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I'm hoping that the next time Cole and I get up to go shopping (30th, as we have our last ultrasound then) we can go to Sam's Club and see about getting some things in bulk. I'm stumped as to what to do about getting meals made ahead of time before the baby's born. I'm going to need quick and easy snacks and lunches. I know I can make chili, and the only other thing I thought about besides that is to get two large orders of yellow chicken curry from the Thai place and freeze it in individual servings. It costs about the same to make it as to get it there.

We're tight right now too with all the vehicle junk. I ended up sending Cole a PayPal payment through one of my credit cards. It'll be paid off when Fall loans come in, but yeah, it got that bad. At least the bills will be covered, even if with a credit card. e_e

I'll more than likely be going back to work this weekend or next week. They're thinking Red Tide won't last as long as it was projected. If a small fishing area can safely open up, then I'll be back at it, just not the hours I had been.

Thanks for the advice Chi. ^_____^

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/luffs

/rolls around

I miss Gary.
;-;
He's in Chicagooooooooooooooooo.

/rolls around some more

CHIII can you link my raffle somewhere in your exchange thread please? :3
http://www.menewsha.com/forum/commun...post1767857485

I thought you might find this DB interesting Chi, and I will be honest I struggled with part B...I still find myself not 100% happy with it, but I'm struggling to find a better way to word it...so I submitted it. I'm waiting for someone to bite so we can get into a little bit of a debate. (I doubt it though, as my group doesn't seem that 'into it'...)

Quote:

a) Based on what you have learned in readings and power points, explain at least two specific things that parents could do to increase prosocial behavior in their children. Make sure to use terms and information from class material.
The three factors that help foster prosocial behavior in children is as followed:

Modeling: Parents who display prosocial behavior are more likely to influence their children as children tend to spend the most time with their parents, and imitate their parent's behavior.
Disciplinary Practices: The fashion in which a child's parents discipline effects the fostering of prosocial behavior. Parents who use authoritative parenting are more likely to foster prosocial behavior, than with authoritarian parenting. When children feel the warmth and value from their parents, and when reasoning for punishment (how actions effect others) children are more likely to foster this development.
Opportunities to behave prosocially: The more a child is exposed to and given an opportunity to act prosocially, the more sensitized to other's feelings a child becomes and the more likely they will respond to others in a prosocial manner.

b) Discuss whether or not you think parents in our culture are actually doing the things that you described in (a), and how that might impact our society when the next generation of children grow up.
Gosh, talk about a difficult question...! (I love that you try to make us think, unlike in some classrooms...)

I think that the quality of parenting is on the decline in western societies as more commonly both parents are working outside of the home, and investing less time in nurturing their relationships with their children as they simply don't have the time or energy to do so. (It's a catch-22 situation as our society tends to measure a person's success in the amount of money they have, so I empathize with them...!) I also think that partially because of this shift that parents are expecting their child's school to give their children all the skills and knowledge to be a successful adult, paired with the ignorance an average parent has as to how influential their actions and words has on a child has really hindered the development of altruistic feelings/behaviors of said children. Not only does a parent have less time to spend with their own children, but less time to do things of a prosocial nature.

Also, if you look at the shift of our society to place parents in elderly homes instead of their children taking care of them is part of the effect of this lack of development. (And quite possible the decline of child/parent relationships...I talked with a girl from India who said that with their values of family, that all these elderly parents without emotional support brings such sadness. She spent time in the hospital visiting a friend, but saw that an elderly woman had no one so she sat with her and spent time as she felt so much empathy and said such a site would be considered unheard of in her society.)

I think that the effect is a fostering of a more apathetic society who in turn is less involved within their community, more detached from society and having a 'so what' attitude. While I don't think that this is the only cause of this decline, I definitely think it isn't helping. (For example, I think technology is desensitizing us in regards to prosocial behavior, as we see bad things happen on a daily basis and it becomes pretty much a 'norm'.)

I strongly believe that prospective parents should be required to take classes (perhaps in highschool?) that would emphasize just how important of a role parenting IS. (Mainly from a psychological aspect so they can understand WHY authoritative parenting is SO beneficial, and how a child develops mentally so they can tailor the way they approach parenting to make it most beneficial to their child. I think A LOT of our problems we have with society stem from inadequate parenting...)

I agree with your points - I'm Chinese, so I found the whole senior-home-deal really off-putting. Your parents cared for you for the first 20 years of your life, is this how you repay them by shoving them into a hospital?

That's kinda how I feel. At the same time, though, I don't know how long I could put up with my mother under the same roof. We kinda don't gel well. :XP

Haha.
Well, i guess it depends.
I mean, if they need medical help then I guess a senior home is fine, but I see so many able-bodied seniors there, i'm just like..."wtf?"

Okay, all done back reading for the most part, but I have nothing to say....

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Well, other than I took a short break from gaia and now I'm ready to go back and spend some more time there.

Windy, I'll link when I'm feeling better. I'm really unfocused today and generally feeling dog-tired sick. Dunno what's up. :\

Izumi, you'll have to forgive me. ;_; I don't have much in me to be my usual "YEAH! Let's debate!" today. I do agree with your post. I often wonder how I'll approach my parents' elderly years, too. My dad is with someone who is over 15 years younger than him, so I think unless something happens to her he will always have care and there will never be an issue there. My mom is another story. Cole's parents are another story too, since Alzheimer's and things like that run on his side.

