask someone about work they have or haven't had done to their genitals. You DON'T need to know that. All you need to know is how the person identifies.

It's super offensive. Like, I bet he, or ANYONE I've ever had do that to me, has ever once walked up to a cisgender girl and asked her about her genitals.

Could you imagine? I would think the recipient of that would sock them in the nose.

HeartMoogle 05-19-2014 09:44 PM

And it would be well-deserved. I was fairly level-headed in my reaction here, but that's generally what I want to do when people strangers start asking me about my transition process as well.

CloudDreamer 05-19-2014 10:47 PM

I had the same reaction as Cora when I was reading it - just... just... Some people. :/

I do like your response. Very level-headed and straight forward.

Cora 05-19-2014 10:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HeartMoogle (Post 1772709285)
And it would be well-deserved. I was fairly level-headed in my reaction here, but that's generally what I want to do when people strangers start asking me about my transition process as well.

I agree. Now granted, like with all situations. There are exceptions to the rule.

For instance, someone going through the same thing might ask if its ok to ask questions. But then that politely leaves it in the other persons hands to politely agree or decline.

She didn't handle that right at all.

---------- Post added 05-19-2014 at 11:55 PM ----------

Also the username in itself is like [:-x]

Zira Angel 05-19-2014 11:01 PM

That conversation... What a jerkface [:-x]

HeartMoogle 05-20-2014 03:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cora (Post 1772709364)
I agree. Now granted, like with all situations. There are exceptions to the rule.

For instance, someone going through the same thing might ask if its ok to ask questions. But then that politely leaves it in the other persons hands to politely agree or decline.

She didn't handle that right at all.

---------- Post added 05-19-2014 at 11:55 PM ----------

Also the username in itself is like [:-x]

Haha. The username was my device, to protect the original jerkface, as per the rules of the thread. Their original username was something pseudo-clever relating to the universe.

And yes, obviously if someone asks if they can ask questions, that's perfectly fine, provided they respect me and aren't rude either way. :] Same with anyone.

Lexii 05-20-2014 04:43 AM

Stupid people asking stupid stuff, well knowing it is bad. Grr.

hummy 05-20-2014 07:22 AM

all of may

HeartMoogle 05-20-2014 07:25 AM

All of may, hummy?

Cora 05-20-2014 10:54 AM

Yes, I am also confused about this All of May thing.

I should pull out some of the stuff from my gaia box if any of it is still there.

hummy 05-20-2014 11:07 AM

yes, all of may. i wish i could delete the whole month of may [yes]
Quote:

Originally Posted by HeartMoogle (Post 1772710341)
All of may, hummy?


Cora 05-20-2014 11:24 AM

Poor hummy, Is everything ok? [hug]

hummy 05-20-2014 11:26 AM

[hug] thank you Cora, hugs help

Cora 05-20-2014 11:35 AM

Then you can have all the hugs you need [hug]

HeartMoogle 05-20-2014 03:26 PM

[hug] I'm sorry, hummy. If you want to talk about it, we're happy to listen.


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