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Help with the boyfriend?
Alright where do i start?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year (a year may 7th) and i wound that when he's not working theres nothing for us to do.When we first started to go out we use to just take walks and talk and we were happy, then the summer came and we watched movies. Then camewinter. We stayed in and watched movies because he really dosent liek skiiing and all that. For teh past few day's i've found my self thinking that he finds me boring. He's been working alot to pay for college, and when he's off (or or two days a week) we've been spending it just watching movies. Its fine watching movies but when thats all you've been doing for the past few months it gets boring. I dont want to break up with him. We both told each other that we love eachother. And we mean it. I just want some things that we can do to get moving you know. Get out and do somthing instead of just rotting on teh couch. Is that so bad? The thing is everything i suggest he says he dosent feel like doing. He's bveen wearing himself out of work, wokring from 2:30-11/12 when he has school teh nect day and he has to get up at 5. He's missing luch and tells me that he'll but somthing at work (he works at Tim Hortans BTW for thoes canadians out there) and he does. Its just that i find he's always in a better mood when he eats. Food makes him hyper. So if you guys could maybe list some things for us do it would be loved! Some things about him. He gets bored easily He LOVES DnD he likes things he has no controll over.(weird i know) Please no comments like "Why dont you guys just make out/Have sex" We make out okay. its toned down alot because that was all we were doing at the beggining and we both agreed that thats not the way we wont to go with this realation ship, and sex if after mariage. |
Try getting into the same things he's into, like DnD. Ask him to teach you how to play, that in itself could take a day from what I've heard about the game.
Try cooking dinner for him on nights he doesn't work. Maybe bring him dinner on his lunch break at work. Be spontaneous. Do something random, like plan a picnic and tell him he has to come but don't tell him what you're doing. |
Well here are the things i suggest but you don't have to take advice from an 11 year old who ish almost 12 >.> <.<
1. Take him out to dinner 2. Go shopping 3. go do something athletic 4. Let him suggest some things to do 5. Have an open convo and like try and have some fun |
Take it from someone who'se a BIT older (i'm 20). THe best thing for a relationship is to spice things up. Now, i don't know how old you are so i don't know if you can drive, but here are a few suggestions
- Go Bowling - Go out to dinner, and just take a walk afterword - Work out together (Surprisngly, this will give him MORE energy, not make him more tired) - Plan a romantic picnic / dinner - Just be fun / random |
Im 17 and he's 18 just to let fokes know. He has his drivers liciens and i dont >D
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Maybe you could go out for food and movie instead of staying in. I also second the idea of trying to cook him something nice one night. As you said, food makes him active, so working that into the picture might be a good idea.
Suggest small walks around the neighborhood, or go to a local park and just be silly. You're never too old for the swings! Just think of silly and fun things to do that maybe don't require a lot of effort to get to. |
Well i too am coming into my 1 yr with my boyfriend
May 16th ^_^ And we do all kinds of things together. So here are some suggestions based on the things we do: Go Bowling: usually with a group of friends makes it way more fun and turns the competition up. XD Play Pool: yup thats right pool.its actually very fun and i you don't know how to play and maybe he does it can be cute becuase it would give him an excuse to touch you XD but not in a bad way like ithi his arms around you and stuff believe me its a nice feeling XD[thats how me and my boyfriend met he taught me how to play when he invited me to go] Go to the Lake: okay this is so fun. Going to the lake is so fun, my bf had a boat so that was fun but if you don't have one you can always rent one.and have a BBQ thats nice. Go Camping: okay i know weird.but fun.my bf does a lot of camping with his family and so we are setting up a weekend for me and him and bunch of our friends to go camping too. Plan Trips: Im not talking going to Disneyland [unless you live like next door to it] but i mean make trips to go to certain parts of your town.I live in California so we are actually going to San Fransisco this weekend. and we go downtown, and we even made a few trips to illegal drift race grounds XD Go to Events: like for instance we are going to the Cherry Blossom Festival this year in San Francisco's Japan Town, yes it may be with friends,but we are splitting off later by ourselves. So plan events to go to. Like we a re also in the making of planning a trip to the beach dont cost nothing! See a Movie: i know you like we already do that, but no actually go see a movie in theaters its more fun plus it gets you out and you see the latest movie. Play Video games: yes these are fun,[unless your like me and don't like losing.]but they are fun none the less. Play Board games: Woot old school baby!we actually just played monopoly the other night! and i lost cuz i gave up becuase he took the fun out when he bought nothing but hotels >=( Cook him food:yup i love baking goods for my bf and he loves eating them all up,he loves food. And if you know food is a good to him use it to your advantage. And dont let his whole he is tired all the time schedule bother you,my bf goes to school and works as well and is in the middle of fixing his car. but dont be oblivious to the fact that he is tired either,just dont it takeover setting up plans is the best thing to plan them in advance so he can get time off or has that little bit of break before it takes place. oka wellthat all i got.hope it helps you. |
well...me and my boyfriend don't really do that much either but this is what we do:
1. Tennis- yep we are both tennis freaks and we play against each other a lot 2. Watch anime- there is a lot of different types of animes out there oyu know 3. Go malling- we both go shopping and then eat at the food court. we both think spending time together is important. 4. Playing video games- we both connect our PSPs and we usually end up playing a Naruto game 5. Walk through the park- its really fun and we talk a lot 6. Swimming- its fun and feels awesome on a hot day 7. Listening to music- we both like screamo and rock its awesome 8. Going on group dates- when you have more people around its always more fun [well...usually] i hope that i was helpful to you good luck with your boyfriend! :3 |
If you've only been together for a year, and you're bored already, you might want to take another look at your relationship.
If you have nothing in common (and if it's just movies, then that's practically nothing), then maybe it just isn't meant to be. I've been in a relationship for nearly five years (I'm 26), and my partner and I are never bored with each other. We don't run out of things to say, we enjoy the same types of music, games, movies, books, and other activities. Here are some of the things we do together, if you're interested in more suggestions: - Read books aloud. We like the same books, and rather than one of us read a book and suggest it to the other, we read together. We take turns reading chapters out loud in bed at night, and that way we get to listen to each other's voices as well as be entertained by the book. It's a lot of fun. - Play video games together. We both love games! She's more into RPGs, and I'm a bit more into action gaming, so we can take turns playing them both together. I also love RPGs, and I've gotten her into action-adventure style games like Castlevania and Tomb Raider. We take turns every few minutes. One thing that's a LOT of fun to do as a couple is play horror games, something more thick in plot than Resident Evil--for example, Fatal Frame. Then we can cling to each other while we play! - Go on a date. Sometimes couples can fall into a rut, especially if they live together. They might find themselves doing the same thing day in and day out, so you should set aside special time each day, or at least once a week, for you to do something different together. You could go out dancing, rent a movie, go to a theater, go mini-golfing, or go out to dinner, or a combination of things. Just try to keep it exciting and new each time. My girlfriend and I really like to browse a book shop and then go see a movie, and sometimes we'll go to an arcade and play mini-golf on the same date, and we always have a lot of fun. |
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