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Skipping Meals
Okay...I'm about 5'11" and 120 pounds....I have a pretty good body, but I still skip meals. I just can't bring myself to get up in the morning and eat something...I used to eat a good breakfast like...whatever eggs...but then I stopped all together.
And finally got back into eating like a power bar before I left, but now I'm back to eating absolutely nothing for breakfast, very little at lunch and something for dinner....and when I get home then I'm starving and I'll want to eat something, but most of the time I just won't. Because I think I'm obsessed with being thin. And when I see other girls that are more heavy than I am...I don't think, 'Hey she's bigger than me' I think that they look good...but then when I look in the mirror at myself I'm like...ew I look gross. And my boyfriend is always saying that I don't. And I do NOT want the attention of people just fussing over me saying things like, 'no, no you're beautiful' and so on... But I have a lot of trouble eating I think. Especially breakfast, I don't think I've had a real breakfast in...well probably this entire past year. It's always been either nothing, a glass of juice or part of a power bar. Food is NOT something that I think is gross...I honestly LOVE it, and I like to think that I have a very sophistocated (sp?) taste. I'll try anything, and I pretty much also like everything. So...I need just a little bit of advice, I'm really not sure what I should do. I don't have an eating disorder or anything...at least I don't think that I do, but I think I have an obsession with trying to conform to society and be thin.... I'll post a picture of myself in a minute... |
I believe you when you say you feel you don't have an eating disorder, but I give you a question to consider:
Is the cause of an eating disorder brought on by the societal pressures of being thin in today's world, or is an eating disorder brought on by the person their self? Is it something else in its entirety? You've admitted having an obsession with trying to conform to society. I am sure you're a very beautiful girl (I haven't seen the photo yet as I'm typing), and I'm also equally certain you would still be beautiful being twenty or thirty pounds heavier. I really wish that society would show the real women of the world in the media instead of the twigs. I've always been a firm believer that the greater a nation or group of people is exposed to what the "world" views as beautiful, the worse off their self-esteem and obsessions become. This has nothing to do with me being a heavy woman. I hate my weight and always will, but I don't starve myself or strive to conform to society. I gave society the middle finger long ago and decided that if it didn't want me for who I was, I didn't need or want it in return. I don't need anyone's approval over my own happiness, that's for sure. Embrace who you are. You love food. I'm not sure what advice there is to give. "Eat more" isn't very helpful, but I'm not sure what it is you are craving to hear or know. Is there anything else that's been on your mind in regards to weight lately? |
People used to say Angel had an eating disorder. 5'10 and 126lbs ish. *shrugs* Angel never eats breackfast either. It makes her feel ill eating so soon after she wakes up. People stopped telling Angel she had an eating disorder when they saw my food drawer. Which Angel keeps fully stocked and is full of food. (Today she brought chips, cake, chocolate and noodles. 1 pack of chips is gone, half the noodles are and the cake is about to get opened). Angels advice. Stoppit! Don't let society pressure you. Here's a newsflash. People on the catwalk aren't actually skinnier than you! In fact they've banned superskinny people. Do you need proof that they're not skinnier than you? Catwalk, February this year. 126 lbs (yes it's me) Catwalk February this year. 126lbs and 5'11 + 164lbs for the blonde And when you reach a certain weight your brain goes funny and thinks you're fatter than you really are. It's a psychological thing. So you just ignore it. Legislation introduced in the summer means that anyone super skinny have been banned from the Catwalk due to so many models starving to death T_T |
I don't know if this is an okay picture to post...please delete it if it's BAD....I don't think it is though. I'm the one on the very end (right)...and I know my face is really retarded and screwed up but it was WHOA sunny outside.
http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j2...n_koz/picc.jpg |
You're very skinny. I think you should eat more to add more curves to your body. I mean, look at it seriously. You waist is sooo tiny. You aren't fat at all so you shouldn't worry about it. What you should worry about is maybe adding five pounds to your weight. That's all I can say.
