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Melody 09-18-2007 08:37 PM

<3 awww congrats on the pregnancy jaz!
i have a very obnoxious almost 3 year old girl. @[email protected] so i know the feeling. <33

GeminiKizzy 09-18-2007 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by melody xyelle
lol thats cute. I would love to get a job dealing with animals. but i think for now the kids are more than wild enough for me XD im considering opening a home based day care. once i get my furniture... the coast guard is taking FOREVER to get it sent over from cali D:

Where is Cali are you from? I'm in San Diego.

Jaz 09-19-2007 02:00 AM

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Originally Posted by melody xyelle
<3 awww congrats on the pregnancy jaz!
i have a very obnoxious almost 3 year old girl. @[email protected] so i know the feeling. <33

Hehe I guess he wouldn't be so bad if he weren't a little thief... I love him to death but he love my refrigerator! But other then that he is a good little boy and smart... Too smart!

Melody 09-19-2007 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by GeminiKizzy

Where is Cali are you from? I'm in San Diego.

Im pretty much from the riverside area, lived in san diego when i was really little. but after getting married i moved up with my hubby in concord since he was stationed in the alameda coast guard base, and then later in san fran. so all of our stuff is up north </3 i hate how long theyre taking. still no call from te movers today which means he has to go back and yell at the yn again tomorrow. blah.
I love San Diego its such a pretty place were hoping to get stationed there in the next 10 years.

jaz- he steals food? O.o

roocee 09-19-2007 03:21 PM

Just poking in to see how everyone is doing here.

Melody 09-19-2007 04:06 PM

well im doing great now that its nap time! my son is getting in his 6th tooth and so hasnt been sleeping well at night for the past 3 days which in turn means mommy hasnt been sleeping. @[email protected] ugh. but now that hes napping peacefully i get some relaxation time! which also hasnt happened recently because of the toddler @[email protected] but shes also in nap time right now! haha!

how are you?

roocee 09-19-2007 04:08 PM

I'm doing much better than I have been the last couple days. I was suffering from a migrane and it had me down but it's finally gone.

Ahhh, teething. I remember my niece going through that. It's such a tough time for kids.

Melody 09-19-2007 04:16 PM

ive been going through a depression for the last couple of days. </3 I dont know why but i hope it goes away soon. I keep shooting down things that I know should make me happy. and its really starting to annoy me XD

Im glad the migraine is gone though. My best friend would get those and she would be out for days until they went away.

roocee 09-19-2007 05:42 PM

Yes migraines are the pits.

I certainly know how you feel. Lately I've had my ups and downs and more so down. Life can be so hard sometimes. {{hugs}}

Melody 09-19-2007 06:42 PM

<3 *hugs*
Perhaps its just the seasons changing soon thats getting everyone down. A lot of people ive talked to have been down lately. The weather definitally isnt helping (at least here in Elizabeth City) Its so rainy and gray today. I look outside and its like the clouds are crying with me.

Jaz 09-19-2007 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by melody xyelle
jaz- he steals food? O.o

Yeah like he is starving. And he eats really well usually two or three plates of anything I give him. He is a strange little boy. My mom says its a phase and that I should get a lock on my refrigerator. But I am not sure. His fathers family are almost all obese (morbidly from the time they are about 6) and I really don't want that for Michael but I don't want him to be hungry either so I am not sure what to do!

Melody 09-19-2007 08:14 PM

It all depends on how active he is I think. But if hes stealing food I would suggest getting a lock on the fridge. You dont want him stealing things tha tare bad for me. (my daughter had a thing for butter for a while. :/ )
But if hes feeling hungry you could try giving him water. That normally curbs hunger until meal time. and its good for the body. And since youre worried about him gaining too much weight its probably the most sensible solution. ^^ water is pure and clean no calories <3 I should really start doing that with my kids too. they swear theyre always starving. the twins might be though. :/ they dont eat what theyre given. Then I try to feed them baby food and they dont want it. they want to eat 'big people food' but they dont want to go through te motions of chewing it etc. it drives me crazy.

