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Nervous... (Lock please! Thanks )
And for once, it doesn't have to do with my weight.. (If you do not know what I am talking about, look for Weight Problem, in this forum.) it has to do with the up coming 'holiday' Valentines.... There is this guy I really like. He is one of my good friends, his name is Calvin. He is one of the few friends I have that I know is true blue. He doesn't care about my weight, he always says I am pretty, and notices even the little changes I do so I know he is really attentive of me... Well, we've been talking through Myspace a lot simply because we both are busy, him with school, me with preparing to start a new job and such... Well, I've always had a crush on him, that much is certain.. and I have a feeling that he likes me too.. I don't know what it is that makes me feel that way, whether it be women's intuition or my major crush on him that blinds me into thinking that. Well, here is what I am nervous about.. I CONFESSED! I don't know what compelled me to do it.. I went over my steps of what I did and I don't know how or why I did it."
"We were talking about hogwarts.. how or why, another thing I have no idea.. anyway we were talking about Hufflepuff and how it is basically the non-existent house of hogwarts because... you never hear of them for doing anything... That is beside the point, so he said something about hearing Hufflepuff be mentioned somewhere, and I said I highly doubt it, and if so, it probably wasn't important. Then he replied with not important? Blasphemy! So this is when things got a little fuzzy.. I remember beginning to reply to him, probably going to say something witty and sarcastic but then the next thing I know I am spilling out all these feelings for him and I hit SEND! And I swear, it was a double take and the mortification." "Okay.. here is the problem.. A few things can happen. One, he just shrugs it off and acts like nothing happens... Two, thinks it is just a joke and says I am funny. (He does that a lot) Three, feels awkward and never speaks to me again.>< Four, Turns me down, and Five, says Yes (I will seriously faint)" "Please tell me I am just freaking out over nothing and everything will be okay.. but.. really, I'd like some honest opinions... Am I really over reacting? I mean.. I've never confessed my liking to a guy and I think I might have gone overboard..." |
Heyhey, I think you did the right thing! -gives you a cupcake-
I mean, now he knows. :] If you don't tell him, how's he supposed to know, right? And it's better, because now at least you'll know if your crush is returned, or it's time to give up. I think you're just fine. xD Over-reacting is normal. :3 I remembered the first time I confessed. I was on AIM, and although I don't really remember what happened, I typed "I like you." and hit enter on accident. x-x;;;; And he didn't like me any more than a friend, but it was ohkay, because then I knew I could give up, and move on. I hope everything turns out ohkay! -crosses fingers- |
Well, I recently confessed to a guy I liked. We've been friends for a few months now, and I liked him right away. Just like you, he's always been really supportive and caring toward me (and often sending mixed signals. >_<). Maybe if you hear my story, it'll make things easier for you. ^_^ I can't promise it'll be the same, but it sounds like a very very similar situation.
I don't know why, but for a few weeks, it got to the point where, whenever I was around him, I'd either get really emo or really panicky, and he kept asking me what was wrong. I didn't want to say, so I kept coming up with excuses... what I wasn't paying attention to was the fact that they were really secrets of things that were bothering me somewhat (personal stuff going on at home. I'd rather not go into it) and then it hit me. I've been spilling secrets far more potent than my feelings, so I decided to come up with a non-threatening way of coming clean with him. I thought about it for a couple days, and I finally came up with something I liked, and I talked to him. Like you, it was kind of a "wait, did I just do/say that?" kind of thing. I've confessed over the internet before, or kind of hinted around toward stuff without actually saying it, but this was the first time I've actually come out so plainly as well. His response to me: (after getting over the initial shock of it) "I'll always be here to talk about stuff, even like this, but...I can't give you anything more than what we have right now. I mean...I really do value your friendhsip and all, but... gee am I gonna have to go into this? I haven't had a girlfriend in a long time...and I... don't know why. It's not a you thing...it's just kind of a me thing. I mean...don't take it personally, and I'm sorry. But ya know, I really admire you for telling me this, and I appreciate it a lot. I mean, most girls wouldn't be able to bring up this kind of thing... Well, anyway I'll see ya." That wasn't quite exactly it word for word, and I had an occasional interjection, but that was the basic gist of it. If he's really your friend and he doesn't have any feelings for you, then I'd expect an answer similar to that one. Oddly enough, after I confessed, when we saw each other again, there were like 2 minutes of awkwardness, and then things between us were less awkward than they ever were. Anyway, I honestly and earnestly wish you luck. Seems to me if he doesn't like you, or if he's rude rejecting you, he's really missing out on something. :) |
Once again Nephilia, you are totally inspiring me. Not to go out and do the same thing, oh no. Actually, I kind of have the opposite thing going on personally. But this is your thread, so lets get back to you ^_^
You've done good, girl. To admit to your feelings, whether it's over the net, phone, or in person, is taking a huge risk for your self esteem, even if it is by accident. Knowing the little that I do about you, it seems to me that even if this doesn't work out the way you might want it to, you'll still be able to push past it. And, like everyone before me has said, if he's really the kind of friend he sounds like, he'll be able to respond in a mature way that won't hurt anybody if the outcome is unfavorable. But if it is favorable... We'll be throwing you a huge party, girl. :] |
I think you did the right thing, the only way he will know that you have feelings for him is if you confessed.
