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I'm not sure... most Admins at my school don't handle things well.
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Do you go to church? You can tell a clergyman/woman as well.
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first of all, your brother is terrible.
yes, i needed to get that out. second of all, u do have some friends, right? I mean, a social ladder cannot control your entire school. And what everyone else says is true. Talk to other people and ask those who are close to you for help. and if nothing works, try throwing some insults back at your brother! see how he feels! |
If he's causing you physical harm, sue him. Sue him for assault and battery, and causing psychological harm. Get a good lawyer and get him locked up for a long while. Then he can make the mistake of bending over to pick up the soap.
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I'm not quite sure what you can do.
Except defend yourself. Start fighting back but it's a bit iffy. Why don't you go get yourself a camera and try to catch him in the act. Set up hidden cameras all over your room, or a video recorder. There isn't much you can do besides that. Unless you start to bulk yourself up by working out. And now I'm going to direct my attention toward an ignorant 15 year old 'Goth'. Kegokec Why would you be offended by what level you are? I certainly do hope you realize this by now but Goths aren't exactly normal. They are different, and most people don't like things outside the norm. So what is their first instinct, hate them or well not like them. They think they are better then them because they are different. Just because he puts "Goths" lower then you really wanted it to be, doesn't mean you can be all physco bitch to him. Just because you have your own little gothic group of friends (which I'm pretty sure you guys think you are the best thing ever and better then everyone else.) doesn't mean that he is judging you. If you actually took offense to what level he put your "stereotype" at then you need to grow up. Also, wearing Hot Topic clothes and some metal does not make you Goth. So why don't you actually learn from those who are considered much higher then this pathetic stereotype we now called Goth. Because if you haven't noticed there is a lot of little boys and girls who walk around wearing black and have a few items at Hot Topic who say "Look at me! I'm so goth! Hehehe!" This is not goth, and sadly, I believe you think so. [/rant] |
Geez... the crapfights between my brother and I never got THAT far before... I mean he'd do alot of the same shit to me, pummel my self esteem, bust my head open once or twice (he's a big boy. Best I managed was a good shot to the jaw, but apparently that just pissed him off^^) but never did he actually break bones...
If your parents are so blind to your brother's abuse, maybe you SHOULD try and catch him in the act somehow. Or maybe there'll come a time when high school bullcrap isn't so important to him anymore and he'll actually start treating you with respect. But hey, like I said, my bro and I never reached that extent of animosity so I don't know. Maybe when he goes of to college he'll be too busy drinking and shit to screw around with you anymore. If it really is as bad as you say it is, you need to make your rents see what's going on. If not, I'm sure that your school's councilor program might be able to do something. I'm a little shaky on that stuff though, but I hope things get better for you. |
The only thing you can do is put up with it until you're able to get away from him. Believe me, i have two older sisters and they did much worse. I tried ignoring them, i tried fighting back verbally/physically, nothing worked. So now i've left and i have nothing to do with them whatsoever. I'm now 21, they're 25 and 23 and any time i do see them they still (degrade me in ways i still can't mention)
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he's just building up his own confidence in your excuse. he probably has a low self-esteem deep down, but ofcourse he can't show it, so he shows off >.> and I guess he knows how smart you are and is jealous to you secretly..
and he has some issues with his own penis if he tells you things like that 8) my big sister has done the same thing, she's fat and her boobs hang, so she'd always call me "anorectic ugly whore with no boobs" and "why do you even wear bras?" etc.. :roll: but I didn't take them seriously, I know better than that. Then I'd hear her crying to my mom that she's so fat and no one likes her and she wants a breast reduction surgery and all. so there. didn't feel sorry for her at all. |
Wow at the fat lady who wants to reduct her flubber. So you think he's just trying to raise his own self-esteem?
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I honestly don't know what to say. I'm the middle child and I was always / still am picked on both my sibs and we're all almost in our twenties, well my sister is now 30ish. She use to use me as a mop to clean up the water she was throwing on me in the kitchen before our mom got home, but now that we're older...I'm target practice for her. Shes an officer that deals with "out of hand kids" per say, so I get the take down practice and the metal hand cuffs clacked on my wrist.
As for my kid brother, yes hes younger than me by four years but towers over me by weight and height. We get into some bad scraps just because he thinks he can run his mouth and bully me around. Well, needless to say I don't take it, and I've ended up with sore joints or in the really bad cases a black eyes or shattered nerves. Hes pushed me into glass shelfs and/or doors of his entertainment center just because he call me a name and went off on me just because he could, I slapped him and ended in tears and a very sore back. Sibs can be cruel and most people learn to deal with it. My mother had to build a back bone to my brother after me leading the way. He has on the rare occasion pushed our mom and so on. I don't stand for it, so I had to be the bold and call the cops. Since then my mothers has a thing for leaning on me when she needs help getting him under control. Cops, most of them, are the best thing and help in this types of situation the best they can and some actually care and will keep coming out so you don't have to deal with a new come and having to go over the whole story again. (wow a lot of ands in that) If it wasn't for the cops talking to my brother, I think I would have a broken bone by now or my mother would be in fear all the time. If you really want help, make a choice to contact outside help. Theres teachers, (though in my opinion they don't do that much to help, some do but most are to lazy.) Cops, hot line, teen help centers, and so on. Theres help out there, if your willing to look and ask for it. Now whenever some one has a problem like this, they come to me because I now lack the fear I use to have. I lack the fear because I know people are out there who will help. If you don't know where to find these place, call you local police center and ask, They will give you the hot line numbers and even try to assist you the best they can via phone. I hope some of that helps, I really do. Its horrible to be stuck like that and not think anyone care. |
I have been watching this topic all this time and even though there are good replies the best way to fix this is via calling the cops like Divine_lil_brat and another user suggested, the kid wont stop pushing you until you get to your limits and do something stupid.
