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Best Friends Forever?
Do you think you will be friends with your best friends forever?
Me and my best friend have known each other since 3rd grade. Im in 8th now, moving on to 9th, although I dont attend school anymore since I moved, from America to Russia. Everything is a lot harder here too. So anyways, both of our dad's name is Paul, we have never gotten tired of each other and even if we got a ton of friends on our own and didnt really hang out of school because of that [ and I dont like some of her friends, some of my friends dont like some of her friends etc. ] we still get along great. Now that I moved, she misses me a lot and I miss her too. I hope to vacation for the summer in America, so we can see each other again, and so I can see my other friends who really want to see me. And also, I changed a lot xD I looked like that girl from Anastasia to me in my siggeh. Its like wanting to see your friend's makeover, who wouldnt wanna? And, she says she wants to go to university with me, or be roomates, or something like that in the future. We are still 13 [ young lol, loli much? ] I dont know if I will know her in the future, but she is the bestest friend I will ever have. I used to be anti-social, I couldnt speak a word in English. But it all started when she passed the ball to me in America. No one else wanted to play with me, just her. And it all started there : ) Discuss- Are you going to be best friends with your best friend[s?] forever? Do you want to hangout even after you are grown up, or be roomates[etc.] ? Best Friends And, happy new years : ) |
No. In my life I have had 9 best friends. I only talk to two now. 1 I'm barely talking to after my housewarming party and 1 is getting married, has a baby and lives four hours south of me, so it's kinda tricky getting to see each other. I'm pretty sure John and I will fizzle out.
I hope Maria and I stay together forever, but I'm not niave enough to bet on it. |
I definitely don't think that people stay friends forever. The friends you have when you're 10 are probably not going to be the same when you're 15, and the friends you have when you're 15 are almost definitely not the same when you're 30. People change so much growing up it's almost impossible not to drift away and grow in different directions. My best friend at the moment I've only known for about 6 or 7 years. The friends I had before that I don't even talk to anymore.
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I never really had a best friend, so I can't really answer that. I had a perosn who I thought was my best friend, but really wasn't. We don't really talk anymore, sicne she lives in Texas now. So I guess I can say that people may not always stay friends with their best friend forever.
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Me and my best friend are still friends.. ive known her for 10 years we met in 2ed grade and now we are both in 11th.
but i know what you mean, my friend move about 15 mins away for after elamentry school we went to difrant schools even tho she lives only 15 mins away it is hard to get hold of her because she is so active with school. about friends.. my friends are the type that get along with everyone same with hers.. i have favorites of her friends and there are the some i some what dislike but i can get along with all of them. I'm going to go to a tec-school and shes going to go to an out of state collage hopefully we will stay in contact and be friends but only time can tell that. |
Happy New Year to you, too.
Ya know what? I lose contact with all my best friends. So, I stopped calling people my best friends, but there are some that I do depict out of my "friend" bag and call my close friends. Most of my "best friends" have been trouble some.. Some used me, or at least tried to use me.. I remember when I was younger, and my current best friends in whatever city/town I lived in, would make promises like, how we would go to the same high school, and be neighbours when we grow up, and attend each others' weddings. It would always fail because one of us would move, most of the time, it would be me.. :\ |
I've never really had a best friend. I've always been in a group of friends, and if you dared to label one of them as your "best friend" the others would get pissed, or she'd turn around and say that she actually thought so-and-so was a better friend than you.
But I've had really good friends in the past. I'd known one girl for over eight years before she moved to a town across the state, and I haven't spoken to her for a few years now. I haven't had a decent conversation with a girl I've known for ten years since she graduated last year. To keep a friendship going strong, you need to work on it. You can't expect things to sail on peachy keen for ever. I think the thing with my friends and I is that we know that we won't be friends forever - and we accept that. So when it comes time to break apart, we just let it happen. Which is sort of a worry, because two of my friends in particular I've known for seven years straight, and they're going to a different school than I am. Plus I don't know their mobile numbers, and we can't really get together that often anyway. (And none of us check our email that often.) So we're sort of screwed. ;__; |
nope. my "best friends" have changed in a year or two..