@Angel Wow..That's you?! you're super pretty C_C |
And as I suspected, you're beautiful and would be with some added weight, too. ^-^
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Well, I suggest getting your mind into becoming more healthy. Dont skip breakfast, eat constants foods and done eat after 7, excercise a lil and have fun. [ bla bla bla ] I know that sounds easier said than done, but, dont think that, you have to lead yourself to beleive to be healthy mentally first.
And. Today's society will always find something wrong with you. "Ooo look, shes that fat girl! Throw up the pork fatass" "Ooo look, its that skinny ass girl, why the hell hasnt she been eating?!" [ Plus even a really skinny person can appear really fat to another person, prefrence, I guess ] Theres really no way to be the perfect person to be accepted by everyone, in my opinion ^^' Then people might even start thinking you are too perfect to be true, and make lies about you! It goes on and on..Its really not worth obbessing about it when you think about it that way right? SO, my main point is persuade yourself into eating breakfast, and try giving it a try on looking at society like that x3 |
Yeah, I'm the redhead in those piccies which is why I know what I'm talking about with regards to weights and modelling. And let me tell you something Snarry. You'd have to pass a lot of tests with those proportions before you'd be allowed on the catwalk you're that skinny. Stop trying to conform and just be happy with it. |
You don't look sickly at all, which is good. But I'd say you could stand to gain a few pounds. As for learning how to eat well, just start doing it. I always have a glass of warm apple cinnamon tea in the morning with a piece of cinnamon toast. I just love the smell of cinnamon when I wake up lol. It sets the whole day right for me. Just get a schedule going and keep at it.
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Breakfast is the most important meal of the day! You shouldn't be so worried about your weight; I think you look beautiful. But yeah, it's kind of listneing to others saying such nice things about you, but you still feel different about yourself. I think at some point in your life, you'll think differently. Usually it comes with age. When I was younger, I was so obsessed about my weight, but being 18...I don't really care so much. d; It's always a plus to just NEVER step on the scale. Doing that just pulls you down further into a rut. ;C
I don't usually eat breakfast...or lunch. But not because I'm starving myself; I'm just not hungry during that time of day. d; And at dinner, I'm rarely hungry. I'm thinking something is wrong with my belly...where I just always feel full. ...and I've been losing weight due to me not eating that much and working A LOT. |
Like i said in the other thread, skipping a meal is, in fact the DUMBEST thing you can to do lose wieght.
it WILL make you gain more weight, because it slows down your metabolism! If you are really worried about losing weight, then eat a lot of very small meals... this will speed up your metablosim, while still giving you your nutritional needs. Also, women who eat breakfast are genrally skinnier than those who don't (because not eating breakfast slows down your metabolism) I have this problem too, eating breakfast used to make me barf. So If you really can't bring yourself to eat breakfast, then try those carnation protein drinks, or a breakfast bar. |
Maybe you need to get into the habit of eating breakfast again or making sure you bring a lunch with you when you leave for the day to sort of give yourself incentive to eat healthier?
You don't look bad but I agree with the others that adding a few pounds would be good to add a little more curve ^^ Maybe start by cooking more, experiment or cook some of your favorites. I've found cooking to be relaxing and a good incentive for myself to eat more (I've been depressed a lot for awhile now and lost weight cause I kept forgetting to eat). |
Thank you all...you actually have started to make me feel better, and it's not like I'm mis-informed...I KNOW that I should eat, and especially eat breakfast, I just don't seem to do it...or really have the time for that matter.
