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In Love For No Reason
I thought I might post this here after making a comment in someone else's thread.
When I was in the eleventh grade I fell in love with someone who was the same gender as me. They liked me back and we dated for a while. I was never happier in my entire life. Just standing next to them I though I would die of joy. A little while later I had to move and even though I was willing to try and maintain a long distance relationship they did not want to. We stayed friends, and the summer after I even paid for them to fly down and visit me. We flirted and had a great time, but after they went home we drifted apart. The problem is I still feel as strongly about this person as I did on out first date, and that was five years ago. A part of me feels very lonely, but another part of me does not want to love anyone else. I have turned down the few people who have asked me out since because I cannot think of a single other person that I would want to be with in the entire world. It is clear to me that they are over me, they have been with at least two other people that I know of since me, but should I try and tell this person how I feel? Am I being too passive about my feelings, or should I try to make myself move on? |
I'd say, give another person a chance. Even though I personally don't believe in love, I think you might find it in someone else if you just bother to look
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Love doesn't need reasons.
You should tell them how you feel and get it over with. You're probably still having feelings because you guys broke up due to distance problems, not because you guys stopped loving each other. |
I really can only say.. tell the person how you feel.. and if they tell you they don't feel the same move on...
I think you'll find once you're with someone else you'll see it was just something unfinished.. considering you drifted it means that there was no real.. defined term.. or basis that say were never going to be again.. you know.. so let them know and see what happens... |
I know it's extremely hard to move on sometimes. I am still completely infatuated with someone I had become best friends with in ninth grade. It hurts to see them sometimes but I've noticed I've started to get over them.
I would say just try sticking your foot in the pool again and I'm sure you'll meet someone. Just remember it will take a while. I agree with ljosberinn on sharing your feelings with this person. It was a distance problem and if they don't like/love you back then its time to move on. I hope the situation resolves and if you need anyone to talk to send me a message. |
It wouldn't hurt to tell the person how you feel.
Yes there is the possibility of this person not wanting to be with you, but at least it would give you the chance to actually tell this person. I think if you don't, you'll regret it and always wonder if there might of been another chance. |
Yes, I think you should talk to the person and tell him/her how you feel. The worst that can happen is the person doesn't feel the same and turns you down. It will help you move on if that happens and you are clearly having a problem with that. Talk to the person, it can only do you good either way. Good Luck.
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give them the chance. don't just assume they don't want to be with you. tell them how you feel. even if they don't feel the same way, you'll at least know for sure. if they don't then I would give someone else a chance. you never know until you try.
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You know, either way woudl work out. I'm pretty sure that you're the only one who knows your own true feelings. And there's nobody who can do anything about that. <3
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My question is how long has it been since the two of you broke up?
There is a point where it is no longer worth your time and you should try to move on. You can make your feelings known if you think it will help, but I really think you should just try to let go. I doubt it will do you any good to spill your guts to them; it sounds like they've moved way on. I guess it couldn't really hurt, though. O____o'' At least then you would know that there really is no chance and you can move on properly. -Shrug- |
If I fell in love with someone and they didn't love me back...I'm so clingy that one of us wouldn't make it out alive. >.>
Good thing I don't love anyone. XD |
tell the person you really like how you really feel about them...after that, who knows if they refuse your feelings i think you can move on and and find another person who will love you back!!! i have a hard time believing in soul mates i believe if the person is genuinely in love with youand you truly love them back then all things will be ok!!!
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