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Harrassment in Schools
Harassment in Schools:
Yesterday I was watching Montel; they had a special program on about harassment in schools. Very quickly I changed the channel, not because I hate Montel or anything, it was because I had already seen something like that on Montel. I then shut off my television due to lack of interesting TV talk shows, news broadcasts or somewhat interesting Courtroom Television shows (of which I happen to hate dearly). And so came the thoughts piling in. Recently at my school two girls got into an argument... One girl by the name of Jen was sitting in my math class; just behind me while another girl, her 'friend' Jess was to her left. Well, Jen and Jess had been getting into fights for a while... calling each other names, accusing one another from stealing from each other (which later was proven true in the court of law). Well, Jess was talking to my dearest friend, Carli and the little troll next to her named Lindsay. Jess sat on the table part of the desk mimicking things Jen had once JOKINGLY said. "I'm gangster." "I am from 8 mile, bit*h" "I'm totally fool." The list goes on. Well, along with the rude words were a series of hand gestures, adding to the effect of the self-proclaimed gangster that Jen tried to be. As Jess humiliated Jen, Jen sat, all wound up in her work... her head over her desk, a frown playing over her lips as she recited the words, "I hate her, I hate her, I hate her," Over and over again. Being insulted in such a way wasn't something people were fond of but Jen kept her anger inside. The bell range and students piled from their 5th period classrooms into the hall. Jess confronted Jen, Not the victim confronting the antagonizer, but the other way around. Jess shoved Jen into the lockers, "If you don't start this fight, I WILL!" Jen kept walking, keeping her cool... Jess then pushed her again, this time Jen let everything go... Her anger, her pain, her resentment, and her books. She turned to Jess, her fists pounding into her before Jess took off running. Jen followed, carrying all of her resentment for this weak, strong worded little shrew in front of her, running from a fight she created. Rumors. Rude Remarks. Confrontation. War Between Two Bodies. This all happens to be going around us everyday in our schools, I happen to know this for a fact because the cycle of Jessica has been going around for quite some time now. She went from Jen to Heather and now to me. Jess this 109 pound, 5’3; smart mouth brat actually can antagonize people to the point that they break. She, on several occasions, has called Heather fat. I happen to know fat, being a plus size teenager and all, I would die to look like Heather. She’s beautiful. (Pictures coming soon to follow entry) Jess would tell her that her clothes were too small, making Heather cry her heart out. No one likes to be called fat… then the names came… With that came the power over Heather… she became afraid of Jess, thinking, once the rumors stopped, that they might happen again. To stop from that happening she never spoke of the things that Jess had said ever again. Jen and Jess are now friends again, both hovering above she with a quiver of arrows. They plan on shooting the arrows that symbolize insults, rude gestures, and rumors at me. Little did they know they are missing the target, which is my heart. They can’t hit me with arrows because I see what they are doing. It’s Jess’s cycle. She happens to like the power she gets from hurting people… the control she gets by insulting them and bringing them down. By bringing her little goons into the picture it is ever clearer what she is trying to do. She can tell by my eyes that I despise the things she does… that I find to be a lost and foolish little girl. Just over the last few days she has mimicked my poor eyesight by squinting at the dry erase board while she thought I was turned away, scrunching her face so her features became less appealing. I sighed, trying to shrug it off but then, just like a scene from Mean Girls, Jen walks over to me and tells me that she likes my shirt. Once back to her master they shared a laugh at my expense. She also happens to change my words, confront me about being rude or wrong when I did no such things. Maybe to her ears I said something impolite to her goon but she has said much worse. I also happen to be seen by them as a way out of their math work. They always want my answers, my help… if only they listened they would know how to do simple Algebra. Clearly I know how to deal with my anger, I post it… I write it… I am even planning on handing this to my guidance counselor. This harassment in my school has not been dealt with quick enough. Someone needs to tell her what she does to people hurts… I would like to be kept anonymous… due to the fact that Jessica is all about revenge and power. But of course… this only will be by an anonymous person IF I hand it in… Menewsha, what should I do? |
Do you mean you want to write her a letter telling her what you think?
If it is, then i can compleltey understand your reason for wanting to do it discreetly. Perhaps you could put it on a chair she sits on, a locker or something else she will go to. Or mabey you could give it to a teacher to give to her, say, seal it so they wont read it, if you dont want them to that is, and ask to pass it on. That way she wont know who it came from. I cant understand when Jen still goes around with Jess after she treated her like that, and i hope you get your problem sorted. EDIT: i missed out the paragraph that said you wanted to hand it in. (sorry im tired.) I think you've done very well not to let your anger out on her, although mabey its time you told her how you feel. Violence may not always been the best way, but it speaks volumes. I'd belt her one next time she starts. |
A) You write really well. Have you written any novels or something? I'm amazed!
B) I'm glad you're able to hold in your temper, if I were you that Jess girl would be missing some teeth. Actually I would have probably left the school by now, I'm to pathetic and afraid to fight. C) The logical thing would to go and handing this into your conselor. However logic isn't always the top most priority when you're in highschool. I would have simply ignored her because bullies will often leave people alone if the don't respond, but that could take forever. Really handing this in would get rid of the bullying much faster than just waiting it out. :3 So good luck! I hope Jess resolves her problems with herself and whoever she's harmed. |
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Take comfort in what I learned after I escaped the people who tormented me all through my public school years...
