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It is natural for us humans to want people around us to perceive us in a positive way. I think it is alright to not get on the bad side of somebody to be safe so long as you're not losing yourself (meaning you're feeling uncomfortable) because of it.
As for the case you presented, you have kept a stereotype of the person. He had gone through a lot in his life and have maybe gained some lessons which might have caused him to change. His past self is still marked in your mind so you think sooner or later he'll hate you again. It's okay to not get on his bad side but don't be a pleaser. If a time came that he approached you, smile back and be yourself. Show him that you have also changed and he can't treat you the way he treated you before. |
I don't really care if someone hates me. I'm not sensitive to what people think or say about me at all. I agree with rumors people spread about me a lot of the times, even if they're not true. I just don't care. I also know how to fight so I'm not afraid of people hitting me or whatever so that doesn't worry me.
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This has happened to me many times. I had a friend in grade school who I got in a fight with. Looking back, I don't even remember what the fight was about. I imagine it was something stupid. But, at the end of the year, we became friends again somehow. And then, I moved to a different school. I still wonder if she got mad at me because I left. DX Another situation happened to me not too long ago. I fought with a friend online. She said something that was apparently a song title (it sounded like she was trying to insult me, though.) and I got mad at her. Then, it broke out into a big fight. We did make up in the end. She ended up moving that year to a different school, but we still kept in touch. However, I haven't been on myspace (which I absolutely despise) or AIM, so I have a feeling she hates me now. >.< |
There is one person that I don't want to be on the bad side of... But I will regardless...
It's my ex boyfriend, he was trouble the first time I met him, but I was so naive to actually date him later on because he pretended to be nice. Well when he dumped me so rudely I later found out that he was telling this other girl whom he planned on dating, rumors about me! Told her that I did this and that to him and a WHOLE bunch of other BULL SHIT. I heard all this from the girl he told herself! She just so happened to be sitting at the lunch table with the rest of us and well now we're kinda friends. I still don't know her that much yet. Anyways my ex is a really strange guy. He told me it wouldn't bother him if he killed someone (he was being serious), and he's been in a lot of trouble with the law before. He's just the sorta guy that you either want to avoid any confrontation with or try to be his friend the best way you know how. He's very intimidating to look at and well I just hope one day he won't try to come find me and hurt me. He even told the girl to beat my ass! When I didn't even do anything to warrant that. I had nightmares about him trying to kill me or do bad things to me for weeks! Anyways he's the only person that really comes to my mind when I think about who I don't want to be on the bad side of. xD |
I know that exact feeling.
I don't care if someone likes me or not, I just don't want to be on *anyone's* bad side. I don't like the feeling that I've done something to warrant someone hating me. I like to think I'm quite easygoing and likable... I'm often the peacekeeper whenever my friends argue. Currently, there has been problems in our house (I'm at university). One of my housemates continuously did things to irritate the others in the house. Whether she was doing them deliberately or not I don't know but it got to the stage where the household had a huge argument. Because I was the only one that was still speaking to her, it was left to me to negotiate. I relayed the rest of the households' feelings and I thought everything was sorted. But the girl just ignored it and carried on with what she had been doing before. So it escalated again and it ended up with the landlord being called and him telling the girl to sort herself out or be evicted. That of course didn't sit well with her. She started throwing her toys out the pram and calling the rest of the house childish. Once again, I was left the only one that would actually speak to her. In the end she moved out. The point in that whole load of ramble was that I remained civil to her, even though she's impossible to deal with because I didn't want the hassle or stress of being on her bad side. |
I really hate when people dislike me.
That's why I never really talk to a lot of people. Though sometimes people take that as me being stuck up. And dislike me anyhow. ;__; It's a lose-lose situation with me. </3 |
In high school, I tried to stay on the good side of all the teachers and students who were known to be mean. xD I don't like being hated. |
I normally don't worry too much about that sort of thing. I'm a very like-able person and I get along with almost anyone I have to spend my daily life with, and that's all that really matters to me. I couldn't care less if someone I didn't know hated me. If we don't know each other, then their must be a stupid reason behind it. Like this one girl I knew in high school. She hated everyone.
