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SerenityFTW 12-01-2007 10:33 PM

Urk! I half feel like crying...
 
and half feel really giddy. D:
Okayso.
I've sent this guy I like several messages on Facebook. He's on my friend list. He gets on a lot and there is proof of this because he changes things and joins things, etc. He talks to me in class sometimes, but he hasn't once replied to a message on Facebook. >> (He has replied in class to something I said on Facebook though, so it's definitely him >>)
So... last night I sent him a message asking why he never responds. (Only sorta long and I said a couple other random things too.) I shut off the computer and went to bed at 9:59. This morning, I got on, and he'd sent a message at 10:03. This was the message:
"Hello (myname),

could you leave me alone for awhile?

I'm not mad at you. I don't hate you. I just want some space, okay?"

See. I half feel like crying because of what it actually says (and I'm not sure I believe the "I'm not mad at you. I don't hate you," bit) and I'm half giddy because he actually responded (and because I feel like I should believe him).
URK. I'm so confused. DX My brain stopped functioning a little bit after I read it, it hasn't started back up yet. D:

I sorta just really want to talk about it and my friends don't really want to listen >>

Madoneko 12-01-2007 10:51 PM


I'm not sure. Maybe it's him and facebook? o.o

nescia 12-01-2007 11:37 PM

That doesn't really sound like something to be giddy about to me...
But you know him better of course.

SerenityFTW 12-01-2007 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by nescia
That doesn't really sound like something to be giddy about to me...
But you know him better of course.

No, it's not the message itself making me giddy, just that he replied.
And that he said something about not hating me, but I'm still not sure I believe that ;w;
But I may have figured out why he said it.
I've never thought about how much he may have figured out about me from these messages, but he's probably noticed that I'm amazingly paranoid about this shit. I say shit like "Don't hate me" or "You're probably pissed at me now"/"You probably hate me now" all the time in these messages. Wednesday, I walked up to him and said, "Don't kill me!" because of something that had happened on Monday. The note I gave him telling him I like him had the line, "I've probably managed to piss you off by now..."
>> Probably why he brought it up...

fuyumi_saito 12-02-2007 12:10 AM

I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe you shouldn't send him so many messages. Are you friends in real life? If not, then he might be a little put off by you.

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito
I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe you shouldn't send him so many messages. Are you friends in real life? If not, then he might be a little put off by you.

We're not really friends, but we do talk on occasion.
+ I haven't sent him that many messages, about 10 total spread over 4 months.

fuyumi_saito 12-02-2007 12:26 AM

Then..He's kind of weird... I know what to say, but it might be a little mean. >_<

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito
Then..He's kind of weird... I know what to say, but it might be a little mean. >_<

Say it, I honestly don't care. >> Me wants to hear what you have to say.

fuyumi_saito 12-02-2007 01:02 AM

Well...Maybe he just doesn't like you? I mean, he may not hate you..but I don't know. He could feel very indifferent about you.

Majinkoz 12-02-2007 01:16 AM

Hmmm, I don't know. For me personally, I don't think I would be really giddy about something like that. Because it sounded kind of like a 'leave me alone' thing, but he put if very politely at least. ^^

I guess I would suggest giving him the space that he wants, and maybe he will contact you when he's ready...you never know he could be a really shy guy, and you're coming on very strong.

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito
Well...Maybe he just doesn't like you? I mean, he may not hate you..but I don't know. He could feel very indifferent about you.

...Indifferent meaning what?
I mean, honestly, I already know he doesn't like me (as in, LIKE me). He knows I like him but that I just want to be friends, and he hasn't made any other attempts to get me to stop talking to him.
(Plus, if that's the case, he needs to just say it.)

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Originally Posted by Majinkoz
Hmmm, I don't know. For me personally, I don't think I would be really giddy about something like that. Because it sounded kind of like a 'leave me alone' thing, but he put if very politely at least. ^^

I guess I would suggest giving him the space that he wants, and maybe he will contact you when he's ready...you never know he could be a really shy guy, and you're coming on very strong.

As I've said, it's more that he actually replied for once that I'm giddy.
And he's not really shy.
>>
This guy's like... he's president of the pep club, he's in StuCo, he's in... practically everything theatre related...
yeah. Plus, if you met him, you'd be able to tell he's not shy.
And yeah. I'm giving him space. (I don't want him to beat my face in o.o)

Majinkoz 12-02-2007 01:27 AM

Well I wish you luck with the whole situation...and like I said, you never know he could like you but is just shy with girls in general, but not other things, and you're coming on strong and he's not sure what to do.

But I understand where you're coming from. The guy that I liked...I talked to him on-line once and I was REALLY giddy and excited, but then at the same time I wanted to cry...because he ended up not being very nice.

And instead of talking to him on-line maybe try just saying 'hi' or something in class/in the hall way...that's a lot more personal than talking to him on-line. :3nod:

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Majinkoz
Well I wish you luck with the whole situation...and like I said, you never know he could like you but is just shy with girls in general, but not other things, and you're coming on strong and he's not sure what to do.

