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Long Distance Relationships~...
Long distance relationships.
A lot of people's worst nightmare. What's Menewsha's view on them? I used to be in one, and it was interesting because it forced us to be vocal instead of just physical. Of course physical is good too. ~_O Now I'm not talking about internet dating, that's something completely different, I have never tried online dating ;'] Anyway, different things work for different people. Discuss! |
Well long distance never really works out because the physical love isn't there. But the people you meet on the internet is in my opinion the best, because you are attracted to them, for being themselves. You'r enot attracted to their looks or anything. So I dunno, it's a wierd topic because you 2 could be a perfect match, but you can't be together which sucks.
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but a lot of people would argue that it shouldn't just be about physical. I believe in a balance. I won't date a girl if I can't have in-depth conversations with her. |
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It's the same with long distance relationships, you have to really trust the other person. Even so, I find myself hopelessly in love with this one amazing guy... Who lives across the country and has a boyfriend. But you can hope... :shrug: |
I had a long distance relationship for 2 years with my boyfriend when he was in college in New York and I was in Illinois. We were dating a year before we graduated high school, and then we both transferred into the same college 2 years into our college years.
During breaks he would come home and we would get to see each other. My family is a bit old fashioned so there was no way I would have been allowed to travel to New York and stay with him. We've now been together for about 6 and a half years, just entered into Graduate Studies (again at the same college). A long distance relationship can work if there's trust, understanding, and the willingness of both parties to try and make it work. Trust is probably most important, there were plenty of people that pointed out that I would not have known if my boyfriend cheated on me because he was halfway across the country but I believed he wouldn't be stringing me along if he already had someone over there. We both knew that there was a good chance that we would find someone else and things would break apart, but we tried and managed to succeed (at least I think its a success even though we aren't married yet, waiting til after school). |
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I'm currently in one. ^^; We hve a lot in common, but like myself-he's shy to the extreme. <3 I think that the phone and letters are a great way o keep things going between two people..works for us! No, we haven't met in real yet, but we have all intentions too. As was said before; online does have somewhat of an advantage; conversation vs. appearance. You can fall in love with someone for their personaily..who cares what they look like, its the inside that counts <3
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See that's the weird part...
It's very awkward to meet in person. Often times there not even really the same in real life. They might be dashing over the phone, but clumsy and ugly in real life. It's a rocky road. |
I have never been one for long distance ever. Or internet dating because it would be way to stressful for me personally and I know that.
However I may have to work with that eventually (I have always been the long distance doesn't work) person so *shrug* see how that plays out. Its not that the physical stuff is all that important to me (it does play a role) but its the ability just to be able to call a person up and be like "lets hang out" or just talk and all that. I think it would be hard. Internet dating however to me is just a big weird. You always have to wonder what they may be lying about and there are just too many little pet peeves or personal habits that you don't learn until you actually spend time with them. I know people make it work but its just not something I would chose to do. |
Yeah, of course a male would only be thinking about physical...
I think long distance relationships are stupid, if two people aren't together in the same place then what's the point...? |
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Why does a relationship require physical contact though? I can understand not trusting someone you meet online, but what if you have been dating and the one person has to go away for awhile. Why can't that work?
Seriously, the physical aspect of a relationship is only part of the whole thing. |
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..when you say "dashing over the phone" what is it you mean? True..but if they're a truely good-hearted person then what's the worry. So someones a little skakey..does that give the other person the right to suddenly turn on them? |
Like you said..."different things for different people". I've been in 2 and neither one "worked". Did I learn from each one? Yes. However I really hope I find someone closer to home if I ever fall in love again. I think its easier to talk long distance than face-to-face.
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I was in a long distance+online relationship for 2 years.
im still with the guy and on tuesday is our 4 year anaversary! XD the main reason why long distance relationships dont work is because both the people cant wait for each other, sometimes one of them cheats and has sex with another person. long distance relationships take time to be successful. |
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@padfootsy
That's a common problem. People can't stand being apart. People need sex is what it comes down to. |
I'm dating someone that lives about 600 miles away. I'm in Oregon, he's in Nevada. We met online--Furcadia, to be precise. But since then he's taken his vacation from work. He came here for 8 days, and I'm happy to say that he's every bit as wonderful face to face as he was online. We're still developing plans for one of us to move to the other's state. He wants me there, I want him here.. Long distance relationships work great for me. I feel like if I saw him every day I'd get tired of him before I could really get to know him.. you know?
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i dont mind long distance relationships too much.
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I'm currently in one and we've been together for 2 1/2 years. I've known him since 2003.. it took a lot for us to even have a relationship online..
I've never been confident about myself and I've always had these crushes and infatuations irl, but somehow I am ONLY able to connect to people the most when it is online and be "myself". Let's just say I am too shy to let the real me out to the guy I "like". We were both with someone else back then but somehow we had some sort of "bond" or pull towards each other. I dunno why.. it's online.. but it's seriously very odd. I guess I'm just lucky to have/find someone like him.. I agree, because of the fragility of online relationships.. it's extremely hard to maintain. Several times I thought we were going to break up, but somehow, both of us remained strong and the key thing was we never wanted to be apart in reality. We're already so far apart from each other - breaking up would be worse. It is very hard to have complete trust with one person.. especially since you are so much more limited in terms of the physical things.. you can't see them, you cant do this or that.. It is indeed something we are both struggling with.. but until we're finally together.. it will just have to wait.. I just find it hard to believe that a person would be "stringing" someone along to this extent for something so unstable if they have no intention of really being with you for real. Yeah, it's another risk to take.. both of you may not be comfortable with each other in real life. I know it would not be a 180 degree turn from how you both interacted with each other online, but - of course it would be different. I'd like to take my chances with someone I really love with all my heart. He really deserves everything I can ever give. That's how I think. Despite the uncertainty.. you gotta have faith and trust.. |
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maybe you're right... |
I think it's near impossible for high schoolers to be in long distance relationships because so many of them have built their relaitionships purely on the physical aspect...
They take alot of extra work, but I think if two people really love and care about each other... it can work. All of the temptation around them would be difficult to handle though. |
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I can understand wanting the person there in person and to have physical interaction but some people were making it sound like long distance relationships were impossible because they couldn't do anything physical. It just sounded from the posts that people care more about physical closeness than actual feelings and communication. |
I have never been in a long distance relationship but I have heard that they don't last very long. Personally, I would rather be in a short distance relationship. What is the point of being with someone if you can't be with them?
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I’ve considered being in a long distance relationship, but I’m not sure if it would be the best thing for me. It is true that you would talk more, mostly because that’s all you can do most of time. And that’s awesome, I think good communication is one of the biggest factors for a relationship to thrive, but so is human touch.
All in all, I suppose it depends on exactly how much you get to see your better half. If it’s once a month, then hey, that could probably work out fine; but if it’s twice a year, for only a few days at a time? Those long sequences in between can get pretty lonely. And it’s not like they can just come over to console you whenever they want. It has to be a planned out event, and if you’re both in school, or working, that means working around each other’s schedules for some quality time together. Of course people do that in a “normal” relationship too, but it’s much easier when you have the means to see the other person everyday or so if you wanted, unlike in a long distance relationship. My best friend is in a long distance relationship, has been for over three years now. She and her boyfriend get to see each other about six or seven times a year for about a week or more at a time. And they’re okay with that, at least for now. I do know they talk to each other almost every day though, either online or by phone. And their parents are also supportive of it, which is helpful. So long distance relationships can work, it just all depends on the kind of relationship the two of you want, how much maturity you both have, and how you go about handling the problems that arise with being separated over such a great distance. |
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