Daily Racism
 

Alrighty, just to be very clear, I'm not racist. e_e



I was at an event for my school in which some parents were helping. This was for my highschool ((is in running start, thus still has clubs and events at highschool while going to college)) and the entire club was holding a sporting event to raise money.

I, along with a parent who I didn't know, were selling tickets at the door. She seemed like a nice woman, we talked a bit, and she even bought me a sprite. She was middle aged, only a bit younger then my own mother.

Well we had someone come in, one of the players, with his son and wife. The players were allowed in free, but they're families needed to be paid for. We directed him to the registration or players and mentioned he had to pay for his ticket. Whether he heard this or not, I have no idea, but he simply walked on with his family to the player registration. He and his family were mexican.

The woman I was working with got this look on her face and then said something that really bothered me. "I guess this is where my prejudice shows, but if they were white, they would have paid."

Now I didn't say anything in response. First, because I had to wirk with her for several more hours and I didn't want to have a huge conflict, second because after that event I'd never see her again, and third, becuase there's nothing I can do to change the views of someone like that. If the problem persisted I would have asked the person in charge to assign me to something that would keep me away from the woman, but as the event went on there weren't any further problems.

This scenario keeps replaying in my head or several reasons.

I liked the woman. She was nice, she bought me a drink, and she was pleasant to talk to until she said that. Maybe it's thanks to media, but when I invision a racist I get a mental picture of a bald white guy wearing a dirty white tanktop. It was sort of strange to me that this motherly woman could have such views. Although I know I shouldn't be so surprised.

Could this effect be reversed or good effects? Example, say instead of being racist she had been gay, and I had beenhomophobic (which I'm not). Could knowing and liking someone then finding out they're gay convince homophobes to believe otherwise?

Of course, I wasn't swayed to be are accept racists just because she was otherwise a nice lady.


Discuss:

Well, everything above. o.o;

Racists, how to deal with them, ect.



And just a note, I don't want to be attacked for not doing anything about it. I fully support equal rights and all, but when someone is like that there's not a dman thing that can be said to change thier mind. If you would have handled it differently, say so, but please don't give me the 'you should have' speech or judge me negatively because of my lack of reaction, that's just stupid.

I think you felt that because you really have a feeling against racists. I mean she's a nice woman but her views put you off. I know I'll probably do the same thing. Probably to keep at peace with her so I can focus on my work properly. But then the fact that it hasn't left your mind means that it really bothered you neh?
I don't really understand racism. Only because it doesn't exist in our country. I think it stems out from the superiority complex whites have. They always think they are a superior race from others entitled to superior benefits with superior brains and skills. But as much as there are dumb people in any other race, there are a lot of dumb people in whites. Whites will argue with "substantial" evidence saying that whites score more in exams but the exams are made or conducted by whites to start with.
I don't have anything against all whites. I just don't like the way they act I guess. But I guess it's pretty natural in a country where migration is taking over the country. Migrants like mexicans are sharing their services which can lead them to hate them.

I don't care if your white, black, or purple. If you need to pay for something you bet your sweet ass you better pay for it.

I would of probably kindly said "Hey you admit your a racist which is right up there with terrorism. Good for you. Thats super. Get help."

Then I would of ran after the people who didn't pay and tell them they have to pay.

That stuff really bugs me, too, and unfortunately, my mother is somewhat racist. This is extra difficult for me because my boyfriend is 3/4 Mexican, and does not fully accept my being with him.
The fact is, racism is ignorance, and it is a cause of many of our problems in the world. I think it's somewhat common for older generations of white people to be racist. I don't think being prejudice necessarily means that a person is mean, just that they lack some knowledge and understanding, and even depth.

Well... That's woman is weird... I mean hell maybe that kid didn't know his family had to pay, if the woman wasn't a dumbshit she would have said "Yoo hoo! HELLO! You need to pay here please!<3" But... Runningstart? Would that mean you are in WA state? If that's the case then yeah... There are a LOT of weirdass cracker ladies in WA state...

Welcome to my world, people won't even get helped by job agencies if they have a beard and look like a forgeiner, beards and tan skin are branded terrorists in the netherlands.

Really? I've noticed a lot of weird people, but the area I live in is in general very accepting. Easern Washington is pretty crazy though. XD Like a little peice of the south sent north.