But I understand where you're coming from. The guy that I liked...I talked to him on-line once and I was REALLY giddy and excited, but then at the same time I wanted to cry...because he ended up not being very nice.

And instead of talking to him on-line maybe try just saying 'hi' or something in class/in the hall way...that's a lot more personal than talking to him on-line. :3nod:

Thanks. And he's not shy with girls, either >>
And the problem isn't that he's ending up not being very nice, it's that he's too nice >w<
I do talk to him in class once in a while. He always responds and he's nice 'n' shiz.

Majinkoz 12-02-2007 01:43 AM

Awww, that's actually really cute. I'm not sure what else to say...*ponders*

I guess just give him his space for now and see what happens after a week or so, and then go from there.

Winter Wind 12-02-2007 02:03 AM

I think you should just...ignore him for a little bit, like he said. Maybe a message every week or so?

Are you guys friends in real life?

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 02:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Winter Wind
I think you should just...ignore him for a little bit, like he said. Maybe a message every week or so?

Are you guys friends in real life?

We talk sometimes, but not a lot. He knows I like him and that I want to be friends.
And I'm not messaging him for a loooooooong time.
>>

...This is so weird.
The more I look at his message, the more convinced I become that he wasn't lying... that he really doesn't hate me.
ERGH.
I'm not sure whether I'm trying to convince myself that he doesn't hate me or does anymore... >w<

fuyumi_saito 12-02-2007 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by SerenityFTW
...Indifferent meaning what?
I mean, honestly, I already know he doesn't like me (as in, LIKE me). He knows I like him but that I just want to be friends, and he hasn't made any other attempts to get me to stop talking to him.
(Plus, if that's the case, he needs to just say it.)

Ah... Maybe he's uncomfortable with that, even though you just want to be friends. Indifferent meaning he just doesn't care? But I guess that doesn't make sense since he did send you the message. As I said before, don't worry about it too much, you might make yourself very upset.

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 02:31 AM

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Originally Posted by fuyumi_saito
Quote:

Originally Posted by SerenityFTW
...Indifferent meaning what?
I mean, honestly, I already know he doesn't like me (as in, LIKE me). He knows I like him but that I just want to be friends, and he hasn't made any other attempts to get me to stop talking to him.
(Plus, if that's the case, he needs to just say it.)

Ah... Maybe he's uncomfortable with that, even though you just want to be friends. Indifferent meaning he just doesn't care? But I guess that doesn't make sense since he did send you the message. As I said before, don't worry about it too much, you might make yourself very upset.

Too freaking late =o=
But that's not what I'm upset about, just part of it. DX
Well, he hasn't seemed uncomfortable about it before - the night I told him he waved at me when I saw him in the hall after the play.

Livia 12-02-2007 03:13 AM

Maybe just do has he says. Give him some space but not sending him any messages for a month... And why don't you try and talk to him in real life. Maybe is better then contact him only by net... But I dunno if you actually talk to him during the day.... <.<;;

But is just my opinion =O

SerenityFTW 12-02-2007 03:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Livia
Maybe just do has he says. Give him some space but not sending him any messages for a month... And why don't you try and talk to him in real life. Maybe is better then contact him only by net... But I dunno if you actually talk to him during the day.... <.<;;

But is just my opinion =O

I've talked to him during the day before.
OBVIOUSLY I'm not going to message him for a while =o=
I'm not gonna do anything he doesn't want me to do, srsly. >>

Livia 12-02-2007 03:22 AM

Then try and talk to him for a little while. You don't have to necessarily talk to him every day because he asked for some space... But just an hi doesn't kills him xD

And don't think to much abut it. You get to the wrong conclusions and then get more frustrated and that is not good!

nescia 12-02-2007 03:33 AM

@SerenityFTW- Stop posting more than once in a row.
You've done it several times in this thread alone.
Edit your posts when you have something to add.
I'll fix the ones in this thread.

And I realize that you're only giddy because he replied.
I just think that you are making far too much out of it.
Someone saying that they "don't hate you" is generally a bad thing.
It's just about the worst indirect insult in my opinion.

Livia 12-02-2007 03:42 AM

nescia: I thought like that because... the last time I heard from a friend 'I'm not mad at you' a few days later she stopped to talk to me because she was mad at me for a silly thing that I still feel that it was ignorance of her brain to pretend that wasn't mad at me...

She now insist in wanting news form me by mail... o.O I dunno what to write to her anymore because she never is able to go met with me to chat and I'm getting habit tired of this odd situation. Oh her boyfriend hates me because I don't seem to agree with nothing with him xD It's one of anotehr reasons that I think she doesn't talk to me is that ._.

I just hope that it's not the same case Dx Because it would suck for sure. But you will eventually forget about it and move on ^-^

Vickicat 12-02-2007 04:09 AM

Message.
 
Honestly, I would just ignore him. He doesn't sound like he's worth it, at all, if he's going to send you messages like that. Just do what he wants, and don't talk to him. Then, if he wants you to talk to him, he will have to go to you and start talking. Make him work for it if he changes his mind about talking to you.

Smellerbee 12-02-2007 07:06 AM

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