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How to tell when the right moment is...
Yeah. Im having a whole lot of issue's right now. I would normally go to Gaia for this stuff but I think I should go here since people here are more mature. >___>
Anyway...So I like this guy. Surprised? For me it is. But I already dated him and he's already dating someone else. [[Even though he should dump her!]] But no matter how many times I give him hints that I still like him [[Its a mixture of lust, like and a bit of love.]] but he just seems to think Im just still a friend. I'v told him once that I still liked him but then he went all F-bomb on me, so that made me go a little iffy about that wanting him back thing, but now. Im not sure. I want to tell him, but I dont know when the right moment is or if I should. And another note, he joined the Marines and it made me just die a little on the inside...<//3 So all in all, Should I tell him that I still love/lust/like him? And when is the right moment? I feel like my heart is going to stop from all the pressure and stuff. D: |
If you really feel something for him - tell him before he leaves - it might be your last chance. But then it depends on how much you love him if you are willing to throw that at him before he leaves and while he is dating someone else.
Sit him down and talk to him. maybe he is thinking the same thing and is just scared you two will break up again. Tell him you're willing to try if he is. Good luck! |
I don't think there is a "right" moment for it.. besides he has a girlfriend now.
but if you want to tell him, just tell him, guys are bad at taking hints x) |
That makes a lot of sense. I was going to do that but I moved away from him so I will only see him once more -in person. We talk online- next week...Should I tell him then?
Sagitar - That is true... |
THe way I look at things....'you only live once' If you like this guy and you think that he could potentially be 'the one' then i would say go for it! You said that he joined the marines...he's going to be busy, out of the state and probably out of the nation doing things. So even if things don't work out you run the rish of not really seeing him again or very much.
The worst thing that could happen is that he says he is not interested in you, and then you move on. There are MANY men out there and he may or may not be the one for you. |
I don't think there is a right moment at all if you are trying to break up him and his girlfriend.
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Just because you think that he should break up with his girlfriend, doesn't mean that he thinks the same way.
Why do you want him to break up with her? Because you genuinely believe that she's no good for him? Or just because you like him? How do you know he even likes you in that way any more? As you said, you told him your feelings, and "he went all F-bomb", plus he's just joined the Marines. I don't mean to seem harsh, but it really doesn't sound like he's wanting to have a relationship with you. Try to look at his point of view; from what you've said on here, you're his indecisive ex, who's trying to get between him and his girlfriend, and he just isn't interested. If I were you, I wouldn't try to pick a "right time" to tell him your feelings. It seems like he already knows, and it'll just be an awkward, embarrassing moment for all involved. |
many girls are in your situation...and many of them do the same mistake... not to tell the one they love what their feelings are...
you should tell him immediately... don't wait for a perfect moment because you will never know when that moment is... maybe he loves this girl? i don't know... but now it's not about her... it's about your feeling and how you heart feels like... i know it's not that easy to know that the one you love has no idea about how much you love/like him... it's hard to tell him your feelings,as well... but don't be shy... just tell him and that's it... and don't be afraid of the response... no matter what this would sound...just be yourself.. and do your best |
Snarry: You could be right. But I have this horriable thing of moving on...But if I have to, I will if he just doesnt seem interested....
Caroline: Thats true. But Im not trying too. My friend [[Another one of his Ex's]] is already doing that cause she wants him too and will do anything to get him back. ._. But thats a different story.... Cherish: Well see, he's 18. His girlfriend is 14. And if he gets on her bad side, he could face maximum punishment. [[Death pentatly]] Cause it was an underage relationship and what not. And she's already a drunken teenager. And she doesnt even love him. [[She likes someone else.]] She also puts him down, saying he's worthless and that he has no life, etc. So basically she is no good for him, literally. [[Cause I know for a fact that he doesnt like those kind of people.]] Darkmissy: He probably just lusts her because she's pretty. [[They've neer met each other in real life. One of those online relationships.]] I will end up telling him but I just need support and none of my friends are actually helping me. [[There saying that he's horriable and all that...Which he is not.]] |
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