Jaz 09-19-2007 10:43 PM

My son did that for a long time when he was a baby. It is so funny... I started him on rice cereal at 2 months... Then baby food at like 4 months along with breastfeeding.... And by 6 months he refused baby food and I had to chew "big people food" for him!

Melody 09-19-2007 11:08 PM

mine were on breast milk for I think the first 6 months. @[email protected] then I had to stop it was draining more than just my milk, I had no energy for anything else! But then they didn't like the cereal. I couldn't get them to eat it at all! so it was stage 1 baby food. then stage 2 like a week later. and they got tired of it after that. so since about... 9 months old I think they've been stealing the softer foods i make and itty bitty pieces of meat. it annoyed me at first but now they're eating whatever they want to really. (egg rolls are a favorite strangely enough) and they handle them well enough. I just wish they would finish what i give them so they don't wake up at night still being hungry! (though it could be the teething...) anyway yeah after a while babies just don't like being babies anymore. they wanna be big kids!
I cant wait until they are all big kids though. no more diapers! (is it strange that that is my main goal in life right now?)

jessiekins 09-20-2007 04:32 AM

hello everyone. I'm Jessie a mother of a very very hyper 2 year old.

I do have a question though. What can i do about Temper tantrums. She's throwing them Constantly now.

Melody 09-20-2007 04:02 PM

when my toddler is throwing them I leave the room and just let her do it. They end soon enough when no one is acknowledging them ^^ It just seems to be a thing 2 year olds do.
Lately when I notice that shes about to start one I send her to her room to calm down for a bit. and shes allowed to come out when shes calmed down. I go in and ask every couple of minutes if shes calmed down and over half te time I get 'NO! I'm Crying!' So I leave her be until shes done ^^
I hope that helps...

jessiekins 09-25-2007 03:49 AM

yes that does help alot actually. i tried it today and it seemed to do quite well.

Melody 09-25-2007 01:46 PM

I'm so glad. toddlers can be quite the handful adn sometimes you just have to ignore them to get them to do what needs to be done.
When is your daughters birthday?

Jaz 09-26-2007 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by jessiekins
hello everyone. I'm Jessie a mother of a very very hyper 2 year old.

I do have a question though. What can i do about Temper tantrums. She's throwing them Constantly now.

The best bet I have found as well is ignoring the tantrums.. Most tods do it for attention (I should know I work with ten tods a day!) and wen you give them attention it seems to ignite their fire even more!

Melody 09-27-2007 01:21 AM

aww, our pregnant jaz graced into the thread! how goes the pregnancy my dear?

toddlers and their tantrums, my daughter was throwing them all today, I dont think she slept well last night, so she was just really really cranky. @[email protected] it was horrible.

fawN 09-27-2007 01:33 AM

*waves at fellow parents*

I'm fawN, mother of 6 year old Jade and 5 month old preemie Amber. Amber was 5 weeks early, but too small for her gestational age and was 2 pounds 12 ounces at birth and in the NICU for a month.

When I got her home I taught her to breastfeed, which took a month and a half of determination, but I did it! Then, to my dismay, she lost weight between 2 and 4 months and I had to go back to pumping and supplementing with bottles. I tried her with rice cereal when she was 3 months, but she still had the tongue-thrust reflex, and then the pediatrician said no, no solids now until she gains more weight. She's currently 6 pounds 7 ounces as of yesterday! Nearly the size of my first daughter at birth! LOL

Jade liked rice cereal since 4 months, but never took to any jarred baby foods. I breastfed her for a year, and I can't remember when she started eating table foods.

As for tantrums, those were the worst part of motherhood to me besides the morning sickness and the first few weeks of breastfeeding! Leaving them be is the best thing and never giving in to what they want unless they stop crying, otherwise they'll think they need to cry to get what they want. Tantrums boil me over and get me really irritable, so being able to separate myself from the tantrum and realize it's not MY problem is a good step. And having them throw tantrums in public is the worst! In that case, I try to remove them from the situation, like taking them to car until they're calmed down.