This is just like how those TV shows go, the answer would be always : Just go talk to him. Hope all turns out for the best!~ |
Panting. "Ugh, thank you guys, really. I literally posted this right after my whole: Omg, I just told the guy I've been crushing on for a year and a half that I like him. I do hope that, even if he doesn't like me in that way, he can look past the confession and still be friends, because if anything, that is really all that matters to me. Sure, if he likes me back and we are dating, that'd be amazical and all, but if not, at least he is there for me with his friendship. I can only hope that in the end we are still friends if it is not in my favor, I think that is really all I am afraid of. Not the fact that he could reject my affections, but decide that it is too awkward to be friends. I doubt anywhere in my sub-conscience confession that I said if you do not feel the same way, I hope we can still be friends... I really wish I had, just to make sure that was you know.. confirmed... I suppose all I can do is wait. I do feel better though, like some kind of burden is lifted off my shoulders." Deep breath. "I just needed to hear that I don't need to go into a panicked frenzy about it. I am still kind of nervous, but I guess that wont go away until he replies.. if he does... I hope he does, even if it isn't what I want to hear." ><
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heh don't be nervous :3 there's nothing you can do now but wait for his reply ^^ good luck!
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Awww thats adorable!! =D
well. here is my therory. Since you cannot react until he responds, you should'nt try to stress over what he could respond. of course, doing what you did would worry any normal girl, but i for one, say GOOD JOB!! manytimes i have wished I could have just told him, and end my suffering (cause if it's not mutual, then oh well i'll get over him instead of worrying over everything and remaining n the dark.) |
"Ugh! I couldn't sleep last night. I tried convincing myself that its nothing to lose sleep over but I couldn't make myself do it. I am an insomniac, so it is already hard enough to sleep as it is, even harder when I am nervous or anxious about something. I was listening to music, trying to lull myself to sleep, I reached for my iPod and went to go fiddle with the music, wanting to change it, but when I pulled it out of my iDock, it suddenly froze, stopped playing and refuses to turn off... I broke it.. or it broke itself.. I don't know. I suddenly have a feeling I have been cursed with my brother's bad luck at the worst time.. I hope this isn't a sign. I am so depressed without my music... Hopefully my warranty is still good.. I have only had it for less than a year.. I'm broke so if not, I'm screwed." Pouts. "Also, he has yet to reply.. he normally replies to Myspace around two or three in the afternoon.." Sighs.
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If you say he likes you then it should be fine. If he doesn't like you that way then he sounds like a good enough friend who will stay friends with you despite that - it might be a little awkward at first but it might not. and Who knows - maybe he'll say yes? Sounds to me like he might like you back :D Good luck!
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I liked this one girl for like, a year. Then, out of the blue one day, when we were on MSN, I nearly blurted it out o_o; I didn't, but I got her intrigued enough with what I was so adverse to telling her that the next day, at her house, she ended up coaxing it out of me P: It took me forty minutes and I nearly cried, but I ended up saying it! And then, like, five minutes later (which felt, I admit, like closer to five YEARS later), she got up to close the door, and ended up saying "I... like you a lot, too." ... to the door. But I know who she really meant to direct it to~! (*Is witty*) And we've been together for almost three months xP From browsing your other thread, I get the feeling that you're a pretty strong, pretty awesome person-- don't worry too much, yeah? I wish you the best of luck, my friend. I hope everything turns out well for you, no matter what happens. |
I've done just that. Spill my heart and soul to someone over the net, press send, then wish I hadn't just done what I did.
I told my best guy friend that I've known for almost a year (not quite) that I like him. Mind you, I only know him on the net. But still, people fall in like over the net all the time, some even fall in love. He understood quite well. Of course, we're still just friends, which is fine with me. Just so long as we remain friends, then I'm happy. You know, you should never be scared or feel regret. It's this stuff that we learn from. Whether he laughs about it, shrugs it off, or just never speaks to you. My guess is that he will continue talking to you of course. But if he doesn't like you the same way you like him...you should at least still remain friends. Just don't worry to much about it; that's life for you. And you've got a lot of it ahead as well! |
"Thank you everyone.. It is a bit sad.. it has been a few days since I sent that letter and still nothing, but he has been signing on and answering other people's comments and messages. I know because I asked a mutual friend of ours to contact him. I'm not sure if he is too shocked to answer or just wants to basically ignore everything about me now. But really, this suspense is killing me. I don't want to seem too needy by contacting him again, and end up pushing him away... but if he really doesn't feel the same way, he should be able to tell me, even if he does find it hard, because I will never know and I won't be able to move on."
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I, personally, would send a quick note, just asking for a response. Sort of a, "I'm sorry if I freaked you out or something, and I don't want to bother you about it, but I'd really like to know what you thought about what I said." You know? I wouldn't be able to take it.
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"I suppose you are right, that does make a lot more sense. He probably forgot about it, thinking he replied or something and that I just haven't yet in return. Who knows what goes on in the male mind. I sure as hell don't. I really wish I did, it would make things so much easier for me. Anyway, I'll give what you said a try. Right now, for some reason, my space is just kind of taking forever and a day to load so I am going to try later today and see if I can send him some kind of message. I feel loads better than before, but still.. he should have replied on his own by now, I feel like I am a fish hanging on a fishing line and dangling in the air." ... "Weird thought, but it kind of made me funny until I realized it was true." Sigh. "Hmm.. Alright, this is really killing me, I'll go check out My space again."
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