One time my friend was talking with her friend about how she was working with me in our drama class when that one girl turned to her and asked, "Are you talking about *insert my full name here*?" When my friend nodded, the girl rolled her eyes with a scoff saying, "God, I can't stand her. She is such a bitch." The only time I ever talked to her that entire year was to complement her on her shirt. It said Penguin! At the Disco and there was a penguin under a disco ball. I found the shirt cute. How she thought I was a bitch because of that, I'll never be sure of xD |
There is this person I've known for 7 years. Although we are too keen for each other (personality clash), I wouldn't want want them to be mean to me. This person has been to mean to me before and I didn't know how to get them off of my back. I even asked if I did....no answer. However, this person is 18 and I'm about 21 so I think age has something to do with it.
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i have something similar their is this boy in my class named gerald. he is such a pest. he usually always bother my friends and me, especially when we have bad days. i think he totally hates me. i don't think he is the boy of my dreams but i don't want him to hate me. in fact i don't want anyone to hate me :!: i decided that i will just leave him be. |
Well if there is a bad kid in school and you dont want to get beat up....you should get on there good side. xD.
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Hey they can be your bodyguards if anyone messes with you! That's genious!
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That's pretty much how I was with most of my classmates. It's ok if they disliked me and ignored me but I'd rather not be hated. It just makes everything so much easier.
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Oh yeah, one of teachers. Whenever he got mad he would yell at the whole class and I don't like being yelled at.
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I guess that's kindof like what I have with my mother in law. I don't care if she likes me or not. I just don't want her to hate me. I have to put up with it for as long as she lives.
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Does your Mother In Law live with you or near you?
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I've had that going on before. I knew a few people I'd prefer to be nice to me and myself nice in response, but alas, never happen.. I do hope your situation ends well though, and he does continue being nice, and won't be rude.
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i have this weird thing where i hate people, but i get emotional when they hate me. O_o
i just don't like the thought of people hating me. D: i want people to like me, or not even really think about me. |
I don't really care if I'm on people's bad side. I don't usually bother anyone in a bad way in the first place, so whatever.
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My boyfriend's friends.
He lives far away from me, so I don't know them. So it doesn't really matter to me if they think I'm just the bees knees or not. But I don't want them to dislike me. But they all do. See, my boyfriend has bipolar disorder. And it started manifesting itself in a big way shortly after he started to actually let his friends know that he was dating me. So they all think that it's my fault that he's depressed a lot. D: And it's not. D: Sure, occasionally we'll get into a fight and that will make him depressed. Yes, it is my fault that he's depressed SOMEtimes. But he gets depressed multiple times a day. Chances are, most of the time NONE of those are my fault. I tried to add one of his friends on facebook once. I wanted to try to be friends with her so I wouldn't feel so insecure about him having chick friends, y'know? Like, if I knew she was a nice person I wouldn't constantly be like "THAT BITCH IS TRYING TO STEAL YOU FROM ME RARRRRGH!" But she never accepted me, and has apparently expressed her dislike for me. So has another friend of his. But I think that friend is a bitch, so it doesn't bother me AS much. But it still bothers me. D: I have a REASON for thinking one of his friends is a bitch. THEY HAVE NO REASON TO DISLIKE ME! My boyfriend says that he only says positive things about me. But they're always trying to fix him up with some girl, or saying he shouldn't be in a relationship, or thinking everything is my fault. And that really really bothers me. :( |
I think everyone has that feeling of rejection if people don't like them. It's like, "what I have done?" and such. I don't know if anyone hates me, I mean like no one ever came up to and told me that they hate me.
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You should tell his friend's to fuck off...it's none of their business...seriously!?! wtf is with people like mendling and trying to ruin people's relationships and shit today.
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I would if I lived near him and his friends. One of his friends (We'll refer to her and Friend C just for sanity) is constantly saying like "Oh, you should date so and so!" and my boyfriend will point out that he's dating me. And has been for almost TWO YEARS. And so Friend C will be like "Oh okay." and the next day, she does it AGAIN. "Oh, you should date whatshername!" And Friend B has absolutely NO PLACE to say that I'm causing his depression. A few months ago, she was systematically being a total bitch to him. One day she'd be nice and talk to him, and stuff. The next day she'd ignore him, roll her eyes at him, blow him off, etc. That really depressed him, since he considered her his best friend at school at the time. And now she's saying that I cause his depression? Bullshit. >.< [/rant] |
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