they've made other friends or messed with the wrong guys, been a bitch or something like that.. I don't really have any friends now, just a couple of "once in a month" friends. they used to be close, but I hardly ever see them anymore. I guess my fiance is in the same time my best friend though.. and I hope I'll stick with this one forever |
fallen angel- Aw D;
Well, you never know. Stay together or not, as said in this thread before only time can tell. ebilkitty- I can accept that of my friends, especially for my best friends. And why would you want them to stay the same forever? Plus, I know, maybe they change for the worse. Like they start taking drugs, or something. Id try to help him or her, its probably a cry for help. If it doesnt work, Id give up respect for him or her and just move on. Plain and simple. mewmew- yeah, shit happens D ; But thats why there is such a thing as messenger ; D vadeil- Thats cool >3 Hmm, I think you two should mail each other, or add each other to your messengers. haha, your friends are the same as mine <3 Icandy- Thanks xD Best wishes to you~ Then they arnt your real friends Dx Those are called retards. I think @[email protected] Why did you move? Was it just a one time or you moved for your dad's bussiness or something like that? D ; frog- Hauu, it doesnt sound like you guys have motivation to stay together at all, its like if you see each other, just hangout, but be ready already to let go of each other. If you would really want to have more fun with each other, youd be more motivated, ask them if they want to get the same messenger, or have your own forum maybeh? xD I dunno, just talk it out. Thats why its called a friendship. You have to go through the bad and the good. You can only get the best from the worst. Wow, they sound selective, or..thats probably not the right word xD Lol, I dunno. |
To answer simply, no. I've had one and only one 'best friend' in my life, that was third grade, she moved away then, and I haven't replaced her. We don't talk anymore, so I really haven't a 'best friend'. But then again, you have to realize, why should you categorize friends like that? All your friends should be bests^^ At least, thats my feeling.
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Well I hope you and your friends will know each other for a long time but for me I have doubts. I still have friends that I keep in touch with that I've known since elementary school. Then I made three really good friends who I've known for over five-six years now. One of them decided she was going to listen to two other people *who she barely knew* tell lies about me and BELIEVE them! I was very pissed off at her for that and still am. Another is 50/50 because since all four of us are friends with each other she's torn between me and the other friend. I never said she had to choose between us, that I just wanted her and I to not let those two people pull us a part but...I don't know. She has strong opinions about some things and then she's iffy on others. Then I have my remaining friend who is strongly on my side and also pissed off at the other friend. I hope her and I know each other for a long time because we make each other laugh, her boyfriend hangs out with us all the time and is one of my close friends, and we like the same things. I have hopes and it's in God's hands is all I can say.
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icey- hau, no way to contact her? @[email protected]
xD Well, I dunno. Ive known my friend longer so I think of her as best. She was my first and changed me completely. I just cant help BUT think she is the best. master- I hope too xD My friends are very clingy though, most of my friends remember their friends from way back in kindergarten, and they talk to them on messenger. hauu, sounds like an attention whore ; __; scary... At least you still have someone on your side >3 God's hands? I think its mostly in the bishe's hands Dx Oh well, whatever shit happens, remember backfiring is what they want. Stand your guard? xD |
Well...you might be able to break them of the cling if you tell them you need some space. XD I've tried to keep in touch with people in Elementary but it gets hard sometimes and our interests have changed so much that a lot of us are too different.
Well she's not an attention whore but she is gullible as hell. If people she barely knows can convict me of crimes I've never done or would even think of doing and she believes them then...she never knew me at all and apparently she wasn't that much of a friend. If someone I hadn't known even a year told me some bullshit lies about her I'd get pissed off at them and tell them to "F" off! I don't tolerate lies and gossip about my best friends but she couldn't do me that courtesy. My other two friends shook their heads and said they didn't believe the lies but didn't know what to say about her. Bishie? No bishie involved, besides the fact that there's a reason for everything I guess so I leave it up to Him. I do stand my ground, I am a Master Chief after all. XD |
No, I do not believe that I will be best friends with my friends forever.
