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I don't get it...
I look around here and it makes me happy.
However, I go onto the forum like "If you hand one wish" and it's always something to do with the bf, or the gf. I don't get it. It's like, why waste something like that on someone you probably won't be with for the rest of your life. Am I just a pessimist, or do you see what I'm saying? I just don't see people staying together. I've had my share of relationships, and I thought I would be with the guy for the rest of my life, but nope, we ended. I've learned that most people aren't going to be together. I know it's just the net and you know, it's just a "What if" question, but even those have to be taken to heart. If I had one wish, it would be for my mom. My family. Not wasted on some guy, or girl. No matter how much I loved them. My family always comes first. Maybe that's just me. So discuss: 1. What you think about what I said. 2. Would you put your bf/gf before your family? 3. Anything else you want. |
First I would like to know your age because of course being 13 to 19 years old and havinga a bf or gf doesnt mean he or she will be with you for the rest of your life but if you are over 20 well that's different cause relations should be taken a bit more serious see? so it depends
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Wishing.
I used to always wish that I would get to be with my boyfriend in real life because we started out in an online relationship. We were together many years without being able to actually go visit each other and that was the one thing I wanted in my life, because I loved him very much. It is true that a lot of times people don't stay together, but sometimes they do. Sometimes people do find the person they want to be with the rest of their life. Sometimes they love that person more than anything. It depends on what kind of family someone has also. Some people have very loving families, some people don't. Some people just get annoyed by their families. My parents annoy the hell out of me. That isn't to say I don't love them. And then my grandparents on my mother's side seem to care about everyone but me. They help out my cousins and all sorts of people but never do very much for me. I still care about them, but I'm obviously not the first person they think about. Also, I don't know what kind of wish I would want for my family. Maybe wish that my grandmother had more common sense. I dunno. XD
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It's hard for someone like yourself what real love is.
You will never know what it truly feels like since you are like that. I care for my boyfriend/finance more then myself. More then my family, more then the world. He is everything, he is my other half, he is my soul mate. Without him, I become nothing. I wouldn't want to waste a wish on my family because I don't really care for them. My family, hell, I can hardly call them that. My family is my boyfriend's family. They care more about me then my actual family. |
1. What you think about what I said.
2. Would you put your bf/gf before your family? 3. Anything else you want. 1) I honestly think what you said is very sad...and unfortunate. I really wish that you didn't think like that. I personally love my boyfriend very much. And we are already planning a future together...(children, where we want to live, what kind of house, how we would treat or child/children if they did something bad, what to name them) Love is an amazing thing. 2) It's hard to say if I would put my boyfriend before my family...it really depends on the situation. Sadly, if my sister got into a car accident and my boyfriend also did at the same time I would most likely go to my sister...I would be sad because I couldn't be with my boyfriend because he could be hurt too, but I always said that I would never let anyone (especially) a boy come inbetween my sister and I, because we're REALLY close. ^^ 3) Anything else I want...hmm, I see myself with my boyfriend now...and also in 10, 20, 50 years. Love is an amazing thing, and now that I have a taste of it I don't ever want to let it go...as LAME as that sounded. We've already talked about what would happen if we break up and he is always reassuring me that we WON'T break up. I personally will never break up with him, and he has said the same thing. We may go our seperate ways, but in the end I know we'll end up together. <3 gag me.... |
1. What you think about what I said.
A bit tragic and too negative. I'm trying to keep my life away from that Dx. I didn't ask anything related to that. I actually wished for me to be the best bely dancer x3. 2. Would you put your bf/gf before your family? If I had to and my family was wrong for some reason. You are not gonna live with your family forever you know... So if the boyfriend was my future husband.. Yesh I would put him. 3. Anything else you want. Yes... I wanna be a professional on belly dance xD |
Well, I don't ever want to feel like that towards my boy friend. My family cares way more about my sister, who's 36, however they will never stop being my family.
My bf would put me before everything/everyone in his life, I just couldn't do the same for him. I love him, I just, love my family more. I don't think I'll ever love someone as much as I love my family. And to be truthful, if I find someone that makes me want to put them before my family, I don't think I'd want that person. No, I'm going to stay with my family for ever. Well at least my mother. She might have beat me and hurt me really badly when I was younger, but she's my mom and I love her. My ex said we would live together. We had been together for about five years. Planning, deciding what kind of house we wanted, kids names, everything. Then we broke up. I know there are people out there that stay together. It's just a lot harder now days. |
well I certainly plan on staying with my fiance forever.
what's a relation ship if you can't imagine being with him forever?? nothing I say. you shouldn't be in a relation ship if you don't see a future for it. I would die for him. I'm sure he would do the same for me. I'm willing to risk everything for him. I've had many stupid crappy relation ships, but I didn't lost my hope allthough all my brevious boyfriends were stupid/annoying/boring.. something I couldn't imagine living a life with. I LIVE together with my boyfriend, I LIVE for him. family love, and love are completely different issues.. I can't say I love my sister or other relatives, maybe just my mom and dad. family isn't everything. but I know that If I need them, they are there for me. I'm a person who would normally like to be ALONE. a lonely wolf or something like that.. but he changed it all :3 he made me feel a lot of different new feelings I didn't even know existed in me. I've learned so much about myself with him. <3 so yeah. I love him more than I love myself, or anyone in this world. Why shouldn't he be the first one on my list? |
It's true that most relationships don't last. You can only have 1 forever person in your life, the rest are just the hunt for that one person.
As for the wish, I tend to be selfish when making wishes. I know what I want and how I would use it. I don't think I would have the right to wish something for someone else, no matter how dear they are to me. As for my husband, he is my family. The guys that I dated before him however, were no where near as important as my family at that time. |
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Boyfriends just make your life miserable, even if they are your true love. You fight and fuss and stop talking to each other for days and well, it ain't worth a wasted wish. :P
As for putting my boyfriend (Fiancee, really) before my family,it depends on the situation. If my mum wants me to go somewhere with her and he wants me to come hang out, he comes first. |
Oh, I completely understand that. Believe me. It bothers me a bit, too.
No offense to those of you in this age group who do have a boyfriend or girlfriend...but if you're under 20, chances are, you WILL NOT be together forever. It is POSSIBLE that you will be, and if you are, that's great...but it is VERY, VERY unlikely. If you are particularly young, you are still SEARCHING for the person who you are most compatible with. If you've found that person early, then all the more power to you! Still, so early on, it's VERY unlikely that he or she is really "the one." I would never put a boyfriend or girlfriend ahead of my family. My biological family, I'd probably shove into the background...but the people I consider my real family? If I had a boyfriend or girlfriend, I wouldn't hesitate to shove him or her in front of a bus to save my sister. I'd feel terrible about it...but I wouldn't regret it. |
Mhm.
I like that...wouldn't hesitate to shove them infront of a bus. Maybe I should do that. Hahaha... No just kidding. I wish I could find that one, but hey, searching for the one is always fun. I like my currently bf, I just don't think I'll be with him for ever, cause we both want different things. However I'm really going to enjoy the time together. |
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