Melody 09-27-2007 11:39 AM

I know I should do that, when they throw a tantrum in public just take them outside and remove them from the situation, but I don't. I'm rarely out in public (because with a toddler and 2 non-walking 1 year olds it's incredibly hard to go anywhere alone) so when I am out I just want to get whatever I need to do done, and I ignore the fits she throws as she is sitting in the basket or whatever. It's not worth my acknowledgment, sadly a lot of other people look at me like I'm a bad mom for doing this. poo to them!
My twins were 4 weeks early and they were 15 lbs together @[email protected] But when my oldest, sakura was born she was 2 weeks early and had to stay in the NICU, come to think of it so did my girl twin melody. :/ I honestly don't think either of them needed it but the doctors said they did so off they went. When I was breast feeding and not supplimenting they were staying at about the same weight. They would eat for hours, and I would feel so drained! but they stayed at the same weight, and the dr. didn't like that. So he made me give them formula. It annoyed me. But I guess it's what was best for them, they are all doing well now, as I'm sure your youngest will be doing smashing on her own in no time. I couldn't get any of my kids to take rice cereal with out a fight! lol.
My daughter Melody still does the toungue thrust thing. :/ It drives me crazy!

fawN 09-27-2007 02:53 PM

I can see too where being in a grocery store by yourself with 3 little ones, it would be reasonable to just ignore the tantrums and get on with your shopping! That doesn't at all make you a bad mom! I actually admire the parents who can smile and carry on when their child is throwing a fit, rather than turning red in the face, dragging them out by the hair and cussing at them as they go (I see a lot of parents do that too!)

Wow!! 15 pounds together! That means your twins weighed more than my regular, on-time 6lb 10oz daughter? And they were 4 weeks early? Wow!

Having them in the NICU is tough. Every day became a blur and I felt like it would never end. I was out of town for this time too and staying with my in-laws, and hubby and daughter would spend half weeks back home for work/school, and half weeks with me. And I didn't even get to see my baby properly or hold her until they released me from the hospital 2 days after my c-section.

Melody 09-27-2007 05:14 PM

That would break my heart not being able to see her or hold her for 2 days. I'm glad she got better (weight wise etc) and got to go home though!
my first daughter was 6 pounds 10 ounces too
my second daughter (twin 1) was 6 pounds 5 ounces
my son (twin 2) was 6 pounds 11 ounces.
I'm so glad they weren't on time, because I don't think I could have managed them gaining another pound a week until the due date.
I before the birth was almost 200 pounds @[email protected] 199 2 days before but since it was never proven that I hit 200 I refuse to claim it. lol. There was a lot of water weight in that pregnancy, I was bloated and everything was horrible. except I had no morning sickness. :/ odd. lol.
The thing I hated most about the NICU was that you had to wash your hands from fingertip to elbow for 2 minutes every time you went in there. My arms were having a reaction to the soap from using it so much after the first 4 days. I was going crazy from it. Also a lot of the parents didn't do it. It annoyed me because they were putting not only theirs but everyone else's baby at risk! jerks.

roocee 09-27-2007 06:28 PM

Speaking of temper tantrums, my niece has been doing her fair share again lately. (She's now 9 but looks like she's about 5 since she's so small)

My sister can't figure out what her problem is. I'm pretty sure it is something to do with someone giving her problems in her class but she won't come out and say so. She threatened to pop my roommate's head like a balloon last week and was so mad and her eyes were just huge and she was all red faced.

When she was a toddler, her tantrums were ignored but these now are just out of control when she has these outbursts. She is not permitted to spend the night at our house until she stops as one of her punishments. My sister is just beside herself on what to do. She refuses to tell us what's wrong but we know that the things she says and her actions are just not normal behavior for her.

It's times like these when I'm glad I don't have kids of my own. *sigh*


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