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Is it wrong? ((A bit mature))
That ever since my bf and I broke up, like two months ago...
I've had sex with about ten guys? I mean I've had sex with each of them a few times... They all know about each of them. Then like, my ex found out, and I've been having sex with him too. He found out about the other guys and now he's mad. Even though he's also having sex with other chicks. He says it's different, that he still has feelings for me. I mean I still have feelings for him, but I'm trying to get over him. Is it wrong for me to do this? I mean they all know each other, except for the ex, well he knows now. They've all been checked and I use condoms with all of them. So do you think it's alright for him to have sex with other chicks, but expect me to only have sex with him? |
Sorry but the word slut comes to mind there.
But hey, if you like having sex with them why not? Unless you're underage... It's no more wrong for youthan it is for him. The only difference is, men are sluts in most peoples mind which is why it is seen as more acceptable for them. We don't really expect anything different. Sorry guys. And if you're trying to get over him, stop having sex with him! |
I know.
I mean it's the most people I've ever had sex with. My ex was my first so. We lived together an I'm used to having sex about three four times a day, and has just not been happening since he moved out. Now it's like once or a day. They all know each other, except for the ex. Well I am trying to stop seeing him. I was weening myself away from him. Like when we first broke up we saw each other ever day. Now it's like twice a week. So I'm getting over him slowly. |
Stop having sex with him. Thats the only way you're going to get over him. If you're having sex then he's still part of you.
I can't help you with the other guys. Keep it safe and enjoy yourself is all my advice. |
Couple quickies, no harm no foul.
Then again, your a girl. People can sometimes call me a Manslut, but it's hard to say that without laughing. You seem like a nice slut at least... Heh j/k. Point here is, at the end of the day, sex is a romantic thing, that plays an important role in life. The more times you use it for pleasure, the more the special feeling goes away... |
Okay, so I have to stop having sex with him.
Should I stop talking and seeing him too? I am really nice. I told each of the guys that I was having sex with other people and they weren't the only ones. I am always safe. |
Talk to him if you like, but sex is different. The strong pleasure it brings can often create feelings. So it's hard to let go of someone you're having sex with. Not only because you miss sex, but you miss sex with him. Talking and meeting doesn't create such pleasure so the mind doesn't try to keep it.
If you're fine with the others and they're fine with it go ahead doll. If you're being safe and you don't love them then there's no harm. If you fall in love though it could get messy. And ignore Gush. I usually do. Sex is not a romantic thing. Sex is a reproduction thing first and foremost secondly it is a base pleasure. Never romantic. Addictive yes. Often limited to two lovers because of its intimacy but not romantic. Which is why you can have sex with multiple people without being involved with them. |
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Yeah I am 18 years old too. I don't ever want to fall in love again. |
No, I don't think it's wrong.. That's a double standard on his part. If he still has feelings for you, and is having sex with other girls, and says you can't have sex with other guys...Maybe just stop sleeping with him.
You aren't his girlfriend anymore, so he has no right to get mad about such things. |
Yeah that's true.
I'm thinking of just not seeing him any more. I mean I have feelings for him too... So yeah I'm just going to stop seeing him. |
Oh my god, youre only 18 and youve had multiple partners. This can be a problem, you are an adult but yet still young. First of all, if you want to forget your ex, stop seeing him, perhaps stop talking to him also, its good for both of you, if you both want to move on. Second, those guys youve been having sex with, are you sure they are not just using you for pleasure, this is what it seems like, and if youre after pleasure also, you can never find love and you will just get hurt. Using condoms can sometimes fail, I have friends who had multiple sex with several guys and she got pregnant and she was using a condom. Now she doesnt know who the father is and stuck with noone. All the guys backed out. I dont want this to happen to you so just be aware of what youre doing and what complications it may bring.
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Good choice! *pat on the back*
Come now, love isn't all that bad. Why don't you ever want to do it again? |
Dearheart...
Just reading this makes my heart ache. During all this "payback sex" you are having, did you think about what could happen to you healthwise? If not, begin now. Stop having sex with ALL of them. Get tested! The gentleman (and I use that term advisedly) you are trying to get back has set the old "double standard" rule. It goes like this: "I can do and sleep with anyone I can get, and you must wait until I get back to you." Please remember this...everyone he sleeps with, you also sleep with by default. Same goes for you. You and he are no longer together. You will find someone else, but not if you sleep with many other guys. Old word: Reutation. It's worth keeping! |
You know, I've heard in more than one place that sex is very physically healthy and keeps your body youthful. At least, as long as you avoid catching anything... lol
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@ Damballah~ I agree. You never know what you can get out of this, physically, emotionally and also healthwise.
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Oh I don't just use condoms.
I use birth control too. I'm on depo. There is NO way in hell I'm getting pregnant. I'm too young. I'm very careful. I know I'll find someone else. I just don't want that right now. All the guys I'm with understand that this will not become something more. Just sex. I know that to, and I don't spend time with them cause I don't want to get close to them. I just want sex from them. |
Condoms and birth control are not absolutely safe. They cannot prevent infection 100 percent of the time, which means you are not protected from sexually transmitted diseases. If youre more worried about your health then I suggest you read more about these sexually transmitted diseases, if your not so worried about that and you care more about pleasure and fun, you are more than welcome to pretty much do anything you want.
Good luck to you and I hope you make the best decision. |
I don't think many people on here will agree with just sex. So there's no point in trying to convince them, it'll always be wrong. *shrugs* Just do what makes you happy and stay safe. All mya dvice is used up. So I'm off now.
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Yeah I don't think so either.
I mean I don't just go yeah lets jump in the sac with out getting tested. I had each guy get tested, and I get tested every month. I just want to be safe. |
The only difficulty with that is that many physical difficulties can hide for up to 20 years. Condoms break, and it doesn't matter if you are taking 27 kinds of birth control. Pregnancy is the BEST of things that can happen to you, trust me. That lasts 9 months...most everything else can be a life sentence.
I have a question for you. And only you know the answer to this. How do you feel about all of this? Does having multiple partners make you happy? Men talk, which is a given. One of the names you don't want them to say is yours! Or do you? |
it's not wrong.. but you should have told your ex too about the other men sooner, even though you weren't together.
but it's very hypocrite of him to be mad since he's having sex with other girls too. buut yeah.. this kind of behaviour can't be very healthy or smart in the long run.. I mean, do you wear condoms even when giving/receiving oral sex? And why not just pick one guy to have sex with as like "friends with benefits" ? that would be much safer. |
I don't have oral sex with them. Or let them give it to me.
I don't kiss them. I don't kiss anyone. Not until I'm in a relationship. I mean I feel a bit dirty, but I love the sex. And I love the sex. I can't have just one, cause sometimes one isn't available for a week or so. While others are. I mean I only told him, cause he told me. |
@ Sagitar...
Actually, that works quite well many times. As long as you both understand it to be just that! Good idea! |
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no foreplay? O.o harsh... and boring xP
I think you should try to get used to it that since you're not in a relation ship, you're not going to be able to have sex every single day. If you're just going to keep on having sex with many different males, you'll be marked as a whore and easy... and who wants a relation ship with one if you can just do her instead..? that may sound like a mean thing to say, but I'm sure a lot of people think that way.. |
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