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What do you think is the maximum age difference for couples?
I find that when I walk the halls in my highschool, that there seems to be a whole bunch of grade twelves and 5th years dating these grade nines. The majority of the grade twelves are boys and the grade nines are primarily girls.
And like I always hear like that's taking the baby right out of the craddle and stuff like that. So it led me to wonder what is the maximum age difference in couples should be? Like the age difference between my Mom and my step-dad is 11 years. I find that when people get older it doesn't matter anymore, maybe it's just the level of maturity we should be basing it on? |
In my opinion, when your young and a young adult, five. But from about, 30 or so and older, ten.
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I agree with Kukon
thing is that when you are growing up girls tend to be more mature then guys and so they tend to need an older guy to fullfill their expectations and yeah guys are natural pervs lol |
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Stereotype! I am not a natural perv.>.< I very rarely even think about sex. Meanie. |
I don't see anything wrong with a 9th grader dating a 12th grader, they're still in the same school at least. I think it starts getting a little creepy at about 5 years difference while you're still a teen.
As for grown adults, I really don't think it matters - they're well old enough to decide who they want to be with. :lol: My parents are 15-16 years apart. |
My mom was 28 when she married my dad who was 37. So, that was nine years and it wasn't a big deal. After 25 It's not as big of a deal as it would be in high school or something. But you just have to make sure that he/she can keep up with the younger one...or in some cases the other way around.
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Well when you're still a teen I guess a few years aren't too bad. And as Trinitydoll
said. Girls mature faster and quite alot of them date older guys. But the other thing she said is stereotypical. Lol. But does go for alot of guys anyway :D Just kidding. My parents have six years between them. I think. Well six-ish. I don't think it matters too much when you're an adult and that but not when really ages 35+ guys end up marrying teenage girls and such. That's just a bit weird to me. But that's my opinion. |
Hey I said that as a joke n_n; didnt mean to offend I know many guys are not like that <3
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I don't think that age is the deciding factor at all, I think that where you are at in life is the deciding factor. A 15 year old should not date a 20 year old as they are at very different stages of life. The five year difference will not matter a bit once they are, say, 24 and 29. They will both be looking for someone to marry most likely at that age and will be facing the same things in life.
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You know, just as long as they love each other...it doesn't really matter.
My father is 44 and my stepmother is 22. :lol: |
In school, it always bothered me when it was more than 3 years or so...but in life, eh. I have a friend whose husband is something like 13, 14 years older than she is, and they have a great marriage that's lasted several years.
I think what the others have said in this thread is exactly right: when you're younger, it matters a whole lot more. |
I don't care if the age difference is 15-20 years... All that matters to me is that they love each other.
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well for teen I agree that five years is good for teens but once you grow up I'd say that 15 years is the max...
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I don't think it matters really. My mom and dad have 17 years between them. Granted they don't get on but, meh.
I myself prefer older guys as opposed to those my own age. |
I find that when you're under the legal age of consent (varies from place to place) then you should stay close to you're own age. If I saw a grade 12 trying to hookup/date a grade 9, I'd assume the grade 12 has ulterior motives that may be of a despicable nature (that is a broad generalization on my part, sorry). After you're of age, 5-7 years seems like a good max but again isn't always the case. Once you start hitting middle age who really cares? Everyone's an adult by that time. I'd say try to avoid dating people who are as old as your parents or as young as your children at that point.
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it depends on both persons ages. if I say "10 years", then it would mean it would be okay to 20 year old to date a 10 year old -.- which is clearly not okay.
so there is no set age difference in my opinion, it always depends. |
Age dose matter in a relation ship, no matter what any one says. If the age diffrent is too large then you won't be able to understand the other person, being from a diffrent generation. My personal age limit is 5 years younger or older. any more than that and it gets weird.
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Well..I think when you're in your teens and early twenty's, maximum should be is 3 or 4 years apart. Even 4 is getting a bit too old, let's say if you're only 14 and the guy you're dating is already 18, that's not..well...doesn't seem like love to me.
I mean, this guy is probably just using the girl, who is just starting high school, for sexual benefits, and she just thinks "Oh wow, I'm getting together with a guy in grade 12! I must be really cute, I'm going to be sooo popular!!!!" They're still kiddies!! D: But once you're in your late-twenties, and beyond, you're well educated on this stuff and I can trust you make the right decision when it comes down to it. :3 My dad and mom are..I don't know..8 - 10 years age difference? o.0 Haha... |
When you're younger you shouldn't be too far apart as in a 13-year-old and a 23-year-old you should be more like 3 or 4 at the most but as you get older being 10 or more years apart isn't a big deal.
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theres no limit?...
since there's once when i read a paper, a 30+ old man i think marrying a grandma 70+...so, yea i believe theres no limit XD |
It depends alot on the age.
If it's teenagers, I think only two years max. Because from year to year, teenagers change SO much. I mean, if you're a teenager, think about where you were at your life two years ago, and where you're at now. And if you're an adult, think of when you were say, fourteen, and when you were sixteen. Radical changes. So if a fifteen year old were to date a seventeen year old, even though they're only two years apart, it's SUCH a chasm. The seventeen year old is figuring out what they want to do with their life. Looking at colleges, they have a job probably, they can drive. The fifteen year old can't even get their license yet, can't work in most places, is still busy being a teen and doing that whole thing. Or if a thirteen year old were to date that fifteen year old. Radical changes. Of course, there are always exceptions. The fifteen year old who is honestly mature enough to date a seventeen year old. Or, alternatively, a seventeen year old immature enough to date a fifteen year old. But an immature person may not be in the fifteen year old's best interests. :P I think as an adult, the age difference can of course get bigger. I was lucky enough to find a guy who's not only perfect for me, but born in the same month as me. We're not even 30 days apart! So not only are we "on the same page", but we're on THE SAME SENTENCE. XD |
After 18, it doesn't matter.
Teens, like 3 or 4 years, but after they're legally an adult, who gives a hoot? My parents are seven years apart and they've been together for like 27 years. |
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