You have already tried talking your parents as well as making yourself get respected, the only way I quiet find to get out of this problem is really by calling the cops and getting into the case. Explain everything that your brother has done to you and I mean everything. Don't please him more that you had already, his using you as a punching bag, let yourself be known by calling the cops already, one of this days he can do something much worst to the point that it may cost your life. |
I personally have never had to put up with an older sibling, even though I have one.
As most people have said, call the cops and let them know of your situation. Believe me, I know a many good cops, and none of them would ever let someone like your brother get away with doing that stuff. The police will do whatever they can. As for your parents not acknowledging what your going through and favoring your brother, I find it hard to believe that they don't bother to acknolege that he's been giving you broken bones and black eyes. Do they think you fell from a tree and broke your arm or something? Try whatever you can, to make them understand that your brother is not the prince charming that they think he is. We are all here for you, even if it is over the internet. |
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That is one hellah aweful brother.. ;-; And the worst part is that your parents don`t care. I know this might sound a bit overdramatic but is there any way you can record this stuff and give it you your parents? :// |
WTF.
Okay, firstly, I find your first post very hard to believe. If he'd really done all that stuff, shouldn't he have landed in jail by now? If he broke your bones, and stuck a tack in your eye, which I'm assuming would have blinded that eye, I find it hard that no one would have noticed. Surely you went to the hospital? Surely your parents had to find out what happened? Why have you not called the police on your brother?
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This sounds really bad. Like there needs to be more done than you just trying to teach him not to be a totally moron.
You need parental help, or even help from your school counselor. Because these things are happening at school, you CAN go to the school for help. All schools or at least almost all of them have anti-bullying policies. And what about your parents, do they know what's happening? With your brother causing you so much bodily harm, the police could even step in. If you really want help, don't take it in your own hands because frankly you won't get anywhere. Like you said, he's bigger than you, and has more people to use against you. You need adult help, and fast in my opinion. Child Services could even be called I believe. I suggest looking it up on a site that was more meant for these problems because they will be able to offer much more help than we can. Edit: @ Vickicat: This isn't a subforum to DOUBT the problems that trouble this person. If you don't have any help to offer, please keep it to yourself. And if this is real, you will feel horrible about doubting him. |
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Well, here's an update.
He broke two of my fingers. My parents even KNOW about this. (Luckily, it's my pinky and ring finger, so I can type without them.) ~Vikki - You can doubt, or disgrace, or what EVER you want to. It's not going to change the fact that he's brastard. (misspelled on purpose). |
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If you haven't and plan to go, inform the doctor just what happened. They are obligated to report such things. At any rate, please just get out of the house. If he really broke your fingers, then it's assault and legally, there are a ton of options. :/ Obviously you can't wait for someone to do anything; no one else but you will. |
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I cannot see whatever possible justification that your brother has to be mistreating you like that. And on top of that, I can't see whatever possible justification your parents have to be ignoring this. That bastard should be in therapy for his mental issues. He broke your fingers? Use that to an advantage. Go legal on his ass. And remember. No matter what in God's name he or any other of the jackasses say to you, you're definitely better than them. Don't get down on yourself just because some cunt with a single brain cell wants to go all 'lolzyurstoopid' on you to fool himself into thinking he has friends. |
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I'm not sure how old you are; so waiting it out until you can leave may or may not be a healthy option.
But if it does get physical again, I would recommend calling the police. Emotional damage is harder to support, but if he is causing you physical harm, something does need to be done. Sorry your brother is a moron. He honestly reminds me a bit of my own; but that doesn't really do any good. XD I do agree with Sagitar in that he probably does have a pretty low self-esteem, and feels that by proving how much 'better' he is than you, he feels better about himself. Regardless of whether it's true or not. I hope everything works out for you. |
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I realize that maybe the school advisors might not do anything, but have you actually tried? If your situation is constantly this bad, you have nothing to loose. Tell a parent you trust, teacher, cop, grandparent, friend. The only thing that can happen is they think you're a creep. What you say will get through to someone. You're in a horrible delima, you have to try, and if it doesn't work, try again. You can't stand for this any longer. In the mean time, is it possible for you to stay out of the house as much as possible? Try to be out when your brother is hanging at the house. Less confrontation that way. Sorry for sounding harsh, but I'm really worried. How old are you, by the way? Is it possible for you to move out? Seemingly, that would be the best option.
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Hmm, that seems sort of odd. Do you react to any of these things at all? Because he most likely only does these things to get a reaction out of you. =/
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