We have to many interests and things we want to pursue after high school, and that I do not believe that we will keep in touch. We will be busy with our life goals and jobs/college to be able to stay in touch. I am not going to college right away after high school, I am going sight seeing and getting a job to pay for my tuition for college. My friends on the other hand are going to college/ University, next year. So the only way I'll be able to stay in contact with them is on msn, so that blows.. =s . Also in my life I've had so many Best Friends, I've known since we were in kindergarten, and we barley even talk to each other anymore. So basically, learning from my past experiences, I don't tend to stay best friends with people more than 3-4 years tops. Yes, we are still friends, but we don't hang out like we used to. .__. |
I've gone through about 6-7 best friends and only 1 or 2 were the kind I figured we'd be friends forever. It didn't work out between us, but I admire people who can keep up friendship over long periods of time. :) It seems like it takes a LOT of dedication and patience and I don't have that.
I don't have a best friend for now and that's fine with me. Honestly after too long people just start to annoy me and it starts to seem like more of a hassle to keep up with them. |
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librarian- At least you found out who the true friend is, it almost seems like moving was a good thing, aye?
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I don't see myself being friends with my high school friends forever... I'm the kind of person who doesn't put forth the effort to keep in touch... I imagine I will remain talking to all of them (courtesy of facebook) but I doubt we'll be as close as we were in high school.
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I've known my best friend since we were like six. We are now both 22. : D I will admit we've grown a little bit apart as she goes to college in a different state and I no long live in our home town so I hardly ever get to see her. : ( But she is still like my sister. : D
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I don't really have a best friend. Actually, my mom is my best friend as lame as that sounds. She enjoys the same kind of conversation I do and I know that we genuinely care about each other.
I've had best friends, and I've loved them, but things always seem to fall apart. One of them was so fun to be around because we enjoyed doing the same things, but she was very manipulative and I needed to get away from her. One of them I dated. She dumped me, so that hurt my feelings. Then she got mad when I started dating someone else and stopped talking to me. I still don't know exactly what it is that we're not speaking over, but it was a painful relationship so I won't try to contact her. My boyfriend and I are close, but I don't think we truly enjoy the same type of conversation. I trust him though. I have other friends that I love, but I don't tell them my secrets. We just enjoy each others company. |
I've had LOTS of best friends throughout my life, but I don't even know a lot of them now. One moved away, but he still comes and visits me and stuff. But the best friend I have now I think I'll probably have for awhile, since we actually still hang out a lot after I quit going to school with her.
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I haven't even spoken to any of my old best friends in years. I still remember most of them fondly, but I'm halfway across the country and living my life a lot differently now. We simply grew apart. It's nice when you can be friends forever, but I don't think it happens all that often.
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My best friends have come and gone - people change - and in most cases friends won't stay friends forever. I have these two friends who have been best friends since diaper days and they're still going on strong even through college and being miles apart. There are some cases like my mom and her best friend from elementary school....they stopped talking in middle and high school, got to college, became best friends again, and they still talk today and they're 52!!!
In my case the longest friends I've had weren't my 'best friends' at first. We belonged to the same group of friends but i was bestfriends with other people in the group...but senior year we started getting closer together and now we're in the same college and hang out all the time together :D I've known them for years and we have so much fun together. My other best friend I met in elementary school. He was actually my brother's bestfriend and we all lost touch when we went to middle school and in highschool we started talking again - by the end of senior year he and I were so close. We started dating a few months ago and he's my love AND my best friend now :D I love him so much >w< |
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I mean... none of us are really party animals, anyway. We'll go over to each other's houses, and we sometimes meet out for lunch or to go skating. It seems like we don't put in much effort - and the truth is, we don't. But we've seen each other every day for the past seven years, excluding holidays and the days when one of us would be sick or at a function. We're really close, so it's almost like if we see each other any more it'd be an overdose. :P It's not that they're selective, exactly. It's just that, as I said, we're all really close... and to label one, and not the others, your "best friend" is almost offensive to everyone else. And as to the "turn around and say that someone else is their best friend" part, I guess that's just my insecurities talking. Whoo. It's complicated. Only around two of us are all that computer savvy, most of us don't have a mobile, and we're all really busy so it's hard to make plans, anyway. So... yeah. I know that in friendships you're supposed to work things like this out, and we've gone through a lot together. I think we're at the stage where we're pretty much desperately hoping that we all keep in touch, and we'll do all we can to STAY in touch, but if we lose contact, it'll be a "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened" scenario. |
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