Like Windy said, something should be taken into consideration if medical intervention is needed. I remember that my paternal grandmother had to be placed in a home because her dementia got so bad she would strip her clothes off and wander down the street. She needed 24/7 care.

But when a parental is independent and doesn't need 24/7 care, that's different. I'm just not sure which position I'll be taking. If there is any mental illness or severe health, we'd be ill equipped to take care of them the way they need to be taken care of. But without that factor...

Eh, my post was longer than I thought.

Well when they need 24/7 care like that, you almost wonder if their quality of life is really there anymore. My friend is a registered CNA and we talked at length about some of her experiences and she said it was hard seeing someone who really had no idea what was going on and really did nothing but sit comatose in their room. :/

That's true, but what can you do about it?
You don't have the right to take away their life.

You just...have to let them live like that, I guess. and give them care.

Yeah. Quality of life is a factor. It's unfortunate and just makes me hope and pray that when it's my time to go, I just go and don't lose my cognitive aspects before that. ~_~;

Chi, my friend thinks that people who are interested in sex during highschool are idiots and that "that'll get you knockedup in a second," even though I told her that I'm probably not going to do anything before I get to college.

._.
Why is sex so taboo in high school? I mean, as long as you're smart about it. I found out recently that people in my high school do it all the time, but it doesn't really bother me as long as I don't see it.

T_T

If you really want to tell her what's what, have her look through all the scientifically researched and proven articles that sexuality actually begins in childhood and it is NOT UNCOMMON for masturbation and for even 4-6 year olds to touch each others' genitals and receive sexual pleasure from one another.

That might be a little too overboard though. :sweat:

We all grow up differently. Sometimes we say/act out in ways we feel will please our parents or please the person we're speaking to. Especially in high school. It changes when adulthood comes, usually. I'd not worry about it.

It's completely natural and common to be curious about sex.

I had to stop about three times while reading your first sentence. o-o"
oh my.
xD
I had no idea. I feel a lot better though. xD

Thanks for the reassurance. :3

This is why I love the internet. and Mene. I learn that I'm not always the freak of nature.
x3

You're definitely not a freak of nature. xD

And yeah, I was surprised when I first found that out, too. The whole "self-discovery" thing tends to begin in infancy. It's just we live in a culture where the immediate response is "!!!!!" and to slap a diaper on the baby immediately. :XD

If you want to read some good psych work I suggest some classic Freud.

Take it with a pinch of salt though as a lot of modern day Psychologists don't fully dismiss him, but at the same time our understanding and approach has really come a long way. :XP

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Ugh, Chi. I'm kinda pissed off at Aaron but not really want to pick a fight with him right now. He's being a bit of an asshole about 'his' computer.

I was hoping to get all my computer class stuff done in the next two days while he was at work, but since he's been off sick I haven't been able to use it until now as he's been playing that stupid ass WoW.

He gets off while I'm in the middle of my psych exam and says "there you can use it". I've just finished up all my psych work for the week and was planning on putting my feet up for the day and he's like telling me I can't because he wants his computer back for more WoW.

I'm seriously going to have a discussion with him as my classwork is more important than his stupid game and his attitude sucks.

Yeah, take Freud with a grain of salt. :XD

So basically he wants the computer you're on so he can play WoW? The other one isn't capable of supporting it I take? Or is he just being bitchy in general?

I'm glad Cole and I have our own laptops... x_x

Yah my netbook won't play it, and I need IE which I can't install on it as it's Windows 7 and it won't let you reinstall it after you've uninstalled. I tried.

Also, my netbook probably won't do multitasking very well. Basically yes his priorities are skewed and I'm just ever so annoyed by it.

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Oh and his computer has Office 07 on it...which I sort of need...

If it helps, try downloading Open Office on your computer. Cole uses that (he's the one with Windows 7) and I use it too. It's free and essentially the same thing as Office. Also has PowerPoint and all those goodies.

For everything else, I've no suggestions. You guys'll work through it. He may just be extra touchy because he's felt unwell. Does he go to work tomorrow or is he still too sick?

I dunno if he's going or not.

I have open office on my netbook already, BUT this is specifically assignments in Office 2007 and I have step by step instructions on how to do things in office. Also the test is a simulated version of Office so I'm much better doing it in office as that's the whole purpose of this class is to learn office. I'm not enjoying this part of the class, but I need to get it done for the credits. He's not making it any easier on me.

Blargh...I wish I could sell my Evil Overlord items so I can buy the Dove Headwings :squee:

I'm impatient because I want them like...NOW :eager:

Does anyone know someone willing to trade Dove Headwings for Evil Overlord?

I guess him being sick is part of his problem, so I haven't said anything to him. He's been like this before. Over the weekend I told him I wouldn't bother him for the computer as I'd do this stuff this week.

I'm kinda getting a little stressed too as the syllabus says all coursework is due the 28th by 4pm. Luckily he will be at work all weekend and I should have more than enough time to get all this shit done.

College work I take it Izumi?