I really hate to stir the pot here, but joih, you are racist against white people. You have stereotyped all white people as having a "superiority complex" and that all white people think they are the "superior race". Well let me tell you something: I am white and the smartest person I ever met was a black lady. Race has nothing to do with intelligence or skills. Don't let the bigoted views of a few loud individuals cloud your judgment.

Well I live in vancouver and sometimes you get the red necks from up in yacolt and even battleground and they can be real assholes... And for some reason they always think I'm asian (I'm Irish argentinian...)

Well, like the Avenue Q song says:
And find that this is true. I've grown up in California my whole life, and everyone here makes judgments based on race. I don't know if everyone where you live do too, but here it's like an everyday thing. It's not a nice thing to say, I'll admit. I'm a little bit racist too. I'm mostly a racist driver though. But it doesn't mean that I wanna run over every Chinese person. XD

But, that woman was out of line when she said that to you. I mean, people easily judge you based on your actions and what you say, not only on race. She made herself look quite arrogant and narrow minded. If she said it in a jokingly sort of way, it would have been different, but I'm going to assume that she was dead serious.

Oh well, you have to dismiss comments like that. If anyone says anything racist to me, then i couldn't care less. It's only offensive if you make it that way.
Although, did you go to the family and tell them they had to pay? Because if you didn't, seems like you were biased towards them... Like, you didn't tell them because they were Mexican. i'm all for equal rights, but because your different doesn't mean you get special treatment.

Our advisor, the woman in charge, said not to worry about it if people didn't apy, we were workign off the honor system anyway and a lot of the people coming in andout were voulenters and such. There was a big sign that said addmissions and had pricing, and we raised enough money, so it worked out alright anyway.

It's not biased because I would have done the same no mattter the race, religion, sexual oriantation, or gender. e_e

Ugh, it really bothers me when people say things like that. And the problem is, I can't just not say anything. Even when I know it's not going to change their attitude, even if it's just a terrible joke, even when they're saying racist things about a race who no one around is...I just tend to get so mad that I can't stay quiet.

It seems like most of the people who I've met that are racist will talk to people from the race they hate and get along just fine. It's really weird. It's like "I hate ______s!" "Well what about Bob, he's a ________." They just seem to consider the people they talk to and get along with exceptions rather than a norm.

I went to visit my uncle for spring break a few years ago and had a terrible time because of his racism. He is one of those people who thinks making people angry is fun, so he was doing it even more just to get a rise out of me...and sadly, it was working. I mean he goes into a Chinese restraunt and then starts making fun of the workers who are Chinese. Who the crap did he expect to see?! He can go in there and eat these people's food and put himself in a situation where he'll be around them...and then make fun of them. I had to go wait in the car, it was so disgusting it made me want to throw up. I need to stop talking about this now though...it's just making me mad.

Hmmm...this is hard, especially so because it is a touchy topic. Generally when someone has a certain belief about something(I'm referring to one being racist)you can't change their minds. Once in a great while someone will be flexible and mature enough to change, but people are usually racist BECAUSE they refuse to change.
I don't know what you could have said though. Maybe you could have said something to her, something mild like, "Not necessarily."

I think you handled it well enough. Like you said, you're not likely to see her again.
And no, you shouldn't accept something you're not okay with simply because you like a person who is that way.

First of all, everyone is racist to some degree. Secondly, you shouldn't feel the way you do just because of one racial comment. If you think about it, discriminating against her over one comment is the same as her discriminating over color. :roll:

Everyone has a dark side you know and some, like her, aren't afraid to show it. To pretend/expect that people don't is just being naive.

Racist

It really part of our own culture and human mentality. We as humans strive in groups and gain our identity. We relate to each other mainly due to our similarities.

Therefore after many years of existence we come to accept similar culture of people and reject other culture of people which are not similar to us.

However due to gobalisation and media and the internet, more and more people should be able to connect with different cultures of people with the similarities like

"We both play the same game" , "We watch the same show" , "We studied together "

Its amazing but i do believe that only a tiny similarity is needed to help us as humans to accept other races/cultures.

Though some parents still do enforce that their child has to marry someone of his/her race, but i am sure its changing