Forko...I really liked your post, because it's interesting...I already knew that but having someone else say it really made me start to think that I need to change my ways. @nike You gave me a great idea...because I do like food...but just seem to have trouble eating it and my mom cooks a TON, maybe I could start to take some 'lessons' from her or I could try and whip a dinner up for my boyfriend and I, KNOW that he would love that...cooking is a great way to appreciate what you're eating because you put so much personal effort into it. :) @Jennifer it would be a little difficult for me to NOT step on a scale because well...I do it like more than once a day, but I'm going to try and not do it so often, maybe once or twice a week...or three times. :sweat: I don't know, but I'm definitely going to take your suggestions. I'm 19 and I'm worried about my weight and you said that you're 18 and NOT worried about your weight...I am probably just being stupid and immature about the whole situation. @Bunnyy...skipping meals is BAD lol...I now know that...well I already knew that, but now I know for sure. <3 Try and eat. I'm totally being a hypocrite. But I'm working on it... @Nissa I'm glad that I don't look sickly...and it sounds REALLY good what you eat lol. Maybe I'll get up tomorrow and try to do something like that. I actually had a plan of getting up early today to make myself some eggs, but I was just SO tired. D: @Jayms you are absolutely gorgeous!! And you definitely don't look fat at all. You look great. And you telling me your proportions really helps make me feel better, I just need to grow up and understand that my body is going to eventually change, along with my outlook on life and how I eat...(things like that) I appreciate everyone's words of encouragement. <3 It seriously means a lot to me. I'll eventually comment on everyone's post...I just really g2g right now, I have to go to class. D: *runs away* |
*hugs* I felt a bit guilty for putting my photos on here, but I figured it'd be helpful for you. I'm glad it was and you didn't think anything bad of me. You see these articals in the paper like Victoria Beckam weighs 7st (98lb) and people think they have to be that skinny. But then you go to actual catwalks and people weigh anything and everything. As I say, Kelly there is really heavy at 12st (168lb) but when you look at her, she's not heavy at all. She's just tall and stunning (*envious of her stunningness*). Some people in the papers will be super light, but the thing to take into consideration is they are probably short. Tall people weigh a lot more than short people because there's more to them. :) I hope you begin to go by your opinions and not others, because they will always find something wrong! I mean I daily get how ugly, fat, strange faced, small boobed, too short, etc I am. And if I listened to them I'd probably kill myself trying to fit into everyones idea of beauty. Once you're happy with your looks, don't care about your weight, and can go out of the house in your blokes clothes, no make-up and not even having brushed your hair and still be happy with how you look and feel great, then it won't matter. Everyone will think you look gorgeous. Because the magazines are wrong. People aren't attracted to sticks with painted faces. They're attracted to real people. They're attracted to people with confidence in themselves. I personally see nothing wrong with skipping breakfast if you eat when you're hungry. And if you eat properly. I think it's much healthier to have a late breakfast than to force yourself something when it is making you feel ill. But maybe that's just me. I don't know. All I know is it's much healthier to ignore society and be happy with yourself *hugs* |
This sounds similar to me. I usually skip breakfast but lately I've been skimping on dinner. I do eat during the day, lunch and some snacks but I've noticed that there are some things happening. I'm starting to feel a bit ill after eating lunch. The same amount of food I usually eat is making me feel enormously stuffed. I know my stomach hasn't actually shrunk or anything yet. I think it's a mental thing. (I've kind of done it before on purpose for weight loss reasons.) I don't want to eat but when I do it anyway, my brain is telling my stomach to knock it off. When I get home from work, I really do not even want food. It takes me about 4-5 hours (around 10pm) to even start to think about food. I don't think it's just being tired, I think it has to do with working around all these super skinny girls. I do feel a bit...fat, at work. It wouldn't be the end of the world for me to lose a few pounds and I certainly wouldn't ever be in medical danger from this. But I'm concerned about you. I read your post and looked at your picture. You are definately very skinny. There is no need for you to lose weight, in fact, I think it might be beneficial for you to gain a couple of pounds. Anyway, my point to this post is that the mind can be stronger than the body and it can work both ways. You can do amazing things if you try hard enough. Try looking at food and thinking about how much you really want to eat it. It might not work right away but if you visualize wanting it enough times, eventually you actually will want it. If your obsession is with being thin, then maybe think about how eating the food will jumpstart your metabolism and burn fat. Meanwhile, you're getting nutrients you need to be healthy. <3
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Cooking for my boyfriend, or him cooking for me really lead me to eating a full meal. Especially if he cooked it because I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings (and he's a good cook). Good luck with things ^_^ |
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