In three years, you'll be SO MUCH better than them, in every way. I don't even know how to go into the degree of mental and physical torment I bore through school. But this isn't about me, its about total jerk loser bitches like those "friends". I recently attended my 5 year high school reunion. I attended with a special friend of mine, a gorgeous gentleman who flew down from Buffalo, NY to help me get through the fear and painful memories of facing these people I hated and feared so much. And when I got there... all I could do was laugh. They were still stuck in their stupid little clique mentality. Most of them were still with the men they dated in high school. Where I had lost 20 pounds since graduation, gained fashion sense, poise, and eloquence, they were stuttering rednecks who looked 20 years aged by their bad lifestyle habits and several small children. They'll never grow beyond the places they were safe and sound and could rule over the other teenagers like little queens. You, on the other hand, are already intelligent and driven enough to move onto places where you can grow, and spread your wings, and become the person you are meant to be. Whatever she may think she is, this child is UGLY. It may not be manifesting itself on the outside right now, but without a major turnaround of her attitude, her own internal troll will come to the surface and pull her down with it. For her own sake, I hope she learns to be a gracious human being, rather than a squalling troll who makes her own faults and insecurities much too obvious with her methods of torment. |
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Woah... It made me want to keep reading. You should write stories... If you don't already.
Anyways, I think it is a good idea to get some kind of adult in that situation. I'm not of help because I would probably start insulting the person back... until it gets physicall. Then I die. :] |
Harassment in schools, it's nothing new. At my school, it seems to happen all the time.
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Elizabeth - Your opinions have been taken into mind but alas, you are wrong. The best way of dealing with your problems is writing about them, so I did... I happened to like what I had written so I posted it. Many people proclaimed that they liked my writing while all I see from you are complaints.
I did the most un childish thing, I wrote about it then asked for advice. The childish thing would have been getting into a fight with her instead of ignoring her. Well, I ignored her but it still hurts when people are messing with you so you tell people about it. Harassment is hard to forget, and also... yes, being treated badly is harassment, if you are to complain... be correct with your complaints. Clearly I am smart because I use large words, correct grammar, and correct spelling... If that does not show intelligence to you, you must be pretty dumb. Also, I think opinions of people only matter when they know what they are talking about... your opinion is no better than Jess's... even the way you write makes me cringe. The misspellings, grammar mistakes, childish not childesh. Things such as those really tick me off. You may have opinionated yourself but it was in a rude, immature manner... exactly what you told me not to do... That is not much of a role model, hm? Everyone Else - Do not think what you have said has gone unnoticed. I very much thank you all for your help and you all are very nice. Thank you for your ideas, support, and comments. I do happen to be a writer... alas none of my work has been published. Thank you, and I hope some day you will all see a book by Ms. Fancy Pants. |
I'd have to agree with you Ms Fancy Pants. The tone that Elizabeth had while posting actually got me ticked off.
To Elizabeth: Yes, some of the arguments are pathetic and can be resolved or forgetten easily. But not as easily when people are getting hurt. I'm saying this from experience. Someone who I thought was a close friend just came out and told me "I don't want to patch up our friendship or continue being a friend with you", not even a week ago. And it still pains me because I want the friendship to work and its hard to let go. You can't just tell someone to get real and "get over it". It really doesn't help the situation along at all. If you were to tell me to "get over the loss of my friend" then I'd pretty much put you on my ignore list. Call it immature, but its wise in the long run. And yes. Harassment does exsist in high schools and middle schools. In middle schools, its mostly just talk. In high school, it escalates from verbal and emotional harassment to physical on occassion. But it is enough to send someone into the counseling office or to make someone have a breakdown—sometimes even during school. I do it most of the time when I go and talk to my counselor. Oh, and being childish and smart have no connection or relation whatsoever. Being childish and mature yes, making good decisions and poor decisions yes, but childish and smart are two different things. Writing is a great way to vent. Letting out emotions and asking for advice is remarkably mature. Especially for a teenager. Thats why I have no problem posting a thread if I've had a bad day, or if I've gotten into a fight, because I know that there are people who will genuinely try to help me and give the best advice they can. And depending on the manner in which they ask for advice is another factor also. Ms. Fancy Pants wrote up the situation in a very mature manner, making sure to use correct grammar, punctuation and spelling. And she didn't blow up at Jess or Jen or anyone else for that matter. If that doesn't show her maturity I don't know what does. Ms. Fancy Pants: I really do believe that what you did was of the upmost maturity. Asking for advice shows that you're mature enough to ask for help, and that you're logical and not irrational. You've been doing the right thing by not letting her get to you. The worst thing would to have her get the satisfaction from you by becoming mad and getting in a fight with her. My suggestion to you would be to submit it to your counselor. Anonymously is probably best. Just leave a note in her mailbox with a link to the thread, or type it up and share your concerns with her in a letter. If not, then doing so in person would probably work, as long as your counselor didn't tell Jess that you were the one that brought the problem to her attention. My dean was supid enough to tell my English teacher that I ratted her out, and she had a "talk" with me after class one day where she practically said "screw up or do something that I don't like again, you're going to fail". But I wasn't worried because I had a B in the class, and someone can't get mad at your or lower your grade because you question them. Anyways, definately tell an adult at the school who'd make a difference who would sit her down and give her a stern talking. Change has to start on a 1-to-1 basis and it has to start deep from within. Hopefully your counselor is fairly persuasive :3 I probably wasn't much help, but good luck! |
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Slap her with a lawsuit then see what the girl does. Seriously though, I had to deal with people like tht through high school. I would just sarcasticly agree with the not so nice comments thrown at me and people would normally shut up for a while. People like that often have low selfesteme themselves and aren't worth getting mad over. I know, it's easier said than done. If it does go too far I would tell someone trusted about it. As you said, the writing things helps a lot too. Hopefully she leaves you alone.
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hummmm... i got nothing to say..... :|
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